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mama0789

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Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-08-05 11:19am

Please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!
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ryansmommy16

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Posted: 11-08-05 13:31pm

If you already have a child by him what is her problem? You do know that you are a legal adult now right? She doesn't really have a say in what you or your baby does. And I believe whoever you chose to be with as long as it is not dangerous to you or the baby is none of her business. But that is just my opinion.
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19mommy

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-08-05 13:34pm

mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open
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simpleirishgirl

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Posted: 11-08-05 21:24pm

Until you are 18 years of age or live out on your own, you do have to listen to your parents rules

i can kind of see where she is coming from

maybe talk to her about and see where she is coming from, maybe make a compromise if you feel it necessary to stay over at his place?
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mama0789

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-09-05 10:28am

19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open


i stayed the night over there b/c it got to late at night and he was ready for bed and I was tired too.. And I would have called but I knew that I dad wouild get up and then all hell would have broke lose! And I cant sit down and talk to her bout anything, all she do it yell and scream!! I dont understand why I just cant do what im going to do, if we do infact get back 2gether then theres nothing she can do b/c for one we have a baby 2gether and two... I still have feelings for him and I know he does for me/, you know what my mom so crazy that she sliped out b/c o gave him a hug be4 he left that morning I dont see nothing worng with that at all... Were just friends and he is that father of my son. We have to be nice b/c of the baby I dont want things to get bad. And then also she has a problue(sp) with me sitting on the phone talking to him she things there something going on! I really dont get her shje crazy!!
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19mommy

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-09-05 17:03pm

mama0789 wrote:
19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open


i stayed the night over there b/c it got to late at night and he was ready for bed and I was tired too.. And I would have called but I knew that I dad wouild get up and then all hell would have broke lose! And I cant sit down and talk to her bout anything, all she do it yell and scream!! I dont understand why I just cant do what im going to do, if we do infact get back 2gether then theres nothing she can do b/c for one we have a baby 2gether and two... I still have feelings for him and I know he does for me/, you know what my mom so crazy that she sliped out b/c o gave him a hug be4 he left that morning I dont see nothing worng with that at all... Were just friends and he is that father of my son. We have to be nice b/c of the baby I dont want things to get bad. And then also she has a problue(sp) with me sitting on the phone talking to him she things there something going on! I really dont get her shje crazy!!


i hear all that I know mothers tend to be crazy, but I think there .M.U.S.T be a reason why she is reacting like this....I honestly believe in that there must be more....Why wont she want you and your baby father to be together? That sounds rediculous and selfish on her part. But try talking even if u have to hear screams remind her that your pregnant and dont want to be stressed out....Or have a third neutral party there to keep her from acting crazy like and aunt or something
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justacanadiangirl

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-10-05 03:49am

mama0789 wrote:
19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open


i stayed the night over there b/c it got to late at night and he was ready for bed and I was tired too.. And I would have called but I knew that I dad wouild get up and then all hell would have broke lose! And I cant sit down and talk to her bout anything, all she do it yell and scream!! I dont understand why I just cant do what im going to do, if we do infact get back 2gether then theres nothing she can do b/c for one we have a baby 2gether and two... I still have feelings for him and I know he does for me/, you know what my mom so crazy that she sliped out b/c o gave him a hug be4 he left that morning I dont see nothing worng with that at all... Were just friends and he is that father of my son. We have to be nice b/c of the baby I dont want things to get bad. And then also she has a problue(sp) with me sitting on the phone talking to him she things there something going on! I really dont get her shje crazy!!


wow that sounds exactly like my mom.... I'm 19 and my bf is 23 and I slept over at his house once and I haven't heard the end of it since. My mom's all "it's tacky" (i still live with my parents cuz i'm going to university) anyways, I dunno why it matters. It's not like we can do worse stuff if I spend the night. Like stuff we already do anyways... Jeez
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mama0789

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-10-05 10:07am

19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open


i stayed the night over there b/c it got to late at night and he was ready for bed and I was tired too.. And I would have called but I knew that I dad wouild get up and then all hell would have broke lose! And I cant sit down and talk to her bout anything, all she do it yell and scream!! I dont understand why I just cant do what im going to do, if we do infact get back 2gether then theres nothing she can do b/c for one we have a baby 2gether and two... I still have feelings for him and I know he does for me/, you know what my mom so crazy that she sliped out b/c o gave him a hug be4 he left that morning I dont see nothing worng with that at all... Were just friends and he is that father of my son. We have to be nice b/c of the baby I dont want things to get bad. And then also she has a problue(sp) with me sitting on the phone talking to him she things there something going on! I really dont get her shje crazy!!


i hear all that I know mothers tend to be crazy, but I think there .M.U.S.T be a reason why she is reacting like this....I honestly believe in that there must be more....Why wont she want you and your baby father to be together? That sounds rediculous and selfish on her part. But try talking even if u have to hear screams remind her that your pregnant and dont want to be stressed out....Or have a third neutral party there to keep her from acting crazy like and aunt or something



no im not pergo no more my son is born. The only thing that I can think of is b/c hes black, hes 19 and im 16, and my mom dont want us to be2gether but for one she not going to stop us b/c im going to do what I want anyway, if were going to be 2gether then thats whats going to happen!
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19mommy

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Re: Need Help With My Mom An Dad!!!!
Posted: 11-10-05 11:13am

mama0789 wrote:
19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
19mommy wrote:
mama0789 wrote:
please someone help me, ok heres the story, I went over to my baby daddy house sunday night and ended up staying over night. Well my mom says that wrong, (shes not a god type of person) and that hes going to jail and all this. I dont get it all I did was stay over night there. Whats so wrong about that??? And by the way in 16 and hes 19(state law here is only 4 years a part) and were only 2, I dont get it please some one help.. My mom thinks that were going back out which I see nothing wrong with that eather!! Help!!!!!!!!


well there must be a reason your mom see a problem with this I see one now. Iff you guys are suppose to be broken up why are you over there sleeping? If you want to get your situation worse then it is, be responsible. You should have called to let her know you were staying the night and if you guys are going back out inform her. With your story it seems like your keeping things away from her and she seems very fed up. I think you should have a talk with her and let her know whats up. Because we dont know your family but you do so you might as well be open


i stayed the night over there b/c it got to late at night and he was ready for bed and I was tired too.. And I would have called but I knew that I dad wouild get up and then all hell would have broke lose! And I cant sit down and talk to her bout anything, all she do it yell and scream!! I dont understand why I just cant do what im going to do, if we do infact get back 2gether then theres nothing she can do b/c for one we have a baby 2gether and two... I still have feelings for him and I know he does for me/, you know what my mom so crazy that she sliped out b/c o gave him a hug be4 he left that morning I dont see nothing worng with that at all... Were just friends and he is that father of my son. We have to be nice b/c of the baby I dont want things to get bad. And then also she has a problue(sp) with me sitting on the phone talking to him she things there something going on! I really dont get her shje crazy!!


i hear all that I know mothers tend to be crazy, but I think there .M.U.S.T be a reason why she is reacting like this....I honestly believe in that there must be more....Why wont she want you and your baby father to be together? That sounds rediculous and selfish on her part. But try talking even if u have to hear screams remind her that your pregnant and dont want to be stressed out....Or have a third neutral party there to keep her from acting crazy like and aunt or something



no im not pergo no more my son is born. The only thing that I can think of is b/c hes black, hes 19 and im 16, and my mom dont want us to be2gether but for one she not going to stop us b/c im going to do what I want anyway, if were going to be 2gether then thats whats going to happen!


oh kay sry, I thought I read somewhere you were pregnant. Do you think she was mad at you dor leaving because you left the baby too??? Or shes just being difficult? I think it could be a bit of both but I dont kno...Maybe you should bring you son into the room when you talk to her, let her look at him and think about him growing up without a dad. And maybe she wont scream and yell soo much
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Posted: 11-10-05 11:57am

If your mom was taking care of the baby while you slept at his house I full understand whys she ticked off.....You had the child its your resposibility, if not then there is something else going on. I used to argue with my mom all the time about who I was dating, the only one I didnt have trouble with was hubby and some other guy.

We used to have a rule at my dads even if we were 18 and we lived under his roof we had to follow the rules or we could leave because it is their household and they didnt have to help me at 18 as im considered an adult in quebec.

Respect your mom but if she gets out of hand seek help and shelter

me and my mom are on a really good terms but thats is because I dont f up all the time anymore there is still some issues but they get worked out
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mama0789

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Posted: 11-14-05 11:13am

diamondsz wrote:
if your mom was taking care of the baby while you slept at his house I full understand whys she ticked off.....You had the child its your resposibility, if not then there is something else going on. I used to argue with my mom all the time about who I was dating, the only one I didnt have trouble with was hubby and some other guy.

We used to have a rule at my dads even if we were 18 and we lived under his roof we had to follow the rules or we could leave because it is their household and they didnt have to help me at 18 as im considered an adult in quebec.



Respect your mom but if she gets out of hand seek help and shelter

me and my mom are on a really good terms but thats is because I dont f up all the time anymore there is still some issues but they get worked out


my mom didnt have my baby I take my son everywere with me... I never leave him with anyone unless I have too... But I had him there with me... If I tryed to get out and go to a shelter(sp) my mom would flip ... She told me that she his leagle(sp) rights over my son thats hes not really mine till im 18! Yea right... My dad cuzs told her that... My dad cuz likes to lay out if ass bout caca just to get me to belive him, but I never do b/c I know hes not telling the truth b/c I told to the cop that work at my high school and he told me all the stuff they be telling me is not true!
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