I think if you are looking for anyone to tell you what a wonderful and clever person are, you're going to be disappointed.

Someone should warn your boyfriend about the sort of scheming, dishonest person he's involved with.

If you do get pregnant, don't be surprised if he's less than thrilled about it. In a decent relationship, this is something that people decide together.

Okay, I admit that this is dishonest. Its not that my fiance doesn't want kids he just wants to wait. He said if I was preg, he'd be happy. We want to have a family together. He just wants to wait for selfish reasons, like he likes to go out partying. I told him I would take care of the baby at night and he could still go out. And you don't know how our relationship is so don't even go there.

I'm not one to judge, so I am just going to state a few facts here....


Raising a child is hard work. It really takes two very dedicated people..And sometimes even two people are not enough. A baby in the first 6 months is extremely hard and takes a huge toll on a healthy marriage/relationship.

Babies do not sleep through the night. They are exhausting. If you find yourself dealing with any post partum depression..It's even worse. If you're partner is out partying at night...You're in a tough place.


Why can't you sit with your bf and reach a compromise. Get married..Enjoy married life for awhile alone and together and then try for a baby.


Telling your partner you are pregnant should be a wonderful memory. Telling your child how he/she came to be should be a wonderful memory too. By manipulating the situation as you are wanting to...You are depriving yourself, your partner and your child of some very special memories.


Just my opinion.


Nancy
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children are a wonderful thing...Don't get me wrong..But they are very hard work. Very. That little baby requires all of your attention and all of your time. It's not as easy as it looks

Okay, I posted this a few days ago on a different forum, but I guess you didn't see it there.
Well, I read what y'all had said and took it to heart. I sat my fiance down and told him how much I wanted to start a family sooner than later. (i didn't tell him id stopped b/c but promised myself i'd start it back up if he still hadn't changed his mind). We talked for a long time. He said he hadn't realized how much this meant to me. We've decided to start trying after his trip in jan. He wants to be with me for the whole pregnancy so thats why we aren't going to start right now.
Thanks for the (nice) posts, not the mean ones because they served no purpose and had no effect on my decision. Kindness speaks louder than critizism.
Faithanne

Glad to hear it! Best wishes to you!



Nancy
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Good luck!!!

*lots of baby dust*

If you and your husband can't agree on this have you thought about how betrayed he is going to feel that you tricked him hun? Good relationships have ended over this sort of thing. This actually happened to my brother and while he would do anything for his little girl his relationship with her mother ended. He couldn't get past the betrayal. She assured him she was taking the pill.

I think you're probably a wonderful girl which is why I am not sure you've given this as much thought as you should have. Give it time when he is ready it will be so special and you can share that excitement with someone whose just as happy as you are! Wouldn't that be beautiful and just so much better. You might also be surprised if you don't talk about it for a while how he just might suggest it.

By the way, I would still drop hints. No point in letting him think you're not interested anymore but if you love him and it's a good relationship he'll be worth the wait!

Good luck girl!!!

Brie

Just read that you guys reached a compromise (must learn to read all posts and not just the first one!) and while that is great I would be very sure that he's ready first. If he is and you are happy too then congrats, you'll probably have a new family member soon.

If he goes out a lot and likes to party and you're working your butt off - there is no one cool enough to handle that. You will resent him. You may tolerate his behaviour because you love him but there is no way you'd be cool with it. Ask yourself, if you took the fact that you love this man out of the equation is he ready to be a father?

Brie

well,i dont really think she asked you all that.she asked for ways to get pregnant without him knowing.thats what this whole wedsite topic was about.
because i feel the same way


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The best way to get pregnant is to have unprotected sex during the fertile days of your period --- about 14 days before you are going to bleed again.