Hey! Why are you leaning toward not getting him cirumsized? I mean what are the reasons? There are alot of positives and negatives to the surgery. My husband and I looked at all of them. In the end we decided to go with the surgery, for religious reasons. The bible says that little boys should be circumsized so that is what we did. At the end of the day though, it is all up to you and your husband. I would think that since your hubby is circumsized, that you would also want your son to be. You will read lots of books on how bad the surgery is and books on how good it is.. Which makes it hard to decide. I'm sure that you will do what you think is best for your son. I wish you the best!!!

God bless and good luck,
teresa

Hey, thanks for replying. We also looked into the religious aspect of it, but the new testament says that circumcision is of the heart now, not physically as it was before jesus died. I can give you the full text if you are interested. -well it was a concern that with my husband being circumsized that his son may feel "different" but, then I think that we could just explain why he is different. Also, sons can look completely different from their fathers in other ways and be ok with it. We were mainly considering it because the aap says that there are no health benefits to having it done so we said to ourselves "why have it done?" and I found all sorts of websites of clinics that do adult circumcisions so I figured that if he absolutely hated it, that he could have it done later in life. Plus like america is the only country that still does it so mainstream so that makes me ask myself why you know? Thank you very much for not being mean about your disagreement w/ me. So far we have only talked about w/ 2 people we know and they have both had like violent negative reactions to it. Needless to say we aren't telling any other family members. I say let them find out if they change his diapers!

I would say get it done. This is comming from a 15 year old. In group convos were weve talked about circumcision, most of us were circumcised. And everyone laughed at the person that wasent. And he said he wish he was after words. So yea, but its all up to you.

Posities:
-cleaner
-studies show that circumcized men are relatively less likely to contract std's including hiv; this might just be coincidental though.

Negatives:
-some suggest that some sensation is lost, but this has never been proven.



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Hey, I saw your question and I strongly recommend getting the circumsion done. Take it from me, your son will definitely get teased and feel embarassed if he is not circumsized. Reasons are that almost all kids in america have had it done, and when he hits that age where all boys start talking about sex and their penises, you son will feel left out and guilty and all guys talk about this and asks all of their buddys if they are circumsized. This boy talk happens around 12 yrs of age. I know personally growing up, all my friends but one was not circumsized and he was teazed and cried about it. Not only that, but uncircumsized penises look odd and different if you dont know that they are not circumsized, and your son will figure that out the first day in the boys locker room, and that will by a day he'll never forget. Also, why not get it done? It helps keep things clean and free of bacteria and believe me when after a guy works out all day at the gym or in sports, things done there can get sweaty, nasty, and jock itch-or crotch rot happens easily, and I dont think your son wants that on his penis. The foreskin makes for prime breeding grounds for bacteria. Talk to your husband about jock itch, it is a red rash that peels skin away, itches like crazy and takes weeks to get rid of. Also, I know this is going far down the line and may offend you, but when your son hits sexual maturity and begins sexual intercourse with women, like oral sex, girls are going to be confused and possibly disguisted as to how to perform when the forehead is covered with skin. Most uncircumsized men have to pull back the skin during sex to get any sensation, and during oral sex, the girl is going to have to pull back the skin to give oral sex.- by the way iam circumsized and definitely happy that my parents made the decision. The option is completely up to you, but I hope you think about your sons benefit before making up your mind

i'm with ya' on that one!

I'm very dissapointed that some people are saying to get circumsized just because he will be made fun of. Seriously your task as a parent is to explain that it is not an abnormal thing and that there's a lot of other people that are not circumsized.

Personally i'm not circumsized and I am glad that my parents made that decision simply because it's healthier. You lose some immunity with circumsion.


I'm no expert, but if a woman finds a penis disgusting if it's not circumsized needs to reevaluate themselves. There's nothing ugly, it's a perception that porno movies and media creates. I wouldn't want to be with a woman that would find my penis abnormal because it has some extra skin.


Ridiculous! My vote is for leave him uncircumsized.

In the end, either way, this is truly a personal decision based on what you and your husband and you think is best.

I certainly appreciate all the comments. You pro circs should go to a website called nocirc.Com also check out a website called doctorsopposingcircumcision.Org.
I love my husbands penis, he is circumcised but I dont find the natural male genitalia unappealing. And if you research it, supposedly, uncirc males have better sex, (the foreskin has been compared to the clit in some things I read). It is a soceity issue. In america most boys are circumcised but I think that 90% of males worldwide are not. It was introduced in america as a cure for masturbation. You guys should watch the videotape of a newborn being circumcised. And for what? There is nothing wrong with the male genitalia and any female who thinks there is, has issues.
I think that we will probably not do itand when our son is 12, if he wants it done we will talk to him and do it. As far as locker rooms go I am 22 and so obviouly graduated hs within the past 5 yrs. Anyways, when I went to hs there were no naked people in the locker rooms- boys or girls- maybe it is different in other parts of the country.
I really do appreciate the comments and despite my obviously biased post we are still thinking about it. I just feel that to do that to a child,for no real valid reason is pointless.

Im a 17yr old male who is uncircumcised and ive never had a problem at all with it. I think my parents made the decision because my dad grew up in europe, didnt get circumcised and wanted me to be the same, so when I was younger I wasnt confused or something...

Anyways, ive never been teased...Ive played plenty of sports where we showered together...Never ever a problem. No girl I have ever been with ever had a problem with it..And as far as pornos go...Plenty of porn stars arent circumcised...

Id say do whatever you want, but dont get this stupid biased steriptype that hell be made fun of, or its gross or soemthing...

It does however make sense that he should be what his dad is...

thanks that puts my mind at ease. As far as being like his dad, you are right it would seem that he should be like his dad but it also seems like an easy enough difference to explain. Then again, I don't have a penis maybe it will warp him to have one different from his father's. Any opinions on that?

I doubt it will, he will probly just ask him why. Then it will be over, nothing thats gunna warp em.

Just wanted to share with you, I am 30yo uncircumcised male. My wife wouldn't have it any other way. We are also having a son, and not having him circucmised. In the 30 years, I have been on swimteams, in the showers at school.....And never been made fun of, and that should be the last of your worries!! And it baffels me about some people not educated enough on the subject to answer so poorly. My wife and I are in the medical field, and it has been shown, and proven by the ama, and the pediatric assoc. That circumcision isn't necessary, and it can cause problems later on. In fact some insurances don't cover it, its considered a "cosmetic" surgery. It is mutilation, if we were supposed to be circumcised then why wern't we born like that??? Answer that! Born that way, its not broke, leave it alone. You can find many websites about the dangers of circumcision, and I have seen them first hand, skin bridges, scare tissue, the glans penis being cut, many issues. I agree it is all a personal, parents choice. Just educate yourself and then go from there. Thank you for allowing me to share my opinions!

Do not get it done maybe when he is older it can be his choice.

I'm 15/uncut wouldn't have it any other way.

Re religion: stop dancing around the 800 pound gorilla and grow up.

A agree with the previous poster. My parents decided against it and i'm very glad that they did. I've only been with two women but neither have complained. From what i've read, when you take away the forskin the head becomes somewhat desensitized, and this makes sense when you think about it. As for teasing, well, you could worry about that (it never happened to me) or you could worry about performing an unnecessary procedure which your son may wish you had not done later on. When he's old enough he can choose to get circumcised if he likes.

Cleanliness is a red herring. You just pull back the forskin and wash with soup and warm water. You also have to pull it back a little so that the urethra is exposed before you urinate (when urinating standing up). That's really it.

Religion. Nothing wrong with it, but this is the twenty-first century and you shoudn't be taking medical advice from the bible any more than you should sacrifice your son to appease god. And I can't imagine that it would warp him to have a different penis than his father. You could make that case for chest hair, height, penis size, whatever. Everybody's different; children are more than capable of handling this concept.

I hope that helps. Good luck and congratulations.

Growing up in the religious south, I was circumcised. Now that i'm grown up, I partly with the decision would of been left up to me. I have a smaller penis than most (6 when erect) and I feel the extra foreskin would of added a slight thickness that would make my sexual confidence higher.

When I have a child, I will leave the decision up to them when they are old enough to worry about it.

By the way, I honestly don't believe religion should have anything to do with the physical alteration of your child. That is your decision based on what you think - not what the ancients thought.

Hope your child grow up healthy and strong!

We are probably not getting done. Actually we are not getting it done. The questions that I posted in my first post were not necessarily my personal concerns. They were just general questions that I often hear metioned when circ is brought up.
As far as the religious aspect goes, I am pentecostal and no christians are required to get it done. That is biblical. I never had a question about that. I was simply answering the lady who said the bible said boys had to be circumcised. The new testament says you don't. Therefore if you believe in the new testament (ie not jewish) then your son does not have to be circ. I really appreciate all the posts from uncirc men it helped to put my mind at ease. As a mother, even though I feel like it is the right decision, I also tend to second guess myself.
My husband and I are very into doing things naturally as far as labor and delivey goes so it didn't seem right to deny myself pain meds for the benefits to the baby and then hack off a part of his penis.You know

Glad you've come to a decision. Best of luck with the birth!

he doesnt even remember it for 1.

And for 2, it helps his health in the long run. I know a lot of guys who are really embaressed with their uncircumsized penis's, I even know a couple who hated it so bad, that they went & got the procedure done, which is a thousands times worse.


Lol, your decision though. You'll see! =)