Maybe I'm Just Wierd But... Posted: 11-20-05 06:50am
Okay this probably shouldn't be happening,
but it's the only way I can orgasm. I'm
20 years old and a newleywed. I love my
husband sooo much and I love him as my
best friend and I get choked up when I
think of him as being the father of my
kids one day and things like that, but it
seems like the sexual things are kind of
going boring...When I was 18-19 we used to
do it sometimes 3 times a day and I could
orgasm every time and really quickly just
from the sex, no other stimulation. Now
it seems like the only way I can orgasm is
if i'm touching myself or thinking about
him doing naughty things w/ other
women...I guess that's probably wierd cuz
women shouldn't want thier man to be w/
someone else. I should add that I only
think that way when i'm turned on, and
after I have an orgasm the thought of him
w/ another chick would piss me off and i'm
positive I would never actually want this
to happen. I'm thinking it might be b/c
we used to do it all the time and we've
already done everything so now only taboo
stuff is kinky enough...He sure doesn't
have a problem with coming, just me and he
wants it all the time and I just can't
seem to want to actually have sex cuz it
just doesn't feel good most of the
time...So my question is, does anyone have
any tips on how to spice it up a little so
I can have that old 3timeaday sex?:)
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teach486
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2005 Posts: 276 Location: US
Posted: 11-20-05 09:07am
Well, I certainly do not know what your
sex life has included over the years. I
do know that after being with my husband
for 13 years, things got boring for both
of us. So much so to the point that I
often fantasized about threesomes,
although I would never actually do that.
We just began to experiment with some
other things. More anal stimulation,
both him and myself. Sex in different
places. Once even outside on a cliff
behind our house that overlooked the town.
Fingering or blow jobs while driving.
Toys. He even asked me to masterbate in
front of him, and to either tape myself
doing it, or tape our session while in
bed. That only happened once because he
didn't like how he looked on camera...Lol.
Spontaneous moments help. Variety helps
(the place, position, toys, etc).
Setting the mood helps. You can try
feeding each other different erotic foods,
and then using them in/on your body.
Flavored massage oils. If you are
comfortable enough with it you can even
get into role playing, bondage, etc.
There are also love making, or couples,
coupons that you can print on-line that
describe different acts to do.
Be creative. The only thing that you
should do before hand is maybe talk to
your partner about how far you both are
willing to go with it. You, or him, may
have some bounaries to define what you
would, and would not, be willing to
try/do.
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tsweitzer
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2005 Posts: 95 Location: Maryland
Posted: 11-20-05 12:41pm
I am 22 years old and also a newly wed,
but I am slso 28 weeks pregnant...I am
having the same problem...We have tried
many things in the bedroom and we used to
have sex 3 times a day too...I think after
months of this I started to get bored with
the same old routine...So you know how
they say you know what you like best as
far as what turns you on...Well then kind
of came into play...I get into doggystyle
position and have him touch me from
behind..This seems to get me going
anyway..Then I let him rub up against me
and then once I end up back on my back I
am ready to go and have never not had an
orgasm. Talking dirty to eachother was a
little weird for us, but we now do this
also..And hearing him repeat what I say or
having him say naughty things is also a
turn on. Are you into porn at all? Try
that..Either alone and then join him in
the bedroom or make a date with it ...
