How do I help him through this, he is fighting the divorce and making things ugly and making me feel guilty. It has been this way for some time, he has a disease that has caused some strain on us but that has nothing to do with this. Their are so many things I have never gotten from our relationship b/c I have spent to much time taking care of him, especially from this summer when he was there with 6 operations with the last one life altering for the two of us. I love him so much as a person but not a husband. I want out and he wont let me willing and I am trying to make this as easy as possible....