Omg see I thought it was just my man when I want sex its no no no I dont want to but like days later when I am finnally comfortable not getting sex and the sex drive is gone he wants it and if I tell him no he getts all butt hurt ????? I dont know either I would just say its normal?????? I would like to know as well any responses will help thanks

I think its normal because when I want to have sex he tells me no. And he also says that a relationship is not based on sex. He says that he wants to hold me and be intimate.

i wish my husband would be like that more often. He wants sex all the time and I would just like to be held more. Don't get me wrong, he is very affectionate (spelling??) but there are times that i'd rather be held then have sex.

Teresa

Yeah I know how you all feel my husband wants it but we have a 5wk and 3day old baby so you can imagen. I have tried to talk him into it and then we get started then bam the baby cries. I just dont know what to do. I really want to be with him I mean its been so long. What do you all think

It will get better. Plan to have sex when you know your baby is going to be sleeping for atleast an hour. Plus, it want hurt your baby to cry for about 10 minutes (make it a quicky!). Besides, you should wait 6 weeks post before having sex anyways.

Teresa

Well he doesnt want to cuddle either dangit

First of all thanks for responding. Well, I thought about the cuddle thing too. When we watch a movie, he sits a little farther away, when I give him a nice squeezy hug, his arms seem looser, and he seldom initiates sex! He has something to blame everytime, like, I don't like the food I ate, my stomach hurt, why am I so tired, and its almost like he wants to get away without having sex and wants me to sympathise with him! He doesn't have it even though all the the time I say, "i'll do the work", but the other night he's like, may be you should try something new. And ladies, I am as adventure lover as it goes! He does work with his ex, with who he had a miscarriage and somewhat good sex life, well, he wanted more than sex and the girl told him right upfront that she is in it for sex only. You think it has something to do with it??

Sex is so overrated. But then again, my sex drive is completely gone.
But that's a whole other issue. Lol

good luck hun. I'm sure your man will come around.

If the guy is healthy and physically active, ie sports, any physically attractive women will turn him on. Realize there is a difference between love and lust. You can love you wife but not necessarily lust her. When a women puts on weight, the lust factor, by definition, will decrease for the guy. You don't have to be a skinny model, but do keep yourself together. I am a guy, who wants sex 24/7, but when my wife put on weight, I preferred the internet. When she lost the weight, I was all over her! But I never would turn her down for sex. I have the high sex drive where as she does not.

I think it is just normal....because when I want it and go to do it he doesn't always want it....but then he wants it and if i don't he will be like fine then....I think it is just a man thing..Jenny