Abortion?

First of all that would be the best thing to do . Hell na girl why should ur baby pay for the price when it was ur fault,im just 14 and had se and im not pregnant ur stupid but ell if you cant have it then jut dont and do what you gotta do but when you do have children youll see them and regret cause that baby could of been alive but if yo cant have it like I said abort it

Munie4life, I dont think she asked you whether or not she was stupid, and you have no right to call her that. Abortion is not the easy way out sarahmarie, you can be in an even worse situation then you started with. Take and test and see you if you are, if you are then you should make the desicion that is best for you, and the baby. I do believe that a child should not suffer because of the immaturity of the parent, but if you believe u can handle the guilt and pain of an abortion go right ahead. But before you do look at the procedure and think about your options before you make any hasty decisions.P.L.E.A.S.E keep an open mind

Your body your choice

I just want to ask a question why are you guys having sex at such a young age under 16, im 21 but most or all of my friends was all after their sweet sixteen...........

Sex is supposed to be with someone you actually care about and hopefull the other person feels the same, I got married in my teens and so im just wondering why I never came here to judge im just curious.

Hey munie if you dont want get pregnant they why are you having sex???

Do you live on your own?
Do you have a job?
Do you have healthcare?
Do you have patience and maturity to handle a child?

There are so many questions to ask if you are ready for sex because nothing is guranteed 100% that you wont have a child if your sexually active.......I got pregnant off the pill and not once did I regret it, it was kinda soon since my daughter was 8 mths when I concieved this one but ill have to live with it and love both my children........


Sarah you should talk to your mom, cause if you do end up wanting this child or get attached she maybe your best line of support and if you end up having an abortion she maybe just as supporting on that issue as well.
Im 21 and my mom got ticked when she found out I was prego with #2 and didnt talk to me for a week but she called me back up and apologized because she should have been more understanding when she has had 6. I love my mom and no matter how ticked she is with me she always explains why and explains that I am her child and she will never stop loving me whether I be married or not....

Okay I do not agree with abortion for any reason except the health of the mother! But let me tell you there are other choices than abortion just b/c you don't get a long with your mom and stuff. Trust me I even thought about it when I was prego but I didn't believe in it so a thought was all it was. If your boyfriend is the love of your life why don't you want to have his baby? I just don't know why ppl have sex and can't live with the concenquences. I got through it and I was in a bad situation. I am still alive healthy and I have a beautiful baby boy. I am happy and can't imagine what my life would be like if I got rid of my baby. I would suggest if you are not pregnant to not have sex ever again b/c you have showed that you can not take responsiblity for your action. Oh and are you kidding me.. Not telling "the love of your life" that you killed his baby. Must not love him to much.. Would you not tell him b/c he might be mad at you and want you to keep his baby? Well anyways I done with this..

I dont agree with abortion only adoption. I gave up my 1st born. Hardest thing I ever done but it was teh best thiong

Just so u all know, its me, and I got my period, so false alarm. But also, I did end up telling my boyfriend, who supported my decision, whatever it would have been. I told my best friend, who was going to get her boyfriend to help me out by driving me to the docs, and to an abortion clinic if need be. And the reason I wasnt going to have it was because i"m not old enough to have kids! And my bf and I talked it over today after I told him it was false, and he and I agreed to hold off on sex, to avoid another situation like this.

Hey listen, I am a 17 year old girl, who is having to maybe make the same decision. I had sex with my boyfriend of 7 months a little over 2 weeks ago, and am starting to wonder if I got pregant. My boyfriend and I discussed what would happen if this ever happened, and like you abortion is on my mind. My mom always told me that no matter what she'd be there for me if something like this happened. Granted, me and her aren't the best of friends, but if I know I cant have a baby (like you). You should most def. Talk to her. My best friend had a baby last year, and had to give her away because ofcourse she couldnt handle that. She turned 16 the day before she had the baby. Personally, I think that you should discuss it with your boyfriend, just because it's half his fault that this happened to you. Anywho, I just think that the best option is that you talk to your mom and bf... Once you are 100% sure that you are preggers. Otherwise, don't stress too much. That will only make the situation worse. And as for all the people that are pro-life, I agree that abortion shouldnt be used, but as a last resort, espically being this young, is accectable.

hahahahaha, now I just feel even more sorry for you.

It's good to hear that you got your period to put your mind mroe at ease about your situation. I don't intend to scare you or anything, sarahmarie, but you could be pregnant and still be getting your period - it can and does happen sometimes.

I hate to vent about my views on abortion, but I will just a little for the sake of the topic. I'm wholly pro-choice - I believe it is up to the mother to decide whether or not she wants to have a child. If you decide that it just is not the right time in your life to have a child, or you feel that you couldn't give it the proper care both during pregnancy and after birth, then abortion could be the only choice. And what I mean by the proper care during pregnancy is such things like if you drink, smoke, or do drugs, and you know you couldn't stop even if you knew you had a baby growing inside you. I'm not saying you do any of this, but i'm just stating an example.

Trust me, hon...I know how it can be when you're caught up in the heat of the moment - you'll forget to use protection, or you'll figure that one time without it won't hurt. I can only advise you that, when you think you want to start having sex again, that you try to get on some kind of birth control as well as utilizing a condom. It's not 100% effective, but it'll protect you pretty well, and you'll at least have a back-up method of contraception in the event you forget the condom again.

It's good, though, that you spoke to your boyfriend about all of this - he probably would have been upset with you if you went and had an abortion without telling him. It's good to know that he would be willing to support you no matter what, and also that he is willing to hold off on sex for a while so you guys can avoid another big scare like this. He sounds like a good guy.

Dear sarah marie,

cambion may have some wisdom for us. Planning to avoid sex is certainly the most effective method of birth control.

The problem with planning abstinance is that other preparations for possible situations of emotional intensity, might be overlooked. The more combinations of preventive measures, the more effective the birht control.

Most everyone would like to avoid the anxiety of any type of abortion. The more combinations of birth control products you have available, the more assurances you can have. Even for just heavy petting, it is a good idea to have used some contraceptive gel or foam, etc.

Is there any place you could stash some prophylactic products?

I know what you mean about being in a small community. Ask the other people here, I was a .M.E.S.S when I first came here. I was 6 months pregnant and hadn't told anyone yet, so you can imagine how painful it was... Anyway, I just wanted to offer any help I can for you. If there's anything you need to know about how I told my family, or how the community responded, please pm me and i'll help you. I don't want you to have to go through this alone like I did. I'm willing to help you anytime.

Ok, I want munie4life to just shut up!

My sister was sort of in your situation about a month ago. Except that she was 17 (and she's since turned 18). She just wanted the whole pregnancy to go away. So she figured it was best to go have an abortion (that and "the boy" was pressuring her into it) and she's never been close to my mother or me so when we were like, "it's not going to go away after an abortion! Think about this, don't do it for him!" she didn't listen. It took only about a day to finally sink in after she did it. She has said herself, "i hate myself now that i've killed something." she is now out partying and screwing up bigger than ever.

So, I am begging you to seriously consider adoption if you can't raise the baby yourself. If you're afraid of what people will think, they'll despise someone who has had an abortion more than they'll hate a pregnant teen. The "what if's" will be around forever if you have an abortion, but if you have an open adoption you can be the "auntie" that comes around every once in a while and in most cases, all your medical bills and such will be paid for by the family. There are even some people who have the mother stay with them for the entire pregnancy, everything gets paid for. It's like a vacation for the birth mother and the adoptive parents can be there for the birth. I've heard of people having their "neice" come visit to give birth, and if anybody asks back home you could say you were visiting family or went on vacation or something like that. If this is too close for you, you can certainly get like a few pictures and a letter updating you on how your child is doing. The baby hasn't done anything wrong, it shouldn't be punished for this. But you can give your child the life that you couldn't provide for it.

Just, please don't say (or show), "it's easier for me to kill you than to wave goodbye."

I aint got time 4 this !**@! I am right when I say abortion is wrong no matter what anyone says but im out I aint helping no oe else but then again no offence who the !**@! told her to !**@! the first place if you gonna !**@! you should know the results to it