And All the Miles That Separate... Posted: 11-13-05 23:07pm
Hello forumers. Here's my plea.
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 4
months, and everything had been great.
But about a month ago he moved out west.
He rarely calls, rarely says he misses me,
and never says his feelings because he
says "i know them already". Not only is
this frustrating, but my very first love
since I was 12 years old has now become
quite close to me. He's 6 years older and
now that we've grown up quite a bit he's
starting to talk about feelings. It's
killing me because I know my best friend
better than anyone and even if I broke up
with my boyfriend he might not want to
make anything out of us anyway. I care a
lot about my boyfriend, but he's not here
anymore. It's like I don't have a
boyfriend but I can't date anyone else
because a cranky voice on the phone calls
every week to make sure. Any help?
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 11-16-05 13:16pm
I think you need to tell your bf how you
feel. I've had long distance
relantionships before but they're hard and
most of them just never work. If you're
not happy with how he's treating you tell
him that you need to hear how he feels in
order to still feel connected to him.
Having the person you love living far from
you in hard enough and hearing how they
feel is a way that makes it feel like
they're still there with you. Maybe you
should ask him, and really encourage him
to be honest, if he's having second
thoughts about the two of you now that
he's living away from home and can
experience new things and people. It may
hurt if he says yes, but at least you'd
know and you could then move on with your
own life. But remember that it's not just
his relationship either. You can decide
to break it off too, just don't do it in
hopes of getting together with the other
guy. Do it because it will make you happy
and then just see how things go with this
other guy. Good luck.
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Canada
Posted: 11-18-05 13:49pm
That's very true and very helpful, thank
you.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-26-05 09:24am
Long distance relationships are a waste of
time. Cut your losses and move on.
Life is too short.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Talk to Him. Posted: 01-13-06 19:30pm
Lily, tell him how you feel. He needs to
know that telling you the right words
count alot. He shld not assume you know
he loves you. We all know that, yet it
matters when we say them.
Don't give up just yet. Tell him first.
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leela
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 02-05-06 18:34pm
Lilypad stop being so negative or at least
keep it to yourself.
If it didnt work for u, doesnt mean ldrs
dont work.
Best of luck to the main poster
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Canada
Posted: 02-05-06 19:46pm
Truly I did break up with him and found
somebody who lives near by. Lily's right,
they just don't work.
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leela
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 02-05-06 23:55pm
They do work. It just didnt work for you.
Ldrs are not for everyone, they are for
strong people. I know a huge community of
people from all over the world who are in
ldrs now and been going for months and
years and who are together now after being
apart for moths and years, all of them are
happy, those who are together are happily
married now with kids.
Ldrs do work.
