you could ask her when shes due, or go to the docs apptment with her, they can estimate the date of conception and if they dont match with any dates you guys had sex, then there is a possibility it isnt yours. B.U.T. There may also be a possibility it is yours and so u'll have to do a dna test, and if she doesnt agree to one, then I think she would be hiding something. But please dont be a jerk. Help her out as much as you can because if the baby is yours and you might have missed out on important parts in his/her life

Hi..From what I have heard that you can ask for a paternity test...Now if the baby is not yours...You do not pay...But if the baby is yours you do...This test does have to be paid for.....But again like I said if you really feel that you did not get her pregnant then you wont have to pay for the test and you wont have to worry about being accused or held accountable for a child that is not your for the rest of your life. I would explain to her that you are going to have this done and that if it shows that you are not the father that she will have to pay...This will get her talking...Atleast to see if there was anyone else in the picture besides you.

Because it is all about whether you have to pay....What the $*(#*??? Grow up....Did you sleep with her within the time frame? If you did, man up! If she won't agree to a test that is her right. I'm sure that tempting thought of an extra $150 a month in child support will make her take the test.....Haha! Men!!!

Isnt a dna test risky for the baby.

this happened to my husband (at the time he was just about to become my boyfriend) with his psycho ex-girlfriend. She refused to take a pregnancy test with him in the next room (because he doubted from the start that she was pregnant at all). She refused to let him go to the doctor with her to confirm the pregnancy unless he promised to get back together with her and marry her. And she refused a dna test as well.

So, he refused to get back together with her, he flat out refused to marry her, he refused to give her one thin red dime for the doctors office or anything else - until she first, gave him confirmation from the doctors office that she was, in fact, pregnant and second, gave him dna confirmation that the child was his.

She refused and kept trying to drag it out and kept trying to get him to take her back.

Finally, after two months of frustration, my husband called her mother to tell her everything that had been going on and her mother finally told him that it was impossible that her daughter could be pregnant as her mother did the laundry every week and could see for the past two months that there was no way that her daughter could be pregnant.

My best advice, having gone along with all of that with him, would be to ask for confirmation of the pregnancy itself. Young women occasionally do not think things through very well when their relationships end. It happens and i'm sorry that it happens because it must be hell on you guys. Second, if she is pregnant, then you have every right to ask for a dna test if she is going to keep the pregnancy.

If she starts saying that she's going to get an abortion if you don't get back together with her or whatever other reason she comes up with when you ask her for proof, she may be lying about the pregnancy to begin with (as was the case with my husband's psycho ex).

yes. There are several prenatal tests available. One test can be performed at 10 weeks and another starting at 14 weeks.

If she continues to refuse and still insists that a) she is pregnant and b) you are the father, it's time to tell your parents and call her parents so that you can all sit down and figure everything out together. Your parents may be upset and hers will be but your parents love you no matter what you do or may have done and they are going to want to be there for you and help you through this. The bottom line is that you do have rights when you think you are being wrongfully accused of paternity and you have the right to know the truth.

Prenatal testing does come with a slight increase in the chance of miscarriage so it cannot be forced on the young woman if she is unwilling to take that risk with the pregnancy. However, if she tries to get an .Acknowledgment of .Paternity (.A.O.P) on you (it is a legal document that cannot be broken after 60 days of being filed), then you can request that a paternity test be taken or that the .A.O.P be postponed until birth when a paternity test can be safely taken. Do not sign anything without reading it or you may end up the legal father of a child which is not biologically yours and there is no way to amend it later on.
Best of luck and keep us posted.
Peace,
jenn

Just take her on the maury povich show entitled "who is my baby's daddy?" seriosly though, is she some kind of unstable needy manipulative woman or something? Why dont you think it is yours? Maybe you are just looking for a way out of this because you are freaked out. I say be a man and accept this new responsability.

why should anyone have to take a responsibility that they had no hand in causing?


Would you tell someone who's house is on fire to "take responsibility" and help the firemen out (even though they would be in the way and couldn't) even if it turns out that the cause of the fire was an arsonist?


This negative, distrusting attitude towards this young man is unfounded without all of the facts. In fact, I have personally seen more instances of manipulative young women (all teenagers) claim to be pregnant when they never were because they just did not want to let go than I have of any young men trying to shirk their responsibility. It is entirely possible that his ex is not pregnant and it may be possible that if she is pregnant (depending on the time they've been apart), that it is someone elses "responsibility."

these questions are not always the case of some guy wanting to skip out. Many, many times (according to recent research up to 1/4 of the time) it is entirely plausible to doubt paternity. A little faith for him and a little doubt for her is not unwarranted.


Steve,
you have every right to request a pregnancy test or the results thereof to first, determine if she is, indeed, pregnant. You also have every right to establish, if she is pregnant, whether you are or are not the cause of her pregnancy. If you start to feel overwhelmed, please go to your parents to help you.

Peace,
jenn

whoah lady hold up! I am just stating that if he thinks this baby might be his then take responsability... I think he has every right to know if it is his or not. I am very much in agreement with you that he has every right to have some proof. There are alot of women out there who fake pregnancy to try to keep a man. How ever there are alot of men who lack to take responsability too. I am not condemming him in any way.

However I still think that considering it is a possability he could be the father, then he should be kind to her. For if she truly is pregnant with his baby, can you imagine what she is going thru right now?? I am sure this is very overwhelming for both sides.
And to you sir, the potential father of this child- if she refuses to give you any proof then I would think that she is definitly hiding something...
Good luck to you...

I never said that he shouldn't be kind to her. However, since I have seen this situation played out before several times, he does need to be firm or she will walk all over him.

Is your ex trying to make you take responsibility for this child? If she is, do not let her con you into being the father of a child that may not even be yours. If she refuses to have a paternity test done, then refuse to have anything to do with her until she does. I'm not sure if you can demand a test when she refuses it, but you can always find out. This is all assuming, of course, that she is pregnant and not making things up. If she's refusing to take even a pregnancy test, she probably is not pregnant and is just looking for a way to keep you in her snare.