I don't like the idea of cum in my mouth either but when you give oral to your husband he should be able to tell you when he is about to cum and you can just turn your head or finish with your hand. Also I think that if he says he is masturbating out of boredom, he probably is. If you guys have a good sex life I don't see why he would lie about that. I wouldn't stress about that if I were you. Sometimes guys do it to relax. (that is what I have been told anyways) I think as long as it doesn't interfere with your sex life, then it isn't a problem.

Im sorry but I can not relate to what you are feeling. My boyfriend (we are not even married) masturbates almost everynight while watching pornographic movies along with looking at magezines. (he has both going simultaneously) I beg him for sex or at least just to give him oral & he turns me down so much more than he agree. I beg to give oral??!! I must be crazy. He prefers 2 dimensions I guess. I could take the porn, and the masturbation if only we had a healthy sex life.

So no: it is not weird for a man to masturbate, especially if he is into sex enough to engage in 2 hours worth of foreplay. Some of us are lucky if we get two minutes, twice a month. And we are only in our mid & late-20s!!

I completely agree with you emcsq. Maybe I read her post wrong I was taking it as he masturbates, but they have a completely healthy sex life together. As far as what is going on with you, that is another story entirely. Do you think he might have a porn addiction?

he is totally addicted to porn!!!!!! It really sickens me to be honest with you. It bothers me so much I did a twenty minute oral presentation on porn addiction in my psychology class. I got an a. I was totally going to give up & leave him only to find out that the one time we had sex in the month of june impregnated me. Go freakin' figure! So now I am 5 months pregnant, miserable & sexless. ("pregnant women arent attractive") his words. I could deal with being sexless, but I am also lacking emotional support. He is there physically but that is about it. Enough of my violin playing. We have been together for almost 6 years now.....He has only been this way for about 1 1/2 yrs. Yes: he is a bonafide porn addict!! Any advice??

Hey, I am very sorry to hear that. I am also 5 mo pregnant ( with a boy) and my husband and I have been together for 8 yr (married for 4)he does not think my pregnant body is unattractive and for a man to say that to a pregnant woman is disgusting! Pregnant women are sensitive enogh without being told they are unattractive.

I believe the normal family unit is best for a child, mother and father living together and all that. But I do not think you should have to stay with him just because you are pregnant (congrats by the way- due date?)

if you have talked to him and told him how much it bothers you and he doesn't care, then I would take that to mean that he doesn't care about you. When my husband and I first got married, he had a porn collection, nothing he watched all the time but, at the time it made me very uncomfortable. I asked him to get rid of it and because I wasn't doing it to be health forum, it really did bother me, he got rid of it. He has over the years accumulated some more and now it doesn't really bother me because I know it is not a problem for him.

I will tell you that I know someone who is married to someone addicted to porn and she is miserable about it. It has really messed up her self esteem. I don't think you should subject yourself to that. There are men out there who will adore your body when it is carrying their child. That is the kind you should have. If he has some perfect porn star body in his mind as what you have to look like- even after the baby is born your body won't be the same. He needs to love your body because it is yours. I don't mean to tell you to leave, but if he doesn't love you enough to get help for his addiction, there is a serious problem with the way he loves you.

Hi there! Opra had a show on the other day, about porn addiction, I believe it was yesterday, I did not watch that much of it, it really seems like a sad thing, especially being married or being with someone with that problem.
Good luck!

just wanted to add a comment from a males perspective on this. My wife and I have been married 15 years and the first 13 1/2 were miserable for me. I watched porn and satisfied myself often because she didnt want to do things at all hardly. I was lucky to have sex with her once or twice every two to three weeks. I became addicted to porn because of this purely thinking I was not any good and wanted to try and learn new and better things to please her. I have become an expert on pleasing a woman and nothing ever made the sex drive any better for her. Keep in mind we have children that are now (1, (15), and (12) so we are very busy with them. The last 1 1/2 years has been totally different now that she has finally gotten out of her slump and has an unreal sex drive. We have unbeleivable sex very very very often and my porn watching has paid off in the things I have learned. I can even say the things she has learned as well since she also watches them occasionally with or without me. I still watch porn just like before because most men fantasize and cannot ever get enough. Most porn is what all men dream of and dont ever have the chance to have as reality. Its always something new, just like the fetishes people come up with or have. My point is this: Everyone has different sex drives at different times and people have to do what they need to do to get through times that there partner is not at the same level. Sex, porn, etc..., is not a bad thing, but just a release from reality and being in your own little fantasy world for a few ... My wife, after watching porn a few has now found that she loves it and it gives her great ideas that she never thought of too... She has even thought of doing alot of the scenes she has watched including mmf, ffm, mmmf, fffm ffmm, etc.... We have never done any of these but it is still something new to watch and enjoy and fantasize about. To all of you ladies, I wish My wife was like you 15 years ago. Dont let things like this ruin your relationship and let the boys be boys and hopefully things will come around...
Cheers
Tim

It's absolutely normal and healthy for men to masturbate to pornography. It has virtually nothing to do with the women in their lives. Men have a very active and very visual fantasy life. That need for fantasy can't be replaced by sex with the wife or girlfriend for most men. The only reason I would advise you to worry about your husbands porn or masturbation is if your own needs are not being met in the relationship.

If your husband's intimacy is shifting towards porn and away from you, politely ask if he'd mind if you watch with him, or maybe have a few drinks together and rent a porno movie together. If your husband isn't open to including you into his porn habits and it's not clear what needs to be done to return him to the bedroom with you, you may have to confront him more directly about your needs.