I am trying to get preg, but my bf doesn't
think we should yet. He's going away for
3 months as of january. I am trying to
get preg without him knowing. I have
stopped my b/c and we never use a condom,
but he always cums on my tummy. Is it
possible for my to put this cum in me with
my finger or w/e...What about precum?
Nice answers only please, I don't need
people telling me i'm stupid and selfish
and w/e
~faithanne
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JanetBee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Posts: 332
Posted: 11-24-05 15:57pm
I think if you are looking for anyone to
tell you what a wonderful and clever
person are, you're going to be
disappointed.
Someone should warn your boyfriend about
the sort of scheming, dishonest person
he's involved with.
If you do get pregnant, don't be surprised
if he's less than thrilled about it. In a
decent relationship, this is something
that people decide together.
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Surrender
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2005 Posts: 128 Location: canada
Boo Posted: 11-24-05 18:55pm
Okay, I admit that this is dishonest. Its
not that my fiance doesn't want kids he
just wants to wait. He said if I was
preg, he'd be happy. We want to have a
family together. He just wants to wait
for selfish reasons, like he likes to go
out partying. I told him I would take
care of the baby at night and he could
still go out. And you don't know how our
relationship is so don't even go there.
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nnclyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 136
Posted: 11-27-05 19:38pm
I'm not one to judge, so I am just going
to state a few facts here....
Raising a child is hard work. It really
takes two very dedicated people..And
sometimes even two people are not enough.
A baby in the first 6 months is extremely
hard and takes a huge toll on a healthy
marriage/relationship.
Babies do not sleep through the night.
They are exhausting. If you find
yourself dealing with any post partum
depression..It's even worse. If you're
partner is out partying at night...You're
in a tough place.
Why can't you sit with your bf and reach a
compromise. Get married..Enjoy married
life for awhile alone and together and
then try for a baby.
Telling your partner you are pregnant
should be a wonderful memory. Telling
your child how he/she came to be should be
a wonderful memory too. By manipulating
the situation as you are wanting to...You
are depriving yourself, your partner and
your child of some very special
memories.
Just my opinion.
Nancy
edit
children are a wonderful thing...Don't get
me wrong..But they are very hard work.
Very. That little baby requires all of
your attention and all of your time.
It's not as easy as it looks
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Surrender
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2005 Posts: 128 Location: canada
..talked to Him Posted: 11-28-05 10:30am
Okay, I posted this a few days ago on a
different forum, but I guess you didn't
see it there.
Well, I read what y'all had said and took
it to heart. I sat my fiance down and
told him how much I wanted to start a
family sooner than later. (i didn't tell
him id stopped b/c but promised myself i'd
start it back up if he still hadn't
changed his mind). We talked for a long
time. He said he hadn't realized how much
this meant to me. We've decided to start
trying after his trip in jan. He wants to
be with me for the whole pregnancy so
thats why we aren't going to start right
now.
Thanks for the (nice) posts, not the mean
ones because they served no purpose and
had no effect on my decision. Kindness
speaks louder than critizism.
Faithanne
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nnclyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 136
Posted: 11-28-05 17:30pm
Glad to hear it! Best wishes to you!
Nancy
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Huerita_713
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2005 Posts: 49 Location: H-Town
Posted: 11-28-05 18:07pm
Good luck!!!
*lots of baby dust*
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Briony_S1980
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: Australia
Posted: 01-26-06 06:37am
If you and your husband can't agree on
this have you thought about how betrayed
he is going to feel that you tricked him
hun? Good relationships have ended over
this sort of thing. This actually
happened to my brother and while he would
do anything for his little girl his
relationship with her mother ended. He
couldn't get past the betrayal. She
assured him she was taking the pill.
I think you're probably a wonderful girl
which is why I am not sure you've given
this as much thought as you should have.
Give it time when he is ready it will be
so special and you can share that
excitement with someone whose just as
happy as you are! Wouldn't that be
beautiful and just so much better. You
might also be surprised if you don't talk
about it for a while how he just might
suggest it.
By the way, I would still drop hints. No
point in letting him think you're not
interested anymore but if you love him and
it's a good relationship he'll be worth
the wait!
Good luck girl!!!
Brie
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Briony_S1980
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: Australia
Posted: 01-26-06 06:45am
Just read that you guys reached a
compromise (must learn to read all posts
and not just the first one!) and while
that is great I would be very sure that
he's ready first. If he is and you are
happy too then congrats, you'll probably
have a new family member soon.
If he goes out a lot and likes to party
and you're working your butt off - there
is no one cool enough to handle that. You
will resent him. You may tolerate his
behaviour because you love him but there
is no way you'd be cool with it. Ask
yourself, if you took the fact that you
love this man out of the equation is he
ready to be a father?
