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Q: What Should I Do???

asked by: CASEY217 on November 17th, 2005

New User

Hello...Im 16 and recently just found out that im pregnant. Ive been posting on here for a couple days now and got a couple peoples advice, but im still trying to make a decision here. Okay, so yea...Originally (before I even became pregnant), the plan was to have an abortion if nething went wrong between my bf and I (by wrong I mean getting pregnant). But now that I am, I kinda feel like I want to keep the baby!? Is this wrong for me to think this way so young?? I know my bf doesnt want a child and that hes 100% for abortion. But for some reason...I feel like I can't go through with that. I dunno what it is. I just need some reassurance or sumthing to help me make a decision. The other thing would be is if I decide to have the child, how will I tell me parents?? My dad had a child when he was 18 (the mom a little older than me) and so yea...Hes been through the same thing. But he wont understand...Neither will my mom. I really dont know what to do. What will people think of a 16 year old mother??? Im so scared and I really need some help...Thanks.

Kayla

Replies(6)

poohbear101

replied on November 17th, 2005

Experienced User

There are so many teens getting pregnant that most people just aren't really "phased" by it any more. Sure, everyone will have an opinion and some of those won't be good, but you will have people who will support you so I don't think you should worry about what others think. As for the abortion if you don't want to do it then don't do it. Don't let someone else make that kind of decision for you. Sure your bf may not won't a child right now, but he can't expect you to go through with something that makes you uncomfortable. It's not right. You should sit down with him and explain to him why you feel like you can't have the abortion. Maybe it'll help him understand. My bf didn't want kids either but now that i'm pregnant he's into it and he's excited about being a father. As for your parents, sure they may be disappointed and pissed at first but thats just really the natural reaction. But they may surprise you and be more understanding than you think. Just be honest with both of them and your bf.

oh_mommy

replied on November 17th, 2005

Supporter

I agree with poohbear101 you'll be surprised how ur parents react, most people come on here all freaked out then say later on that they're parents came to a understanding after like 3 days. So dont worry, everything will be ok, trust me, everything happens for a reason, maybe your just ment to have a baby with this guy, and I hope he treats u right

CASEY217

replied on November 17th, 2005

New User

Thanks for the advice. I will try and tell my parents (well my mom for shure neways) and yea...Well see how it goes from there I guess.

Thanks again
kayla

oangelc543

replied on November 18th, 2005

Experienced User

Only you can make the descion. I see so many girls who say "what will my parents think?.. What will my friends think?.. What will everyone think of me?".. It doesnt matter.. What matters is, how do you think of yourself? If you feel strong enough and confident enough to carry, care for and love your baby then go for it. If you feel hesitant towards abortion right now, its going to be very hard for you to go through. Its a painful process(emotionally), more so then some girls imagine. If you think your going to regret an abortion, then dont get one. If you still feel that you arent ready or capable of raising your baby then consider other options.

Just really consider all of your options before you make a descion. I hope everything works out for you, listen to your heart. God doesnt put things in front of you that you cannot handle.

19mommy

replied on November 19th, 2005

Experienced User

I agree with oangelc543, dont make a decision on what ur parents or bf want or will say. If you bf didnt want a child he should have been more careful. A baby is a product of how u both felt mature enough to be adults by engaging in sexual acts now the responsibility should be both or yours. You seem to want to step up and take resp. So he should too. Do what ur heart wants. If you can not take care of your child adoption is always an option. But at least give your baby a chance to live. Please.

CASEY217

replied on November 22nd, 2005

New User

Thanks Everyone

Thanks to everyone who has responded. It means alot to me to know that there are people out there who I can talk to and who will listen. I felt so alone, but this site really made a difference. Thanks again

kayla

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