I found out a week ago that my 2.5 year long distance boyfriend has fallen in love with another girl. He met her in june (we spent the whole summer together) and started developing a relationship with her during the summer, the same time we were still together. Then in august, I left to go back to school and he became distant and we hardly talked. I attributed this to the problems we had been having in our relationship and thought that a break would do us good.

The first summer we met was beautiful. We fell in love and had the time of our lives. But then we had to do the long distance thing, seeing each other every couple weeks. We started fighting more, but still had many good moments and loved each other. I started gaining weight and he stopped wanting to have sex with me, claiming that he didn't really enjoy sex and enjoyed oral sex better.

We fought more often the past year, but I still love him like crazy. I feel that I haven't given him a chance to know me and haven't been myself. I have been too concerned with what others think and have let that affect my behavior. But towards the end of the summer, we talked about taking breaks, but he said that he still loved me and that this wouldn't be the end of us.

Then a week ago he called me crying and told me there was someone else. He fell in love with this girl and she was able to make him happy, which I haven't been able to do lately. I found out that he slept with her and was intimate with her, which he hasn't been with me in a long time. I also found out that he would still be with her if she did not end things with him.

I am not sure how to deal with all this. Since he told me, we have been talking regularly on the phone, which helps me but hurts me at the same time. I love him like crazy and want another chance for our relationship to work. I have thought long and hard, and no matter how hard it will be I am willing to give us another chance. But he doesn't think he could and is hurting because this girl hurt him. He says he loves me daily, but that he's not in love with me anymore and hasn't been for a while. He even claims that he hasn't enjoyed kissing me for about a year. The hardest thing for me though is that he is sorry he hurt me, but doesn't seem to regret the relationship with this girl. I also cannot believe that he is so willing to end things with us.

I haven't seen him since I left him in august and he is going to be coming to see me in a week so we can talk about certain things and figure out what we are going to do. He told me that he would hug me when he saw me but nothing else. I feel like deep down I was worried something like this would/could happen, but I refused to believe it could.

I just don't know what to do. I still want him to be a part of my life and would like to give our relationship another chance. The past couple months I have had time to think, especially about who I am and think that if we would give us another chance that we can be happier. Should I just say screw you and forget about him? Should I try and be friends with him? I am just hurting so much inside and need some advice.