Yeah, it came out in 2001. It's very simple and comfortable. Everyone reacts differently to it though. It's great not having to remember a pill everyday, I would fail miserably at that one. It's a bit pricey though, especially since there's no generic brand for it yet. I get mine at the univ. For $12, but at the reg. Pharmacy they were going to charge me $30, with my insurance. But yeah, I like it thus far.

even an uncaring and impatient person will change when they get pregnant. So, you might want to rethink this before you do something you cannot change. And most dr's wont give full hysterectomy to young women(i was 25), and they didnt even want to tie my tubes at 24 unless they knew for sure I really wantd it. On the hysterectomy they left my ovaries and tube--

yep - some become more uncaring and more impatient...Hardly worth taking the risk, is it? It's not like there's much point in having one if you don't like them, don't want them, and don't think there's any obligation on you to have one.

True, but.....

A lot of pple dont even know themselves yet. If she truly dont want them, I dont expect her to have any--i am just trying to say--she may not truly know what she wants yet. May not know herself yet.

I know a lot of teenagers who dont think they like kids--not wanting to be burdened by them, but it could also be because they have had them in their face--cuz mom had a pre menopause baby. They have to babsit and stuff. Im just trying to get her to know herself for sure first-- before she does something she would regret

isn't it funny -- I just keep seeing all the teenagers who *do* want kids -- why do they know their own minds and someone who hates kids doesn't?

There's a lot of people who have kids due to pressure from society or partners, and they regret it. There is a big difference between not being keen, and knowing you don't want any, and if someone is looking into getting sterilised before they have any, you can bet they are pretty sure. Incidentally -- only the tiniest proportion of childfree people who are sterilised seek reversals -- a far higher proportion of parents who get sterilised regret it later. Wanting to remain childfree is a fundamental orientation, not a passing fancy.

I can understand her desire of not wanting children and I agree with her that it is a fundamental orientation. I worked with a lady in my past job who felt exactly like her and she never had the children and she is 50 and grateful she didn't had them.

She always used the pill so she told me. The tubal seems to be the best option for you. An iud would be a good second option but doctors don't want to prescribe iud's to women who has never had a child because of the possibility of your uterus rejecting it (would cause too much bleeding/pain). And second because your uterus may bee to small to fit the iud (again this because of that of never having a child) iud's are the best options after having a child.

Your challenge will be just trying to get a doctor do to you a tubal. If there are plenty doctors willing to do abortions I don't see why they wouldn't do a tubal. If no doctor wants to do it then oh well just stick to the regular options like pills or condoms, nuvaring whatever.

I want to make a note on nuvaring. The drawback of the nuvaring is that of when you have sex you need to be watching it cause it can fall off and if you don't notice and let 3 hours pass by you are screwed. Just wanted to let you know.

Yeah, I knew about it falling out during sex. But you must admit that it does have that pro over the pill that you don't have to remember it everyday.




True, but.....


A lot of pple dont even know themselves yet. If she truly dont want them, I dont expect her to have any--i am just trying to say--she may not truly know what she wants yet. May not know herself yet.


I know a lot of teenagers who dont think they like kids--not wanting to be burdened by them, but it could also be because they have had them in their face--cuz mom had a pre menopause baby. They have to babsit and stuff. Im just trying to get her to know herself for sure first-- before she does something she would regret


as for her not wanting babies. I have to say that I absolutely applaud cambion for confronting the fact that she doens't want them. And it's true, many people become more impatient with them if they have them. Having your own baby in your hands and seeing those "little eyes" will only make you melt for about a week, then reality sinks in. Having a baby is about raising a child into a full-functioning person, not just being goo-goo-gaa-gaa with a baby for one year. This is what upsets me about people trying to convince others that they really will want a baby when they look at their own. I'm not on the same boat as cambion, I actually want at least 5, but that's because I love educating, playing with and disciplining children of all ages. If she feels she isn't capable, then hell, my hat goes off to her for admitting it and taking the necessary steps.

And I stand by my nuvaring suggestion. She may have problems getting an iud, and if she forgets her pill just once, she's basically screwed for the rest of the month, if she's on the patch, she might have trouble with blood clots, or get annoyed at the super-sensitive method. Nuvaring is something you only think about once a month. It's also no trouble to just double check that it's still in after sex, and if anything, just take it out and set an alarm for 2 hours later and put it back in. I usually double-check myself everyday or so in the shower, it's no trouble and i'd rather do that than take a pill everyday.

The iud is just as effective as getting your tubes cut/burned ect.. I have the iud without any hormones and it can stay in for 10 years, plus it it cheeper then getting your tubes tied. Having to get a new one every 10 years doesn't seem that bad. I know u don't want any kids at all, but what if 20 years in the future something changes your mind? At least you could get the iud out. The only thing I can think of though, i'm not sure if you can get the iud without having a baby or not. Btw I hated kids too, before I get pregnant. What kinda funny though, I still dislike kids, other than my own, lol. I hate babysitting, they are all snot nosed brats, I just don't like them, but I love my kids to death and wouldn't trade them for nothing.

hehehe I have heard that of people who say they don't like kids. Except when they are theirs. That must be biological instict I think.

The iud seems like the best deal and I will absolutetly look for that after I ever have a child. I think the risk of the iud is that of the ectopic pregancies but I don't know what are the myths with respect to that issue. I would like to haven an iud now but oh well I don't qualify (never had children). What a nurse practioner told me once is that she said that a uterus that has never had a child doesn't like anything in it so putting an iud will cause too much bleeding/pain. I guess with a liberal doctor that may want to try and see I could get it. I would think that at least if the uterus gives a good measure to fit the iud a doctor might give a try.
I assume you have the paragard iud amber? Do you get your periods monthly?

I'm a happy pill user. I take the pill after I brush my teeth in the morning so it's a habit alerady, I never forget. I think something like the nuvaring would not work for me because I forget easier once a month than everyday hehe. But the most I like of the pill is that it does keep me in shape. I don't know how that chemistry of the hormones is with my body but I truly get overweight easily if I stop them which is interesting cause most I hear is that bc pill actually can make one gain weight.

I'm not sure what my iud is. It's the one that has no hormones, insted it has copper on it. I think it's called the copper t or something like that. I wanted it because it can stay in for up to 10 years, but the hormone one only lasts 5 years. It has been great and I love it, the only side effect I have has is heaver bleeding, but it my peroids only last about 3 days. I would defently recomend it, it's great not having to worry about the hormone side effects or having to take a pill everyday (i couldn't remember for the life of me)

I for one hope all the people who want to remain childfree find someway to not get pregnant. I would hate for innocent children to be brought into their lives.

although I think you meant for this to be a rude comment, I would like for doctors to do their jobs, and give people a tubal if their patient asks for one. I've tried to get a tubal from a few doctors, only to be told "i'm too young..." bleh, i'm 23, I know what I want, and i'm sure the op knows what she wants too!

And who says we're going to keep babies if we do get pregnant, there are other options lady...

Haha, wow I can't believe people are still replying to this topic. And babykitty23 is correct - just because a woman may become pregnant doesn't mean she needs to keep it. I myself am pro-choice, and I have decided that, when I do become sexually active, i'll use whatever forms of contraception I can get my hands on. Condoms, birth control, spermicide, etc.

However, if I was unfortunate enough to conceive despite all that protection (i know none of those is 100% guaranteed), I would not hesitate to get an abortion. As far as i'm concerned, I would not be using abortion as a form of contraception since my contraception would have failed. I seriously feel nothing for children of any age, which is why I would prefer to not make any children that could end up being neglected or even abused emotionally from my lack of love.

I'll still go for the tubal ligation someday. But thanks, everyone, who has replied with the information for the different kinds of contraception as well as opinions. Keep 'em coming xd