Hello...Im 16 and recently just found out
that im pregnant. Ive been posting on
here for a couple days now and got a
couple peoples advice, but im still trying
to make a decision here. Okay, so
yea...Originally (before I even became
pregnant), the plan was to have an
abortion if nething went wrong between my
bf and I (by wrong I mean getting
pregnant). But now that I am, I kinda
feel like I want to keep the baby!? Is
this wrong for me to think this way so
young?? I know my bf doesnt want a child
and that hes 100% for abortion. But for
some reason...I feel like I can't go
through with that. I dunno what it is.
I just need some reassurance or sumthing
to help me make a decision. The other
thing would be is if I decide to have the
child, how will I tell me parents?? My
dad had a child when he was 18 (the mom a
little older than me) and so yea...Hes
been through the same thing. But he wont
understand...Neither will my mom. I
really dont know what to do. What will
people think of a 16 year old mother???
Im so scared and I really need some
help...Thanks.
Kayla
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 11-17-05 01:22am
There are so many teens getting pregnant
that most people just aren't really
"phased" by it any more. Sure, everyone
will have an opinion and some of those
won't be good, but you will have people
who will support you so I don't think you
should worry about what others think. As
for the abortion if you don't want to do
it then don't do it. Don't let someone
else make that kind of decision for you.
Sure your bf may not won't a child right
now, but he can't expect you to go through
with something that makes you
uncomfortable. It's not right. You
should sit down with him and explain to
him why you feel like you can't have the
abortion. Maybe it'll help him
understand. My bf didn't want kids either
but now that i'm pregnant he's into it and
he's excited about being a father. As for
your parents, sure they may be
disappointed and pissed at first but thats
just really the natural reaction. But
they may surprise you and be more
understanding than you think. Just be
honest with both of them and your bf.
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oh_mommy
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Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 3729 Location: vancouver island, bc canada
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Posted: 11-17-05 01:48am
I agree with poohbear101 you'll be
surprised how ur parents react, most
people come on here all freaked out then
say later on that they're parents came to
a understanding after like 3 days. So
dont worry, everything will be ok, trust
me, everything happens for a reason, maybe
your just ment to have a baby with this
guy, and I hope he treats u right
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CASEY217
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Canada
Posted: 11-17-05 17:32pm
Thanks for the advice. I will try and
tell my parents (well my mom for shure
neways) and yea...Well see how it goes
from there I guess.
Thanks again
kayla
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oangelc543
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004 Posts: 521 Location: TX
Posted: 11-18-05 19:57pm
Only you can make the descion. I see so
many girls who say "what will my parents
think?.. What will my friends think?..
What will everyone think of me?".. It
doesnt matter.. What matters is, how do
you think of yourself? If you feel
strong enough and confident enough to
carry, care for and love your baby then go
for it. If you feel hesitant towards
abortion right now, its going to be very
hard for you to go through. Its a
painful process(emotionally), more so then
some girls imagine. If you think your
going to regret an abortion, then dont get
one. If you still feel that you arent
ready or capable of raising your baby then
consider other options.
Just really consider all of your options
before you make a descion. I hope
everything works out for you, listen to
your heart. God doesnt put things in
front of you that you cannot handle.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 11-19-05 14:39pm
I agree with oangelc543, dont make a
decision on what ur parents or bf want or
will say. If you bf didnt want a child he
should have been more careful. A baby is
a product of how u both felt mature enough
to be adults by engaging in sexual acts
now the responsibility should be both or
yours. You seem to want to step up and
take resp. So he should too. Do what ur
heart wants. If you can not take care of
your child adoption is always an option.
But at least give your baby a chance to
live. Please.
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CASEY217
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Canada
Thanks Everyone Posted: 11-22-05 00:23am
Thanks to everyone who has responded. It
means alot to me to know that there are
people out there who I can talk to and who
will listen. I felt so alone, but this
site really made a difference. Thanks
again
