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I'm 47 and i've suffered erectile dysfunction now for nearly 10 years but it gets worse and worse! The trouble is, I have a stronger interest and desire for sex now than I had in my 20's but I can't get an erection strong enough to penetrate!!!

I can still ejaculate, but it's through a semi-flaccid hose-pipe and I always end up feeling disgusted and ashamed of myself for not being a "real man"!!!

To add insult to injury, I had a mild heart attack a few months ago so my gp has told me viagra and related drugs are now firmly off limits!!!

Please, please help - I do feel as though life is no longer worth it! The only thing that has kept me going is the knowledge that i'm not alone!
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First Helper DiscoJag
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replied November 18th, 2005
Hi
Hi, I just wanted to tell you that you are more of a "real man" than 99% of the males that I know. It takes alot of courage to come in a room and talk about issues like this... Having a erection isn't what makes a man...A complete nucklehead can do that and still act like a little boy...It is the maturity and character of a male that makes a "man" and I believe that you have that character. Although sex is a great thing to experience it isn't the only thing in the world...There are other things out there to live for...I wish you all of the best of luck

~brit~
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replied November 18th, 2005
Ed
At least you had some years to enjoy yourself. I feel the same and my problem hasnt improved and iam 20. I got to enjoy my sex life for a few years and now it is gone. Drugs use to work while the ed occured and now they dont work at all for some reason. I know what it is like, I have ended many relationships because of this and sometimes suicide seems good when you think about your future being without a girl. But you have to pick up somewhere, think of people in wheelchairs, drug addicts, mentally disabled people. Things could still get worse than they are. I fell into drinking myself to sleep on weekends, trying ecstasy, any drug I didn't care, like what did I have to live for right. Wrong, the ecstasy made me forget all the great memories I had, it was hard to read, thiink or anything. That was two weeks ago, and I am almost back to normal and now I realize things can get worse, and I have seen urologists, counselors, general doctors. I am putting my hope that sex therapists can help me and I got a referal for vascular studies with uc davis, and after that I dont know
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replied November 19th, 2005
Redzonebikes - thanks for that! It is indeed comforting to know that you are not alone. You, with your life ahead of you, obviously will dream of a happy family life - wife, kids, the whole thing - and I really hope you can get it sorted!

In that respect, I am fortunate - I have been married for 24 years and have two children of 19 and 16 years old. The thing is, I want to stay married and this ed thing really does put a strain on things!

To begin with, my wife was wondering if I was "playing away" - now she thinks it's because I no longer find her attractive (certainly not the case as her good looks and elegance have not deteriorated with age!)

how long I can put up with this, I don't know! Like you, I see people in wheelchairs or badly deformed bodies - or the lad from liverpool who's skin just kept falling off - just getting on with life and putting up with their lot and I get an enormous "guilt trip!"

......Howver, if anyone out there could help us, it would be gratefully appreciated!
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replied November 22nd, 2005
Try eating and excise right, your heart is a muscle as well as the rest of your body. Seafood, eggs (raw), and peanuts are all high in protein. I can drink orange juice with two raw eggs and I ready to go. I tried pills but doesn't work all the time. Your health is the key to good sex....
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replied February 16th, 2012
Mind, Body, Spirit
Hey, guys, I'm new to this site, but I'm feeling the need to share: a few years back I experienced a prolonged episode of ED. I had just met the love of my life, and consummating that love just wasn't happening. Having a natural aversion to chemicals and pills in general -- can't explain it, just the thought makes me nauseous even typing it right now -- Viagra, etc. wasn't an option.
So I took a different route.
Having long been interested in holistic medicine and the mind body connection, I came to the conclusion that the natural intelligence of my body was trying to communicate something to me. But what was it communicating? Thankfully, I had been practicing yoga for years and the woman I'd fallen in love with was an Ayurvedic Practitioner and she explained the nature of chi (life force) to me and that the last line of our immune defense lives in our semen. Could it be, I thought, that my body was actually doing exactly what it was supposed to? So I spent the next year, I know, not exactly a quick fix, examining my mind, body and spirit.
Thinking of myself as a pretty healthy guy, I was shocked to find that my diet was entirely wrong for my body type (I had been an uneducated vegetarian), way low in testosterone producing foods, way high in estrogen producing foods like soy (bars, cookies, sauce, protein powder). Evidence of this was the growing fatty layer beneath my pectorals, or man boobs. Got rid of the soy, man boobs disappeared. Sporadic erections began to appear but nothing consistent. I kept looking.
I found that I was eating too late in the morning, and not enough midday. I was essentially not feeding my life force and actually draining it to the point of depletion. And I began to realize that I had depleted my body so much, that it was, in fact, refusing to give up its last line of immune defense: my semen. I know this sounds crazy and will be met with much skepticism but it was true for me. I added much more fresh vegetables and lean meats to my diet. I had quit playing sports like basketball, which I thoroughly enjoy and get the blood circulating (Hurray for circulation!). I started playing in a regular game -- and laughing more while was playing. Laughter being key. I hadn't been sleeping well and too little. Having learned that the hours between 10pm - 12pm are the key hours of regeneration for our bodies I started making 10pm my bedtime. More erections but still not 100%. I had to look deeper.
I finally realized that my spirit was broken. I had never met much success as a writer, financial or otherwise, and was feeling impotent as a man -- especially as I crossed into the land of 40-something. I was engaged in relationships -- past and present, friendships, family, all of it -- that were unsatisfying and toxic. I was basically depleted on all fronts. I cut loose many of those relationships. I decided that writing would be my hobby and something I would do for fun. I got a real job -- and starting making enough to pay more than the rent. I slept more, ate well, meditated, and pursued an emotionally intimate relationship with the same woman (god bless her for sticking with me) that wasn't just about sex (the previous pattern for my entire adult dating life).
And after about a year of examining and exploring and adjusting, my erections finally became consistent and are to this day. We eventually married and have a beautiful little girl. But, there are times when I feel myself depleting, the warning signals are all there, and now instead of cursing them, I honor them immediately. In fact, I look at my penis as the bellweather of my health on all fronts, mind, body, and spirit. And I'm grateful now, instead of ashamed, when it warns me with the mother o
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replied February 16th, 2012
of all boycotts. Sorry for the longwinded reply, been keeping this to myself for a while.
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replied February 16th, 2012
I agree with Sundell for the most part. ED is a bell weather to your health. Circulation is key, and plaque build up in your arteries. I had ED pretty bad for a few years. I'm 56, and I have bigger and longer erections than ever in my life now. It did take a while, but my whole life and health is better. I started with detoxing. I had poor circulation in my legs and arthritis issues. I've used all natural herbs and supplements and improved my diet. I've always exercised to some extent and keep it up. I've done the niacin and sauna routine, chlorella, ginseng, gingko, burdock root, cod liver oil, dry skin brushing, lymph cleansing, drinking clay (really). My overall health was deteriorating, now I feel as if I'm growing younger. Processed foods, preservatives, hormones, pestcides, parasites, artificial flavors and colors, heavy metals and pharmaceuticals - get them out of your body and don't put them back !
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replied February 23rd, 2012
bea: If you smoke, or consume alchol you're better off quiting. Exercise as best you can, there are some muscle stimulating exercises you can do.
However if you have had a mild heart attack you may want to get yourself checked for other possible vascular disease. You may also want to get your testosterone checked to see if you are in the normal range. As low testosterone can cause ED, you also need to learn to de-stress, try some relaxation techniques.
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