Just wait until you know for sure that you both can support a child. You shouldnt rush into things, you need to think about everything. Talk to your boyfriend about it and your parents as they will obviously be involved in some way or another. If your boyfriend feels that he cant take care of a child you shouldnt force it on him. Dont let it get you depressed, you will have a child of your own one day, no need to rush things.

No need to get depressed over it.. You are only 16...When I was 16 I thought iw as gonna spend the rest of my life w/ the boyfriend I had..But u know what...I had 3 other really serious boyfriends since then, and i'm 22. I just had a baby and it's hard. You need to enjoy life. I had time to do that, and I love being a mom. But I am glad I got to do the whole high school senior life and college life thing before all taht! Go to the movies....Get out and have fun before you do have to settle down!

No offense but fact that when you are making love and you want him to cum oin you and he doesnt want to that should pretty much tell you that he dont want a kid yet so why force it calm down im 14 and I have a baby and well is beautiful but not really life is over after you have it no im just playing I dont have a kid but still wait

I know what its like in your siduation, im 16 I want a baby and my bf didnt. He's changed his mind, and I have kind changed mine. I want to finnish school. And be atleast engaged before I get prego, bu if it happens before then yay, if not oh well atleast I can finnish high school. All I ever wanted to be my whole life is a house wife, and then once the kids are all off to school get some odd jobs. But that can wait for now.

Good mommy thats right you go more power to you

Wait till you graduate or graduate collage and have a good stgable job. Take it from me. My life is a mess but I had no choice in the matter. I had and have no childhood. Stay young as long asyou can@

Go buy a edit doll.

I have wanted a baby since I was 14 for the exact same reasons. When I was 16, I met my current boyfriend of 2 1/2 years now, and still was not getting pregnant. I was positive that we couldn't have children. My boyfriend was 14 at the time we started dating. I knew from the first time I saw him that he was "the one". We only used a condom like 3 times and never got pregnant. We always talked about having a baby, and he always said if it happens it happens. I am now almost 19, and finally got pregnant. I am almost 5 months along. I understand your urgency about becoming pregnant, but I would say to wait. I have all the support I need to become a mom, but I still worry about things all the time. Some days, I get some bad "baby blues" and wish that we would have waited longer to get pregnant, but I am very happy about it all!

My bf is the same way, he says "if it happens it happens" and we talk about it all the time, we talk about everything its nice. He told me he does want a baby now, but he wants me to finnish school first which I am aiming to do. We are also planning on getting engaged most likly this summer. I cant wait. But yeah. I would say wait to have a baby. I know thats not what you want to hear. But if you have a couple hours to yourself think about it. Are you ready to clean dirty smelly diapers, and what happens if you and your guy split and you will need to suport your child. You will have a hard time, even more so if your going to school. So wait till your not in school anymore just incase that happens..

Best wishes

I dont come from your perspective.. But this may help.

I am 21, I live with my partner, we plan on getting married, we have steady jobs, our own house and are secure. I fell pregnant last year, this time last year and lost it at 7.5 weeks. It was a accident and not planned but once this happened and I had no choice of it ending I wanted another badly. I was very depressed for a long time and only now woudl I say over it.

I wanted us to try, he said he wasnt ready, I shouted as I thought at 31 years old you should be.

I have recently started a new job as a nanny, I look after a 4 yr old with cerabal paulsy and her 2 and a half ye old brother. They shatter me. There is no way on earth I am ready mentally or physically for kids now. I love my job and would not change it but when 6:30 comes.. I am outta there!

Looking after kids was nothign like I imagined, these kids love me, the hug me and are all over me so I have some perspective of the good sides to it, but they are also naughty, dont listen and have tantrums. I am a mature 21 yr old, I dont act my age and I really dont think that I could handle kids at my age now.

I oringnally wanted loads of kids, 4 I come from a large family and liked growing up with lots of brothers and sisters and wanted that joy for my kids, but now I think 1 or 2 is enough.. With abotu 5 years bwtween them so they are able to understand why you cant give them all the attention in the world and a new baby takes it away from them.

I was talking with my partner last night about it telling him that the itch had gone and that this job was hte best thing that could have happened to me, its straightened my head out big time.


If you still want a baby, remember, its not just cooing and cuddles, its up all night, its worrying whn they are sick, its shouting at them when they are naughty, its being disspointed when they lie to you, there are so many ups and wonderful reasons and joy that they bring but dont forget that its not always like that.

Once yoru child is created and with you in yoru arms there is no going back, you cant return them, and by then if you finally realise it. Its too late.

Dont jump in to something so soon when if you waited you would have more experiance in life and in turn have more to tell your kids, stories of when mummy was younger and got up to no good.

I am not saying thoes who have had kids at 14/15/16 have thrown their lives away, was their choice, but if you still have one, wait.
Womens life expantacy are 80 odd, menopause kicks in around 40ish.. You have another 20 years to go!

Best of luck kiddo

It's extremely selfish to bring a child into the world with a "job". Your babies job as you put it, would be to fill your life with happiness and help you not feel lonely. That's alot of weight to put onto a babies shoulder.

You may think that that baby will fill that hole.. But it wont. It will go away for a few months and then will come back. And then you also have a baby to look after.

Try getting a hobby that takes up time and dedication, like volenteering some where.

I'm sorry but for some people a baby does fill that hole, its a weird feeling like your missing something in life after you have almost everything.

I have a 16 month old and I am 31 weeks prego and I dont look at taking care of a baby as a chore, its more of a natural thing (took awhile for it to be natural) but I love my child and spoil her sometimes.

When you have a child its no longer about you but about bringing a child teaching them and loving them no matter what anyone says a child will love you back just not as a baby more of when they get older. I was raised in a family with 6 kids and my husband has 5 siblings so it kinda feels natural to be having them although I know what im getting into im in for it lol!!

Here is what I do everyday with my child so you can kind of get an idea, im not promoting pregnancy just letting you know what happens

as soon as elisa wakes up I get her breakfast after that I change her diaper get her dressed and put some cartoons on till about 9:30 and then we go outside to play. In between 11:30 and 12 we have lunch we sit down &play/read then she goes for a nap at around 1, when she goes for a nap is when I clean up and take a shower. In between 4:30 and 5 we have dinner and she has a bath following, we go outside or just play inside depending on the weather and then she goes to bed at 8:30/9 leaving me and hubby and hour to spend together.

Here are the negatives
elisa has tantrums where she throws herself down on the floor
if shes sick her schedule is completely out of whack so I have to start from scratch
they do cry but usually stop after you hug them and hold them for a few minutes just dont stress out
lack off sleep
a newborn demands more of your time

positives
the kid is bloody hilarious
her smiles are contagious
she makes me happy although I have my days
shes learning new things everyday and helps me clean up her toys
its just amazing what comes out of it (from newborn to toddler) theres a huge difference

sorry for the long post

I'm 18 and in the same boat babe....Just be patient...Both parties have to want a baby for it to work

how do you have a baby?? In one post you said you just lost your virginity and you think you might be pregnant??? I dont get you.....:?

19mommy I think u read that wrong, she said shes just kidding "no im just playing"

i believe your right oh_mommy, sry munie4life. I guess I stopped reading before she finished posting. Lol. Good looking out oh_mommy :d

that seems to be your answer to everything. Can you seriously treat your baby like a doll? Then how would it be the same to treat a doll like a baby? It's not even close. If you wanted to at least hit somewhere *near* home then you could suggest getting a daycare or babysitting job.

As for me, working at a mcdonalds with a playplace is a pretty good birth control. I hated having to climb that stupid hamster tube to clean and those screaming little kids who *never* listened to their parents always made me rethinking wanting kids.