In the uk nothing would happen as long as your not under 16 you fine. I believe that in america as long as you dont say that he raped you, that nothing will happen to you. I was just wondering if you were planning to get pregnant.

In canada unless he raped you nothing would happen to him

Depends on the state. In texas (which is says you are from) the law is covered by 21.11 it appears and the age of consent is 17. If you were under 17 it would be considered indecency with a child. But if you are 17 you are ok.

Yea I am 17 so it would be ok... Well I dont know about planning on getting preanet I am on bc and everything I just wanted to know bc u never know what could happen but thank ya

I am 24. I remember last year and I do still remember what it was like to be 17. As mature as I was at 17, I would not be prepared to handle a relationship (other than just sex) with someone who is 23.


Since, at 17, you tend to think of yourself as grown, adult, sophisticated, etc., it is up to those who are older than you, who have grown more as a person, and who have had more life experience to leave you be until you are at a point to hold and maintain a mutually beneficial and fulfilling relationship, as an adult. I don't know what this 23 year old is after or whether he really likes you or not but I can say that you are probably not prepared for this relationship and he should know better.

The only comparison that I can make is - freshman year in highschool all of the senior guys suddenly seemed interested in most of us. They asked us out and we swooned at the thought of a big, tall, senior with a car and cool clothes to drive us to the movies on friday night. After a short amount of time, these same guys started pushing for sex and if you did have sex with them, they broke up with you because they got what they were after all along. If you didn't have sex with them, they eventually became bored with you (because you were so young, probably still had a curfew that they didn't, and did not fully understand some of the pressures they were personally going through as an older person). And, after they did inevitably break up with you, you were crushed and figured out what older guys most often really want.


I am afraid for you that this 23 year old is only after sex and that you are going to get used and that it will crush you if it happens. You have a large amount of time to date guys in their 20's, you will have ample opportunity to do so. Enjoy being 17.


I will never be as free as I was at 17. I will never be as young. Enjoy dating silly boys while you have the chance. Enjoy relationships that are simple (because the older you get and when you start having sex in all of the relationships that you have, they become incredibly complicated). You do not need to date someone who is 23 to proove to the world that you are somehow an adult, that you are mature, sophisticated, and intelligent. In fact, I would think of you as being all of those things if you decided not to date this guy. Please don't set yourself up for heartache and sadness.

I think it really depends on where you live - the last time I knew, if you're a minor and have a sexual relationship with an adult, the adult can be charged with statuatory rape, even if you gave him consent to have sex with you.

I can't stress this enough...If you don't want to get pregnant, utilize as much protection as possible. Birth control, condoms, spermicide, intra-uterine device (well maybe not this one because it's so expensive), whatever. But it's good that you are using some protection now...Always be careful.

Me and hubby started dating on my 18th bday, hubby was 26 and well everyone told me he was after sex ironically we shared the same views and if our relationship worked we would get married and well it happened.
I have to agree with other post though men do think about sex and some arent ready to commit they want sex without strings and I guess alot of woman fall vuleranble to this.

Not all men are like this or else I wouldnt be married, I know alot of ppl dont get married today so you should have a heart to heart with bf about what ifs just to see what his views/morals are. Im going on 22 next month and well its been 4 yrs we have been together and 2 1/2 that we have been married but no matter what we promised each other we would stay together. Wish you luck and hope that this somewhat helped!!

Thanx for yalls help and well weve been talking since like feb so I dont know ive just been through a lot with one of my exs (he beat me) and well this other guy is not like that all I guess time will just have to tell but he does know how I feel that I am not ready for children so

at 24 I would have though you would be a little more open minded. I was dating a 23 yr old when I was 16 and now we are married and expecting our first child in april 2006. I was mature for my age, I had a tough few years when I was about 13 and I had to grow up fast to cope with that. My older brothers and I were also raised on a farm and were very indepentent from a young age. Guys my own age never had any appeal for me, they were to imature and pathetic so I always got along better with older guys, and I can assure you not all of them were after sex (sure some were). Maybe it had something to do with being raised in a rural situation where it is mostly a male community, and having brothers who were alot older than me, who knows but all the women in my family are married to older men (7yrs at least) so my mum was very supportive of me and helped me to realise that there was nothing wrong with preferring older guys (my brothers weren't so supportive however)
i can assure you though that I am not the only person who feels this way about older men so please don't judge everyone on your own experences. Maybe you weren't ready for a relationship at 17 and preferred dating young guys but not everyone is the same.

not really, I live in texas, and I started dating my now husband when I was 14, he was 21, and we started having sex wheni was 14 and he was 21, I wrote it in my journal that we were having sex and everything, so when I ran away my mom took my journal up to the court house and showed the judge and the judge could not do anything about it unless I stated that I didn't want it to happen, so nothing could happen to you.

i really appreciate u repling both of you its just jenn after I read ur reply and it got me thinking alot and asking questions.....And sarah you are rite I guess my life does corespond more to you because he does love me and hopefully someday we will be as happy as u..


I apprecitae both of them because I got the ? I needed answered answered and sarah u got my hopes up and just made my day thanks everyone

thanks ill keep yall posted

Good luck with every thing and I hope it all works out for you.