I am new here and need some friendly
advice.I have been with my boyfriend for 4
months and 2 days.The thing is he is bi.I
knew it before we got together because we
used to hang out almost every wekend and
all.Than we just started getting closer
and closer and he all of a sudden one
night called me and told me he had
feelings for me.But anyways!I was pretty
good with him being bi and all when we
first got together.It never really
bothered me to much.But now after 4 months
of us being together it is starting to get
to me more and more.I have no idea why it
is bothering me now.I get worried he will
either leave me or cheat on me with a
guy.When ever we have sex I always
wondering if he is pictuing a guy in his
head.Like one of the guys he did it with
before we got together or somthing.I just
dont know what to do.I know I can probably
talk to him about it but I really dont
want to because I will feel really
embarresed and I dont know how to start a
conversation like this,being this is the
only bi guy I have ever been with.I was
just wondering if any of you girls out
there have ever been or going through now
a relationship like this?I love this guy
with all my heart and never want to loose
him.I need some advice please.
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cd998776
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 996 Location: Ohio
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Posted: 11-10-05 20:19pm
Well, i'm not a girl, but I know that if
something bothered my spouse, partner,
etc, that I would rather them talk to me
about how they felt, than keep it to
themselves. Isn't that part of being in
a relationship, being able to talk to your
partner about how you feel and/or your
concerns?!
Ps-normally people put spaces after
punctuation.
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 207 Location: NM
Posted: 11-10-05 20:41pm
I agree totally with cd if he is into you
and your comf. Together just talk to him
he will understand if he has true feelings
for you
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pooh_23350
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2005 Posts: 2 Location: esva
Posted: 11-10-05 20:54pm
I know I should talk to him about this and
all,but I dont really know how about to do
so.I have never had to talk to any of the
formor guys I have been with about this.I
am so very confused.In a way this is
making me depressed and I hate it.The bad
thing is,on thanksgiving we are going to
his parents house and his ex boyfriend is
gonna be there.He was dating a guy before
me and him got together.I am gonna feel
really weird and everything.I am scared to
let him off alone with that guy.He was
totally inlove with the guy.I somtimes
wonder if I am just a cover up story so
people think he is just bi and not gay.It
would break my heart if I found out that's
what he was doing.He says he loves me and
all.But it freaks me out knowing he was
with a guy.I mean sexually.Maybe you all
could help me and tell me how I could
break it to him that I am starting to
think a lot about him being bi and all.I
do not want to hurt him or anything.I also
feel myself distancing myself from him as
each day goes bye.I need advice also on
how get myself close to him again.Please
help me.I need a lot of friendly support
and advice right now.Thanks for taking th
e time to read my post.
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Jessica_CF20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 207 Location: NM
Posted: 11-10-05 21:09pm
Ok you know what everything you just wrote
dont change anything tell him just like
that ..... I know its hard you know what
I used to do befor I was really comf.
About being open is wright everything down
like a letter and give it to him and he
doesnt have to read it in front of you
you could ask him to wait untill you leave
you never know that might be what is best
for him too
