Lubricants diffinately work I am the same way and trust me they pay off big time

I think you will enjoy sex more if you use some type of lubricant. Use it during foreplay as well as durring sex. Foreplay is the key to orgasim and once you've had an orgasim you will enjoy having sex as often as you can.

I think something else is missing. You have emotional needs not being met. Maybe if he were more understanding it would relax you enough to be with him. I find that when I know my man wants it, he presses for it and it stresses me out and I emotionally don't feel like giving it to him. Its like a cycle, he wants it, he presses to get it, I get nervous, my sex drive drops due to anxiety about it and we don't have sex which leads to him getting more upset about it. He needs to give you a little space to break the cycle and learn to love having sex again. Lubricants...Never used them.

Thanks..It is true I do need more from him...I have talked to him about this also..I told him there are nights where I would just like to cuddle with him and spend the night in eachothers arms just vegging out and watching t.V. Without any sexual contact...He seems to comply at first but then his hands start roaming and I tell him to stop and then our little night turns into one big fight...When you are made to feel bad about nothing having se with your partner, and you end up giving in anyway to keep him happy, it turns into a headache of a chore. I started despising sex when he started getting mad when he didn't get it and like my grandma said men will let you be sick 2 days but never any longer..So even when I say I don't feel good it still doesn't matter..I am also 28 weeks pregnant now and my stomach makes sex even more uncomfortable so now sex is sometimes even more miserable. Don't get me wrong we do have good sex when I want it..But I need space like you said...I don't want it everyday.

Just keep pushing for your side to be heard. I know when he lays off pressuring me, sometimes I even feel like initiating sex, but I need him to support me while I learn to do this. Just one night without 'groping' will allow you to feel more comfortable with him! He doesn't understand...He thinks by touching you it will turn you on but it won't.

I agree with jadestone. I have the same problem with my husband. But he has figured out that bugging me wont get what he wants. I've learned to give it up when I don't want to, and we have a much happier marriage. Before he comes home from work I start to mentally get myself in the mood. It seems like alot of work, but in the end we have a great sex life, I always have an orgasm, and the #1 thing for me, he treats me great, and their is much much more getting along. It's so funny and pathetic at the same time how sex is an all encompasing thing for men. Women who think that they should only put out when their in the mood, are in for a rude awakening. Men and womens sex drives are so opposite, just imagine if you thought about sex 24 7 and had a hard on and your wife could help you out but wouldn't. You'd be pissed off too. The lubricant I use is astroglide, its great and is so not as messy as others. It's taken time but i've had to experiment with him with what foreplay turns me on. It also takes me forever to get wet, but he loves foreplay so it has worked out for both of us. Probablly most women are, or were in the same boat as you. Good luck!

i've been with my boyfriend for a year, and his got a very low libido, he enjoys sex very much when we do have it, and it is very romantic and special, but his never in the mood,
it makes me resent him, i feel angry, he can't explain it, he just doesn;t feel the need to do it as much as me...
i bring the subject up, and that just makes matters worst, i don't know what to do,

Pregnancy does have a tendancy to either make you hornier or have a low sex drive. It is normal for a pregnant woman to feel that way. I would actually tell him hey look I am preggers, and right now I have a lower sex drive and sometimes I am not up for it. My husband understood when I told him that for our second child because I wasnt feeling it towards the end, so he used the hand method lol Just be upfront with him. He needs to understand how a pregnant woman's body works. And as for lubricants, they do work!