Joined: 21 Nov 2005 Posts: 8 Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico
Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 11-21-05 16:29pm
Me and my boyfriend have been together a
while now and we want to have a baby! The
thing is im only 16 and he's only 17. I
dropped out of school and he's is
graduating this year. We are going to get
our own place once he graduates but i'm
not sure if i'm still to young. But we
really love each other but we dont know
what to do.
Please help! :(
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SDZ97
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2005 Posts: 2 Location: NC
Posted: 11-21-05 17:19pm
You are to young. Go back to school
finish your education.
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Kristina86
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Houston, Tx
Posted: 11-21-05 18:06pm
Well I say get back into school, and
finish first, that way if yall do get
pregnant at least you will have your
education so you can get a good job, and
go to college, so that way you can support
you baby
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graceandhope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 11 Location: texas
Wait If You Can Posted: 11-21-05 18:30pm
I hope you aren't offended by this but why
now? Sorry about the mispelled words...I
am to tired to worry about that tonight.
:cry:
i mean you have tons of time to raise a
child. You are so young yet.
I know you may have that desire but how
fair is that to a baby? I mean what can
you offer him/her at this point? You said
you would be moving into an apartment
soon. Well that is great and all but what
happens next? Where would you work? Who
would watch the baby while you worked?
Don't kid yourself you will need to work.
Do you even know what day care would
cost? Also even if your boyfriend wants a
baby how do you know how he will react to
the stress of a baby? Not to mention your
only dating. While living together might
seem wonderful now you don't know that it
will always be that way. Why not wait
till later when you are married and better
prepared? What type of enviorment will
the baby be in? I know that college is
not for everyone but why not give it a
chance once you finish your ged or
something. Why not do those things that
can better your future before you bring a
baby into this situation. I speak from
experience. I was 15 when I gave birth to
my daughter. She is 14 now and is doing
very well but my situation was a little
different than yours. My parents have
always been married and were wonderful to
me always. When I became pregnant my
father helped me understand that I would
have to finish high school and then
college. He made it clear that I would
have to support her on my own (with no
goverment assistance). It was rough but
we made it though. We finished high
school, college (twice) and then I started
my career. It wasn't until then that I
married. I love her and all but would
have waited if I could back in time. I am
happily married now and am ready to raise
another. Please wait give him/her that
much. My daughter is a great girl. She
still has not even had her first boyfriend
yet. She has been in gifted classes since
the 2nd grade. Now in 9th she is in still
at the top of her class. While I had no
choice in being a mother (as you do) I
worked hard to set a good example so that
she would head down a road that was good
for her future. Now I am a little older
and my husband and I are hoping to adopt
soon. Another long story.
God bless
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Ang2
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 61 Location: Houston, TX
Posted: 11-21-05 22:03pm
I think its great you and your boyfriend
are in love and want to have a baby, but I
really think you should finish school
first so you can have a better education
and get a good job. I know young girls
have babies all the time without finishing
school and are doing fine but most of
those pregnancies were unplanned. Since
you are planning your pregnancy you should
wait until you finish school.
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danigurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 4 Location: AZ
Posted: 11-21-05 22:32pm
I would personally tell you to go back to
school. I made the mistake once of
dropping out of high school when I was
pregnant with my daughter and it wasn't
worth it. I am trying to make up school
now, i'm back at a special high school and
i'm trying to get my education because
without it, I can't support my daughter as
well. Anyways, best of luck, whatever you
decide.
~dani