Hi, I just wanted to tell you that you are more of a "real man" than 99% of the males that I know. It takes alot of courage to come in a room and talk about issues like this... Having a erection isn't what makes a man...A complete nucklehead can do that and still act like a little boy...It is the maturity and character of a male that makes a "man" and I believe that you have that character. Although sex is a great thing to experience it isn't the only thing in the world...There are other things out there to live for...I wish you all of the best of luck

~brit~

At least you had some years to enjoy yourself. I feel the same and my problem hasnt improved and iam 20. I got to enjoy my sex life for a few years and now it is gone. Drugs use to work while the ed occured and now they dont work at all for some reason. I know what it is like, I have ended many relationships because of this and sometimes suicide seems good when you think about your future being without a girl. But you have to pick up somewhere, think of people in wheelchairs, drug addicts, mentally disabled people. Things could still get worse than they are. I fell into drinking myself to sleep on weekends, trying ecstasy, any drug I didn't care, like what did I have to live for right. Wrong, the ecstasy made me forget all the great memories I had, it was hard to read, thiink or anything. That was two weeks ago, and I am almost back to normal and now I realize things can get worse, and I have seen urologists, counselors, general doctors. I am putting my hope that sex therapists can help me and I got a referal for vascular studies with uc davis, and after that I dont know

Redzonebikes - thanks for that! It is indeed comforting to know that you are not alone. You, with your life ahead of you, obviously will dream of a happy family life - wife, kids, the whole thing - and I really hope you can get it sorted!

In that respect, I am fortunate - I have been married for 24 years and have two children of 19 and 16 years old. The thing is, I want to stay married and this ed thing really does put a strain on things!

To begin with, my wife was wondering if I was "playing away" - now she thinks it's because I no longer find her attractive (certainly not the case as her good looks and elegance have not deteriorated with age!)

how long I can put up with this, I don't know! Like you, I see people in wheelchairs or badly deformed bodies - or the lad from liverpool who's skin just kept falling off - just getting on with life and putting up with their lot and I get an enormous "guilt trip!"

......Howver, if anyone out there could help us, it would be gratefully appreciated!

Try eating and excise right, your heart is a muscle as well as the rest of your body. Seafood, eggs (raw), and peanuts are all high in protein. I can drink orange juice with two raw eggs and I ready to go. I tried pills but doesn't work all the time. Your health is the key to good sex....