Hey girl,,since you have had two kids, you know there is no man out there that has a 6 to 8 pound dick, or 18 to 21 inches long.
You say it hurts before you get wet,,well anything going inside you vagina while you're dry is going to tear ,,even a pencil, sounds to me that you need foreplay , lots of it so you can get wet,,,and us men can feel a tight vagina wrapped around our penis, but in no way is it going to be as tight as your hand or mouth,,,,vaginas are made to stretch,,even if this was your first big penis , your vagina will eventually take it all,,slowly,,then the next time )if its wet) will be able to take it better,,,i have a big one also and my girlfriend still hurts not because of the width but because of the length it pushes up against her cervix.. But she says the pain feels good makes her orgasm better but as soon as she is finished then its painful and I back off a little..I wouldn't attemp to enter my girlfriend dry, itsd painful for her and painful for me....Bleeding is not common ,,have it checked out by your gyno.
See ya