My husband recently (about four weeks ago) informed me that he wants to be "single" (his words).
He did not volunteer this information, however, as I had to drag it out of him after weeks of him seeming to be uninterested in me.
After telling me this we kept talking normally and sleeping in the same bed but he became very selfish in his behaviour. He talked very matter of factly regarding arrangements for us ending our 5 year marriage (financial stuff, housing etc)
he was not keen to watch me get emotional, even telling me that he jhoped I would not make a big fuss over this, in other words to make it as easy as possible for him !!!!!!!!
He became so cold and distant and began rejecting me so much that I decided to move out.
He said that he thought the space would be good and I agreed somewhat, hoping that he would miss me. I moved out , however , the situation was not really practical for me and I also realised that I was not unhappy at home and if he was that he needed to move out.
I moved back in but we now sleep in seperate bedrooms.
I am giving him space, going out with friends, staying out of his way.
He has gone from calling me 2-3 times daily to 0 times daily.
Everybody I speak to thinks that he has someone else but he says he does not (an I being too naive??)
i guess that as I write this I can see for myself that it does not look good for us but I just feel so hurt and rejected.
I want to try and make it work but I think that he has checked out.
He refuses to go to counselling as he doesn't believe in it.
I have tried to be nice and understanding and that has not worked.
I feel like he has already made his decision and I am just getting in his way and holding hiom back.
He basically lives like he is single and has cut me out of his life.
Any thoughts??