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I Think I Hate My Baby...confused And Hurting.

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I'm feeling really bad about this whole baby thing. This past week, i've felt a horrible anger towards my baby and myself. Every time I feel the baby move, I wish that it wasn't there and that she had never come into my life. Am I a terrible person for this? What's wrong with me? I'm falling into si again which is something i've been clean from for almost 2 years now. What's going on? How can I make this stop?
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First Helper AriellaGrimm
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replied November 29th, 2005
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Well with my first son I hated it but I think u might be going through ppd post depression it happens when u have ur child u might want to see a doctor about that I saw in a jet mag not to scare or anything a lady killed herself cause she was so unhappen I hope urs go away I feel bad for u. But I think when u see those little toes and hands ur heart will just melt into butter
i will pray for u good luck and good bless and if it's that bad there are alot of nice ladies here to help kk
god bless you and ur little one
chane
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replied November 30th, 2005
Just pray to god that cps doesnt read this
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replied May 1st, 2011
Feelings of hate and anger at something that is changing your life so drastically is EXPECTED, even from child protective services. It is when the feelings persist beyond the birth of the child that people begin to worry.
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replied November 30th, 2005
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Ariella, there are a lot of girls out there who are feeling the same way as you do. Are you still putting your baby up for adoption? (i remember your posts a while ago). You are not a terrible person, you have my respect from the obstacles you've been through. Anytime you are feeling down, you can always call planned parenthood's hotline since they provide counselling too.


shugar wrote:
just pray to god that cps doesnt read this
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You really have no right to pass judgement on her. Only one person can do that, and it is not you. You obviously don't know what she has been through. So please read into things more before posting rude and insensitive comments.
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replied November 30th, 2005
I'd say go see a doctor before it gets any worse.
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replied November 30th, 2005
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Have you considered giving it up for adoption? There are programs in which you can meet with the family face-to-face and spend enough time with them to make a decision. Act fast though. What I hate to see is children who are born to parents that don't love them (i'm not judging you, believe me). Consider adoption, I beg you. It's too late and too cruel to have an abortion, and giving it up for adoption will help a couple who wants a child. Please please take this into consideration.
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replied December 2nd, 2005
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Shugar do you have to turn every post you come one to in to a full faced !**@! war?

You have no idea what this girl is going though, you have not followed her story and what she went though.

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sweetie, you are not a bad person, infact, far from it. You are probally one of the nicest kids on here. You have been through so much, hiding her and now coming clean, now people know that you are pregnant and may be making things a little uncomfertable. Ignore them.

I think you should talk to your youth pastors wife, she helped you out so much before maybe she can again.

And like the others have said, once shes in your arms, little fingers and toes loving you unconditionally I am sure you will feel diffrently about her. She has done nothing wrong other than be and she will love you no matter what.

Its ok to feel the way you do, but like others have said, you shoudl talk to someone abotu how you feel.
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replied December 15th, 2005
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I am about 5 months pregnant, and I sometimes get the feeling that I really don't want the baby that is inside of me. Sometimes I cry because I don't think I can do it. And I feel like a horrible person when that happens. But I know that i'm not and I will be a great mother. I am just really nervous and stressed out.
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replied December 15th, 2005
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Ariella dont fret\

its actually normal to fee like that and not just teens but adults too, when my mom was prego for mikey #6 I remeber hearing her cry because she didnt want it and then once she had mikey she couldnt let go of him. Hormones has a factor in this as well as stress it doesnt mean ur depressed, unlike most new parents I didnt like my daughter the I took care of her but I felt no bond between us but hubby and her had a goood bond so she got lover from him the first few weeks.

It wasnt depression, I had a nurse doing home visits and I told her I dont understand why I dont have that special bond with my daughter she said it takes time not everyone has that special thing at first.............So before anyone tells you ur wrong or whatever they have no clue what their talking about cause I have a brochure here that says its normal.......

Take care
jess
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replied December 15th, 2005
I really don't know your whole story but I do know how you feel when I was preg. I really thought my life was over I wanted to die my b/f kicked me out when he found out I was preg. It just wasn't going my way then one night my car broke down thats all I needed more money worries a complete stranger happened by and called a tow truck for me he even paid the $50 dollar towing fee and fixed my car we've now been together over a year my little one is ten months old and although is not his treats him like he is. Things don't always appear to be good in the beginning but I love my little one and wouldn't trade him for all the riches in the world hope it all comes together for you if you want to talk email me.
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replied April 29th, 2011
I think I've changed my mind...
i'm 19weeks pregnant with my first baby. (i'm 19yrs old) i think i've changed my mind baout giving my baby up for adoption. my boyfriend of 7yrs and I both want to keep the baby the nwe settled on giving up our baby would be best for our baby.... but i think i've changed my mind. i think that he might have too (but neither of us will say anything).
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replied April 30th, 2012
I hate my baby too. I just want to sleep and forget about it. I'm not ready and it was unexpected. I only found out that I was pregnant last week and I can't stop crying since then. I'm already 6 months pregnant so I can't do anything about it. My boyfriend and I are fighting because of how I feel about the baby. I hate her!!!!!!
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