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youngandpregnant
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Joined: 18 Nov 2005
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Location: London, UK
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Whether I'm Keeping the Baby Or Not
Posted: 11-18-05 10:11am
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I cant decided whether to keep my baby or
not. Im scared my life is gonna be stuck
but then i've already guessed in my heart
shes a girl. I have a name for her and
everything. At first I wanted a boy but
now I know shes a girl. I'm so unsure
what I want, most of the time I wish I
wasnt pregnant but then I think are my lil
baby t******* (i cant release her name
because its one of a kind. I dont want
anyone to steal it) and then I get so
happy but then I remember my situation and
think maybe its better I wasnt pregnant.
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me_plus1
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Posted: 11-18-05 10:15am
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Keep your baby. I know it is scary and
you may feel unsure about the road that
lies ahead, but remember baby t doesn't
have a choice. Make the right choice for
her. Keep her.
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youngandpregnant
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Location: London, UK
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You Sound Just Like My Friend
Posted: 11-18-05 10:17am
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But its hard enough to be pregnant and
almost 17. Then a mother and 17. So
still scared and unsure and running out of
time
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Jackie27
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Location: Indiana
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youngandpregnant
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Joined: 18 Nov 2005
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Location: London, UK
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Umm..
Posted: 11-18-05 10:21am
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me_plus1
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Location: Georgia
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Posted: 11-18-05 10:24am
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Find a support group. Whether it's your
family, a group of friends, or people from
church (if you go). It's going to be
scary. Whether you are 17, 24, or 35.
It's scary. But if you have a strong
support group they can help you weigh your
options. They will also be there for
emotional support and to help you not feel
so alone. From what you wrote I don't
believe you want to get rid of her, so
don't. Follow that instinct and believe
that everything will work out for the
best. Just because you have a baby
doesn't mean that life around you will
stop. Be determined to accomplish your
dreams. Even more so because you have a
little one to raise.
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youngandpregnant
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Location: London, UK
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Thank
Posted: 11-18-05 10:29am
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My family arent behind the pregnancy
really. My friends arent very supportive
as I through. So maybe the church will be
good. My new boyfriend is very
supportive. So I have him at least. My
ex is supportive too soo I have him as
well.
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michelle1981
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Youngandpregnant..
Posted: 11-18-05 12:14pm
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Whatever you decide, do it for you and
your baby..... Nobody else.
You don't want to regret what you do so
make sure it's what you really want.
Nobody here can tell you whether to keep
the baby or not....You'll be the one to
change, feed, clothe and love it!
If you need any support we're all here for
you hun :d
take care.. And best of luck!
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Sammy001
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Posted: 11-18-05 12:42pm
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I think you should keep the baby. I know
many people who gave their baby's up, and
they regret it so much. Every time their
birthday passes, christmas, etc. They
always wonder what if??
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but_r_fly8
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Posted: 11-18-05 13:05pm
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I would keep the baby. But this has to be
your decision. Even though your family is
not really behind you or your friends,
trust me there are people out there that
will be behind you. You say your new b/f
is supporting you so there is one person
right there. It is all frightening trust
me. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my
little girl and I didn't even have family
around. My family lived in guam and I in
the us. But I did have the church. I am
so happy that I kept my little girl. She
lights up my life. She is now two and I
am married. Things have a way of
happening for a reason. Maybe your little
t is here for a certain perpose but she
wont have that perpose if you don't keep
her. Just think long and hard about it.
And remember you always have all of us.
Good luck! We all wish you the best.
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youngandpregnant
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Location: London, UK
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Posted: 11-18-05 15:37pm
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Your all very supportive. I've decided to
see what the people of my church say. I'm
glad I join this forum noones been rude or
judgemental of my situation. Everyone
here is different. My friends have told
everyone I know so i'm being called a
promiscuous person. So I really need
people to be supportive
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britney0581
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Hi
Posted: 11-18-05 15:45pm
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Hi, I think that you should keep your
baby....I know it's hard...I just recently
had a miscarriage and I wish that I had
him....It's even harder to lose your child
I think...Do what you think is best for
your child...But I would recommend that
you keep her....She is a treasure and even
though it is scary and hard because you
are so young don't forget your love for
her....Having a baby doesn't stop the
world....It will keep going...If you
remain focused and goal oriented you can
still achieve everything that you want to
in life....With your baby right there by
your side....I wish you all the best of
luck....
~brit~
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youngandpregnant
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Location: London, UK
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Thax Brit
Posted: 11-18-05 16:09pm
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Thax brit what you've said is making me
really thinnk
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MAL3430
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Location: Milwaukee
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Posted: 11-18-05 16:15pm
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I too had a child when I was young. And
my family was not behind me as well. But
I decided to keep my son, my family came
around and they are all a huge part of his
life.
I do not regret my decision at all. Yes
it is hard, yes it is trying however it
was right for me. And you will have to
make the right decision for yourself.
Keep in mind - there are many orgs. Out
there to help you with your decision, and
they may be able to help you get into
touch with other mothers your age to help
your decision.
Another thing, if you have already named
her, we both know what you want, do what's
in your heart, yes it will be hard - but
life is hard, if it was easy it wouldn't
be so much fun.
Good luck
michelle
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youngandpregnant
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Thax
Posted: 11-18-05 16:24pm
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I think your idea of being with other
mothers to be my age might help. Do you
know how I would find young mothers my
age, from my area.
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LuvingMommy
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Location: California
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Posted: 11-18-05 17:47pm
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This is such a hard dession for anyone,
but the first thing I think of when I read
your post is it is to late.....Your baby
is already a baby at 20 weeks. Legally it
is considered a death. This is just hard
for me to hear because I am trying to have
a baby and I have also lost one. If you
decide not to keep your baby please use
protection for now on. I no how scared
you are right now, and I am sorry for
that, but if you decide that you just
cannot take care of your baby, there is
adoption. It is the best thing you can do
for your baby other then abortion. I wish
you all the best.........
Love, tammy
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youngandpregnant
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I Am Sorry to Hear That
Posted: 11-18-05 17:55pm
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I'm sorry you are unable to have a baby.
I did use protection, I didnt wish to
pregnant so young. I know now my baby is
full grown now but being immature as I am,
I just put my head in the sand. Now time
is growing close and I am unsure I need to
make my decsion real soon. I know I sound
so ungrateful but iam young and have
little support. So i'm scared and I dont
know what to do.
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LuvingMommy
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Posted: 11-18-05 18:02pm
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I am sorry you feel all alone.....That is
the worst feeling in the world. It is a
hard dession to make I am sure. It is
also hard to be a young mother if you have
not got any help. May I ask if the father
is in the picture?
Love, tammy
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youngandpregnant
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Location: London, UK
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Baby Daddy
Posted: 11-18-05 18:50pm
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His a good person and wants to be a father
and looking forward to it but h'es young
and live pretty far away. So he's not
much support. My new bf is supportive but
its alot to ask him to support me if his
not the baby's daddy.
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drewsbabygirl
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Location: sodus michigan
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Hey I Am
Posted: 11-18-05 19:30pm
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Hey I am 18 and I am also married to a
wonderful older guy. You well get throu
it youngandpregnant. I know you well.I
well also. I remember before I grad from
high school this year that I wanted a baby
really bad I think it was because I was
going to a school that almost all the
girls was pregnant.I didnt get pregnant
til after I gradulate from high school. I
found out I was pregnant august 3rd. I
was happy yeah but then we are going throu
a money situation. Now I am almost
20weeks and I wish I kinda waited since I
am only 18. My hubby is like 11 years
older. His family well help if we need it
I just wish there was something I could do
for you...Hey if you would like to chat
sometime feel free to im me..I have yahoo
messager:->>>>sweetgirl49022
or damddrewsgirl4ever
hope to hear from you
have a nice day
becky
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