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Q: With Him Knowing
asked by: Surrender on November 24th, 2005
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I am trying to get preg, but my bf doesn't think we should yet. He's going away for 3 months as of january. I am trying to get preg without him knowing. I have stopped my b/c and we never use a condom, but he always cums on my tummy. Is it possible for my to put this cum in me with my finger or w/e...What about precum?
Nice answers only please, I don't need people telling me i'm stupid and selfish and w/e
~faithanne
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kristy22
replied on November 25th, 2005
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Why would you try to get pregnant without him knowing? Maybe he feels he is not ready yet....And you want to bring a child into the world.That's 18 years of responsibility...How long have you two been together?Are you married? Are you financially ready? I think what you are doing is very selfish, if he's not ready and you are maybe you should find someone who is ready..That's not fair to him and if he ever found out i'm sure he wouldn't be able to trust you for a very long time. To answer your question....Sperm dies once outside of the body.Unless contained so no.Won't work.Good thing for your boyfriend
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Cambion
replied on November 25th, 2005
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Wow I think i've seen this topic in 4 forums already.

Surrender, you need to think about this from a different perspective. This would be the equivalent of a guy wanting children and the girl not wanting them - the guy could intentionally put holes in the condom to try and impregnate his partner when he was making her believe she was protected because they were using contraception. How would you feel if your boyfriend were to deceive you? This isn't a great example, but what if your boyfriend had aids and he didn't tell you? What if he passed it on to you and you didn't know until you had testing done and got a positive result?

If you truly love your boyfriend, you'll take his feelings into consideration and not deceive him. Also, to the previous poster, sperm doesn't automatically die once it's exposed to the air. Sperm can live for up to 5 hours outside the body, so unfortunately for the unlucky guy, this girl could do something stupid and impregnate herself.


I had read on the news a long time ago that another woman had done this exact thing - saved her boyfriend's semen and put it on her hands and used it to impregnate herself. You know what happened? The guy immediately broke up with her and he sued her for causing him emotional disstress since she became pregnant from his semen and she was trying to nail him for child support. As far as I know, the guy won the case. Just shows that some guys will take no nonsense from women.
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Lilypad
replied on November 26th, 2005
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Sounds to me that you already know that you are behaving stupidly and selfishly, so I guess there is no need to tell you.
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Surrender
replied on November 29th, 2005
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Ok
Okay, I have already replied to this on all the other places I posted this...Long story short, I talk to him and he realized how important the baby was to me. We've decided to wait a few months until he's back from his trip
thanks for the nice replies
to the cruel relies, thanks for nothing. I was looking for advice not critisis
m.
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Lilypad
replied on November 30th, 2005
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Im glad you talked to him. I have a strong opinion on this subject and I cant help myself...
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