Well first off, I will not tolerate such careless responses on how someone " doesn't want to have this baby". That is no ones responsibly but your own! You should of thought about the chances of becoming pregnant when you first started having sex. Its called something of "birth control". Yea, it is not clearly 100% effective but nothing is besides abstinence's. So do not post on this forum about how you are so unhappy that you are pregnant when there are ones out there that wish they could have a baby. Wish that they could start a family while there are others like you, hatting on the fact that you are a mommy-to-be. That is such an immature act I must say! God bless you!

Its called the double bluff. The condom and the pill but I had to come off the pill due to my beliefs and the side affects. And the fact I had a chemical in balance so I dont think anyone should really use the pill. I'm sorry if it sound I hate my baby I just stress that I will hate my baby because i'll regret it. I dont mean to pick on lil girls who wish to have baby's but I dont think they see the seriousness of having a baby.

Maybe your thinking to much on the negitive sides of a ababy, have u thought about the positive at all! There are some people out there who are infertile and wish nothing but to have a baby and your taking it for granted!. I dont believe in abortion, but if thats why you choose to do, do it, but if your bf says he wants the baby and you wouldnt mind going threw all the pain of having it, maybe you can have the baby and give him all the rights to it. But I hope you just choose what is best for you and the baby. Hope all goes well

Before I became pregnant I never believed in abortion, I thro and still think its wrong and unfair to the baby. But I dont wish to be one of thros mother that regret having a baby and hate it for the rest of my life. I believe that if I do have an abortion that I more then likely will be heading to hell as I dont believe its right to kill people. But I have lil support and pretty much alone.

You know what, I dont come on here often anymore.. And i'm not going to critisize you.. I understand the emotions that you are going through, and I know how they can really throw you and your usually better judgements out of wack. In my feeling, if you are going to get an abortion you better have a really good reason.. There are so many other options. If you feel like you can't care for your child properly, then maybe you could let her get adopted by a family who could. There are things called open adoptions so that you and your bf could watch your child grow up...

When you say " I dont know whether or not I want my baby".. What you really mean is " I dont know whether i'm ready to raise and care for and be responsible for a child"

the situation your in is a tough one. I miscarried a baby girl last year when I was only fifteen. I was absolutely devastated. Not that i'd been trying for a bay when I got pregnant, but it happened and I accepted it as part of my life, and I grew to love the life that was developing inside of me.

Anyways, i'll stop rambling but I think my point was this: only you can make this descion. Dont make a descion because of what your friends think, or parents think and maybe even what your boyfriend thinks(he doesnt have to carry the child). It's your body and your baby.

Good luck, I really hope things work out with you.

I'm sorry i'm not very clear on what I say. I fear more then anything that i'll if I give birth to my baby I will grow to hate her. I would love to be ready for a baby but i'm not sure i'm ready to take care of another life. I wish I was, I wish I had a house and money and steady life for my baby. Adoption is an option but what if I have the baby and fall in love with her then I have to give her up. I've decided to make the right decsion for my baby so either give birth or adoption.

Like I said, I understand.. It's really hard. I truly dont believe you'd ever hate your own child. You might hate the fact that your own adolescence was cut short, or that you werent able to give her everything she deserves. I hope you just follow your heart and do what you feel is best.

Remember, god does not put things is front of you that you cannot handle.

Thax you I hope I do make the right decsion.

thats why they have adoption.

I hope you do the right thing. I havea friend who is adopted, and she dosnt mind, she realises her birth mom couldnt handle keeping her because her mom was 16, and my friend has health issues that cost her family around 500 dollers a month on meds. Its sad really, but I hope u make the right distion. Hope all goes well..

I hope I really do make the best descion for my baby

.The "right" decision for you is the one you feel most comfortable with and the one that you know you can live with.

It is not unreasonable to think that you will regret having a child. It does happen. Unfortunately, childbirth is not, for many, many women, a large hallmark moment where they instantaneously fall in love with the resulting child (i'm not saying that this isn't the case for anyone, just that I have heard many women say that they had to have time to fall for their child). My cousin admitted that it took her two full days to love and appreciate her son and a little bit longer for her daughter (her daughter had to have surgery so the separation could have been to blame for that).

There is no one way to be a mother or to become a mother and every woman's experiences are different. It is up to you if you want to experience that at all or even at this time.

In the end, the choice is yours. If you don't have a problem with remaining pregnant, if you can obtain proper care, and if you don't have a problem with going through childbirth, then you have two choices. To parent the resulting child or to give it up for adoption. If you decide on adoption, there are very likely a plethora of agencies in your area. Do some research, though, before you sign up with one. You do have the right to choose, yourself, the people who will parent your child. You also have the right, even if the agency has taken care of everything, to change your mind.

If you decide to parent the resulting child, you will probably need some support. My sister was 19 and had had only one semester of college when she became pregnant. She had to live with our parents for a further five years to complete her education. It will be much easier on you to continue your education so that you can someday support a child and yourself if you have the support that lets you continue on with your current path.

You are the only expert of your life. You are the only one who can make any of these decisions and all that the rest of us can do is wish you luck in whichever choice you decide on.
Best of luck and keep us posted.
Peace,
jenn

It doesn't matter whether you're 17 or 47 a baby can and will change your life, but only if you let it. It doesn't stop you from achieving your goals, it might put your life on hold for a while, but like I said, it doesn't stop you. One of my friends had her daughter when she was 18, she left her job for a year, now my friend is 23 and her daughter is 5 and she just got her diploma in childcare, yes, if she didn't have a baby she would have completed her diploma a few years b4, but she was dedicated and got there in the end. I'm 23 and have a 1 year old, but don't plan on going back to work 'til hayleys in school, but thats my choice. I hope you do whats best for your situation. Hopefully your relatives and friends are there to help and support you no matter what. Best of luck :)

I understand your fears, youngandpregnant. I'll say right out that I have never been in your situation, but I think I can relate to your feelings. I myself hate children with a burning passion, and I have decided already that i'll do whatever I can to see that I never have children because I know I would not be able to raise them how they should be raised. I know I would probably immediately despise my child and look at it as a plague upon my life; i'm the kind of person who would smack a kid across the head if it does something wrong or annoys me because I have no patience with children of any age.

Now, i'm not at all saying that children are bad and that no one should have them ever again. People who really do not want children will dislike their kids to varying degrees. But no one here can tell you what you should do with your child - it is growing within your body and you may decide what will become of it. You can choose to raise it, put it up for adoption, or abort it. Despite the major controversy over abortion, there is no "wrong" choice here; do what your heart tells you to do. If you feel that you just are not ready for a child at this time in your life, consider adoption.

The only thing I can tell you is to please consider all of your options before making a final decision. Granted, a child will not stop you from ever achieving anything good in life, but you will need to put your education on hold for a while because of it. Do remember...When you have a child, you don't come first anymore. Good luck to you, whatever choice you may make; I hope things will work themselves out for you.

what a horrible person you are, saying that because you have no patience that you'd smack your kids up side the head if they annoyed you, I bet you probably annoy people yourself, do you get smacked upside the head??? I understand that not everyone wants children, but there are people out there that say that then if or when they become pregnant and have their child its the best thing that ever happen to them. So what if someone else (e.G a child) comes first, so what if your life is on hold for a short while. I pray to god that you never get pregnant and if you do, give your child up for adoption to someone who will love it and not make it feel as if it was a burden.

I'm not going to argue with you, mum2bubba - I too pray to god I never get pregnant. I can't help the fact that I dislike children - i'm not good with kids. Some people can make that commitment to another young life, and others just can't - i'm one of those who can't. I'm not saying I would purposely abuse or neglect my child, because, as much as I hate kids, i'd never intentionally hurt one. But I know I could never give a child the love it needs and it would end up neglected, and I would probably choose to go the road of adoption.

I'm not saying having children in general is bad, because I know some people love babies and say it's very rewarding to have a child and raise it - that's their own opinion, just as disliking children is mine.

Anyway, like I said, i'm not going to argue about this - this topic isn't about what I like and don't like, so let's not take away from the original intent of the topic so the author can get the answers she seeks.

Im 7 weeks pregnant and im in my second year at college/university,ive got this year untill june (im due in the end on june) and next year. Nothings chaning except im moving in with my boyfriend before I give birth.
I dont think there should be any problems for you and your education if you really want it!
Xxx

Its your body hun, the only advice I can give is do what you think is best for you and your emotional well being as that is extremely important!!!

Im pregnant with #2 and there have been days I have been terrified and days that im happy about, I have one daughter and I forget how to handle them when they are so small as well as now i'll have two lol!
I'm 21 and their are somedays im afraid can I give elisa the same love I do now as well as baby and what about sibling rivalry, so although I have had one I have another learning expierence to happen but I made that choice and now im walking the path.

No one has any right to tell you what to do like I said its your choice, I didnt like my daughter when first born(baby blues) and no joke took about three months for me to build a bond with her but I love her to death now. If you plan on having it I would help you if you needed someone to chat with or if you have an abortion I would have an open ear, I dont know anything about adoption so I cant really help but I can try.

Im so sick of people on here dissing others when people should be at least somewhat supportive instead of judgemental...............If anyone needs an open ear send me a message!!

Jess

why are you attacking someone for being honest?!? She has already said that she does not ever plan on having children so your comment about hoping that she never gets pregnant was wasted. Cambion was honest, brutally honest and I think that should be appreciated. Not everyone recognizes his/her own limitations and shortcomings. Here's a fact. There are people in this world who do not like children. Here's another. Everyone is not cut out for child rearing. Everyone in the world is not cut from the same cloth. It takes all kinds. Just because someone recognizes that they have no patience where children are concerned doesn't mean that he/she isn't a basically good person. Cambion already has proved to be good by deciding to not have any children. And here's some more reality for everyone. Just because someone has a baby doesn't meant that they will love that child or treat the child well. Take off your rose colored glasses! I have a friend who resents her children because she feels that they ruined her chance of being a track star. She refuses to accept responsibitlity for her children being born. She doesn't physically abuse her children but I don't believe that they are being loved or nurtured like they should be. It does happen. Everything doesn't always come up roses. I think that those children would have been better off had they been given up for adoption. I personally was overwhelmed when I first learned that I was pregnant. I didn't want to be and I resented the baby (and my husband) for a day or two. But then I had to accept the responsibility for my own actions. I knew I was being selfish. Now i'm looking forward to my child's birth. I am already in love with my child. Not everyone gets to that point. Not everyone is meant to get to that point. Anyhoo, I hope my point came across, although, i'm afraid it didn't. Thanks, cambion for knowing yourself well enough to know your limitations, and being responsible enough to do what you know is best for you!!! Okay i'll stop rambling now.