Well I am an expert when it comes to other people but my own I am a reck. I think so far your being supportive , dont be scared just do your best. You are kind of young but its all about ones experiences that will guide you though life. During labor just make sure shes there with people that support her and love her. If its too rough on you wait outside, theres nothing wrong with that. In the mean time congradulations its a blessing. Now hard work and savings.

Well, I dunno if I can be much help but I am actually going through somewhat the same thing in a way. Maybe we can help each other. Neways, my name is kayla. Im 16 and just recently found out that i'm pregnant. I don't know what to do really...Like my boyfriend (we've been dating for 1 year) thinks that an abortion is the best thing to do. And I really am confused about what to do. In your case, both of you are for the pregnancy, in my case...Only one of us is. I mean, abortion is the easy way out but there are lots of teens that have went through with it and have come out find. Not saying it's easy that way but yea...Sorry im kind of rambling, but i'm really confused and it would be nice to hear from the "dads" point of view...

Kayla

You got one on the way?
Yeh my older brother, my girl is close with him is gunna be around, mainly as my support, just to make sure I can support her. He has a kid and has been through it. The deal is I dont wanna have ta wait it outside, I know she'll need me. Im hoping that once I learn everything I can about it, I might relax..Fear is just the unknown I guess??

Lata trav.

hey nice ta meet ya.
I think it's totally normal for the father to reject the idea at first.I remember when the doctor called up and asked if I was able to come down, I rocked up sat down, and yeh my girl told me. I freaked so bad, I paniced, I swore, it actually hurt me when I found out..I dunno why I was just cut as. But soon after I called her and yeh we had differences I wanted an abortion, but I would spend nights at her house and i'd be holding her and just thought, wow thatz my kid in there and yeh I dunno it's hard and im scared. Talk to him, get him to come on here and we can talk maybe, I wont convince him to do anything but it might help. Its hard coz I know a desicion needs to be made fast but relax, let him be natural about it, he is probably more scared then you, but doesnt wanna come across as less of a man.

Lata. Trav.

I would say from recent experience that pregnancy, labor and birth are the easy parts. It's the days, weeks, months and years afterwards that will really test your character.

My wife and I just had a baby. The pregnancy was anticipation, excitement, a little stress, a lot of waiting, but you're still baby-less.

Then they give birth, and it is absolutely amazing - it blew my mind.

Now it's a couple weeks later, and the stress has come on like a tidal wave. We're like walking zombies, total sleep deprivation, fighting about every little thing. The baby is cute all day and then stays up screaming all night, for no reason. I know, that's babies. The first few months are very stressful on a marriage. You will be tempted to blow it all off. Or you might be strong and stick there with her, support her. You have to support the baby and think of almost nothing else. You are locked down to the house and constantly feeding and monitoring. There are health scares and crises. You try to keep it alive. It's even harder for the mother because they might be breastfeeding and somehow always end up taking more responsiblity (maybe it's evolution) for the care.

If you decide you are going to be there for her, then be a 17 year old man and be there for her.

If you decide you can't deal once the baby is there, then do the right thing and seek professional guidance and support.

Do not leave her cold - that will haunt you forever.

It's tough man I know, but that's life.

Hope it helps

First I want to congrate you on being a young man!!! I think that is is great that you are staying with your gf, and having a baby is not the end of the world. There are a lot of programs out there to help you both get your high school and college education. Fear is a good thing ... I know that sounds stupid but fear motivates us to take care of your resposibilities. You are young but you both can still have it all as long as you have a strong support system. You can do this.... And labor is not all that bad drugs are great have her ask for an epidural, that will be like heaven. I had a difficult pregnancy but we move past that when we see our baby.
Good luck and you can do this!!!!

Hey, yea, this is scarey.... I am going through what you are... I am having a difficult pregnancy, and it's taking its toll on my fiancee. The thing that helps him is knowing that my doctor will do all that he can to help me have a safe and healthy delivery. Even though I am only 19 and about 3 1/2 months, its comforting to him. Being scared is nothing to be ashamed about. Though you might not want to tell your girl, talk to her.... That's how me and my guy are working through this. I am older then he is, so he is very scared especially for my heatlh. But talking out your feelings will help both of you. Especially if she knows then she can help to let know that everything will be ok. Don't bottle it up, because it will eventually get to you and you will get stressed out, and if that happens (this happened with me and my guy) you end up taking it out on her, and with her hormones and everything it could cause early labor. Or just a big fight, so talk calmly. Then you will feel better. Plus with all the technology we have today, there is a very good chance she will make it through labor and delivery.

Try it,
lizz

i just wanted to say young or not if I was your girlfriend I would be proud! You may only be 17 but you sound very supportive of your girlfriend and seem to have only her and the babys interests at heart. I am sure every new dad is nervous and scared, so try not to worry, I think you will cope just fine when the time comes for your child to be born and I reckon you will make a great dad! Good luck to you!