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bubbles700700

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Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 11-21-05 16:29pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together a while now and we want to have a baby! The thing is im only 16 and he's only 17. I dropped out of school and he's is graduating this year. We are going to get our own place once he graduates but i'm not sure if i'm still to young. But we really love each other but we dont know what to do.

Please help! :(
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SDZ97

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Posted: 11-21-05 17:19pm

You are to young. Go back to school finish your education.
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Kristina86

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Posted: 11-21-05 18:06pm

Well I say get back into school, and finish first, that way if yall do get pregnant at least you will have your education so you can get a good job, and go to college, so that way you can support you baby
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graceandhope

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Wait If You Can
Posted: 11-21-05 18:30pm

I hope you aren't offended by this but why now? Sorry about the mispelled words...I am to tired to worry about that tonight. :cry:

i mean you have tons of time to raise a child. You are so young yet.
I know you may have that desire but how fair is that to a baby? I mean what can you offer him/her at this point? You said you would be moving into an apartment soon. Well that is great and all but what happens next? Where would you work? Who would watch the baby while you worked? Don't kid yourself you will need to work. Do you even know what day care would cost? Also even if your boyfriend wants a baby how do you know how he will react to the stress of a baby? Not to mention your only dating. While living together might seem wonderful now you don't know that it will always be that way. Why not wait till later when you are married and better prepared? What type of enviorment will the baby be in? I know that college is not for everyone but why not give it a chance once you finish your ged or something. Why not do those things that can better your future before you bring a baby into this situation. I speak from experience. I was 15 when I gave birth to my daughter. She is 14 now and is doing very well but my situation was a little different than yours. My parents have always been married and were wonderful to me always. When I became pregnant my father helped me understand that I would have to finish high school and then college. He made it clear that I would have to support her on my own (with no goverment assistance). It was rough but we made it though. We finished high school, college (twice) and then I started my career. It wasn't until then that I married. I love her and all but would have waited if I could back in time. I am happily married now and am ready to raise another. Please wait give him/her that much. My daughter is a great girl. She still has not even had her first boyfriend yet. She has been in gifted classes since the 2nd grade. Now in 9th she is in still at the top of her class. While I had no choice in being a mother (as you do) I worked hard to set a good example so that she would head down a road that was good for her future. Now I am a little older and my husband and I are hoping to adopt soon. Another long story.

God bless
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Ang2

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Posted: 11-21-05 22:03pm

I think its great you and your boyfriend are in love and want to have a baby, but I really think you should finish school first so you can have a better education and get a good job. I know young girls have babies all the time without finishing school and are doing fine but most of those pregnancies were unplanned. Since you are planning your pregnancy you should wait until you finish school.
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danigurl

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Posted: 11-21-05 22:32pm

I would personally tell you to go back to school. I made the mistake once of dropping out of high school when I was pregnant with my daughter and it wasn't worth it. I am trying to make up school now, i'm back at a special high school and i'm trying to get my education because without it, I can't support my daughter as well. Anyways, best of luck, whatever you decide.
~dani
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