Emma, I just wanted to tell you that it takes the average couple 8 months of actively trying before they conceive. So three months is not that long especially considering you were on "the shot" (depo, i'm assuming). Depo is notorious for screwing up your cycles and hormones, and it takes women months to get back to their normal cycles. So I wouldn't panic just yet. Most likely it will happen for you eventually.

That being said, if you don't feel like waiting around and are getting anxious, then there are some things you can do. You should probably see your doctor again (or a different doctor, if the one you have is not giving you any real answers) to

a)get a pre-pregnancy check up
b)get complete std testing (lots of stds don't have symptoms)
c)discuss how a previous std could affect your ability to get pregnant

also, you can start using "natural family planning" (which involves charting your fertility signs so that you can tell which day you are ovulating, and have sex on the few days before then to maximize your chances...Timing is everything in this game!). You can find tons of info on pregnancy forums about it.

Good luck!

Ps you should also start taking prenatal vitamins, because ideally you want to be taking them every day for 3 months before you get pregnant.

Stop trying to get pregnant, you might be surprised, this is when it might happen!
And I do agree, with the posster above and that is to check with another dr on your past std and the effects on pregnancy.
Good luck! And I am sending you some baby dust your way!

Not trying to freak you out but I had chlamydia too and i've been trying for seven years! Does that put your three months into perspective sweetie? It took me two months to go through the ivf drugs alone!!! Honestly a specialist won't talk to you until you've been actively trying for twelve months and if by then you still aren't pregnant they can do every test under the sun. It could be anything from polycystic ovaries, to scars in your tubes, to not ovulating, to hostile mucus to bad sperm count. There is no way to know but it also could be nothing so just give it time. A huge misconceptions is that people fall pregnant easily and they don't. If only they mentioned that in sex ed too huh? Best of luck!

Brie

[emma i read your message and i had the same problem i couldnt get pregnant even after i came off the pill injection i was told by my gp that any kind of pill can stay in your system for upto 10 years even though you have had it removed or stopped taking it. I know how you feel i have been trying for a child now for 6 years and still no luck. i have started to now tell myself i no longer want children maybe it could turn around. but i feel the more you tell yourself and keep trying for a child the more you are not going to get it so try not to think about it and maybe it could suprise yoou

the depo is well known to cause infertility issues for many women not to mention other issues like osteoporosis and so on. That drug should be out of the market by now, its poison for your body.

what clamydia does is that the bacteria creates scar tissue in the fallopian tubes. What it does it destroys the little hairs that move the egg to the uterus so then the fertilized egg get's stuck in the tube and cause ectopic pregnancies. Given this is the issue i would think ivf would work well. If the clamydia gets caught early there might not be even damage to the fallopian tubes.

I don't know if i have fertility issues as I have never tried to ttc but if I do I am doomed because I'm 34 so i don't have many years to try fertility treatments. I don't think I would even try them and go straight to adoption. I don't know the safety of fertility drugs but i know I wouldn't risk my health for having a biological child no matter how big my desire to be a mom is. After taking a chemotherapeutical drug for acne (that wasn't really needed) when i was younger and being scared of never recovering from its side effects i don't want to take any more drugs that are not necessary..Really having health is nice

Emma,
You've only been trying for 3 months. The average couple takes a year to become pregnant. But, if you think you might be infertile due to a disease you might have contracted in the past, you need to see a doctor instead of posting your concerns for an answer. Only a doctor can make a determination about your fertility. And the sooner you get checked out, the sooner you'll have your answers.

i been trying to get prego for all most a year now and nothing working at all i been to the doc i got check ups and everything but all my test are comin out fine so what can be the problem like everyday i was tryin to hope to get prego but no luck so i wait 3weeks and then have sex and if u wait for a lil and not do anything and then u do can u get prego that way like really any one got anything to help me with i already have 2 babies they are 1 and 2 and i cant get prego again is sumthing wrong with my body or sumthing... plz help

Hi,

Several studies have shown that nightshades(potatoes, tomatoes, pepper, and eggplant) interfere with conception, and retention of the embryo. Nightshades contain several neurotoxins, that lead to birth defects in mice.

When monkeys were feed nightshades they would not get pregnant. You may have other problems, but nightshades will not help.

Me and my boyfriend have been trying for a couple months now and its not working. And we really wanna have a baby. I was on birth control for like a year before me and him got together but I was only on it for a couple months cause I ended up being algreic to it so I had to stop taken it. And I havent havent taken any since, so I dont see why I cant get pregnant. Is there like any way that can find out when I can get pregant or anything...if there is can you please tell me.

As previous msgs have indicated.....it is more normal for it to take months to get pregnant. Many years ago my husband and I had trouble conceiving. We went through all the tests. The final test involved looking at my fallopian tubes to see if there was a blockage. Curiously, shortly after we started trying to conceive, I contracted some kind of a painful infection in my abdominal area. I was young and my doctor was vague. I still don't know if the infection might have involved my fallopian tubes. In order to see the fallopian tubes, a dye is pushed through them. I became pregnant very shortly after this test. I was told that sometimes there is an obstruction that is removed as the dye moves through the tubes. It is annoying to think about because this was the very last test after 12 mos. of tests. All in all it took me 2 1/2 years to conceive. But, it took only a couple of months for the 2nd baby. I took b.c. pills before trying to conceive the first time. I took b.c. pills between babies.

Bottom line: concerns about getting pregnant should be addressed with a doctor.

Also, is there any reason why you wouldn't marry the man who is going to father your children? Mothers and children benefit from the legal protections that marriage provides. And, children benefit when their parents make a committment to work hard to make a relationship work.

I read your post and I thought three months isn't that long. Tough I would say I think it will take you a while to fall pregnant. I have been off depo for two years and I have'nt used any other contraception as me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby since. If I'm honest my periods have been regular for just over a year. I haven't had any joy. Sorry if I've made you wonder but it could take a long time. I've decided to give up trying and just see what happens as I'm starting to think there's something with me as my boyfriend has already got a daughter.

I have been married for 6 years and have never used birth control. In the begining we used the pull out method (everybody knows that this is not the best of methods)For the last 2 years we have obstained from that method all together trying to conceive. We never tried not to have a child and never tried to have one as well. We are very natural about it, not a whole lot of worry. Until lately I have wanted more( he always wanted) I dont chart my fertility or temp. and all that jazz. Still no baby. All the women in my family are so fertile and everyone is now looking at us and it angers me off. Everyone always asks us when and why we havent had a child. When I was a teenager I had clamediya(sp?) that was undetected for about a year. Is that why? I also have a small degree of scoliosis that I was thinking may tilt my pelvis some making it harder for sperm to enter my cervix? It is painful when people ask me when we will have a child, because I want one. It feels like everyone around me is having kids.
I have heard about the testa to see if your tubes are blocked. What kind of dr. would I go to. An OBGYN. I talked to the gals at PP and they never told me of these options?

I know it can be very frustrating waiting for the time to come when you miss a period and think you may be pregnant then the test is negative. it happened to me in november. I wasn't sure if I was havin gproblems or if I had a STI so i went to the doctor and had loads of tests done which luckily came back negative. The fact that you had clamediya when you were younger could be nothing to do with the problem your having conceiving. Though I do beleive you should ask your doctor to refer you to a gynecologist as it could ease your mind abit knowing whats going on.

I know it can be very frustrating waiting for the time to come when you miss a period and think you may be pregnant then the test is negative. it happened to me in november. I wasn't sure if I was havin gproblems or if I had a STI so i went to the doctor and had loads of tests done which luckily came back negative. The fact that you had clamediya when you were younger could be nothing to do with the problem your having conceiving. Though I do beleive you should ask your doctor to refer you to a gynecologist as it could ease your mind abit knowing whats going on.

Hey my name is iris.
Well my problem is you might think im a little to young for these things but simply and simple im 17 years of age and i have my own job well im the boss of my own job i have a wonderful husband yes im married'. Well my problem starts here me and my fiance have been trying to get pregnant for the last few months but we have always had unprotected sex im saying i recommend it becuase we get a check up every month to see were in good condition. But i havent got pregnant i dont get regular periods im a little over weight but i have had irregular periods since i was 10 years of age and i would always ask my doctor if that was normal and he said yes i dont think its normal i really dont. i tend to gain weight alot but since i dont know what happen to my insurance or what ever i think my mother cancelled it. But the case is i have no help no doctors are helping me and it really hurts it really does nobody is helping me i see babys in peoples arms i go visit just labored woman and it hurts very much i have money i have my parents my family is complete and the most important my love my fiance but i really want a baby jesus can take my money my fortune i really want a baby im getting no help what can i do although i do have money i cant spend it on doctor costs becuase i promised my dad to use it on the company and i will make him happy. But what can i do why isnt any doctor helping me am i a bad person i am a good person.

My husband and I have been trying for 2 years now..I have not been on birth control since I was 17..I am now 22...My husband has been checked out and he is fine. Last Friday I finally went for my HSG where they put dye in your tubes to check them out. They were fine. I am hoping the dye might have pushed something out of the way so Im hoping to be pregnant soon! Any words of wisdom from people that have had an HSG and became pregnant shortly after? Thank you!!!!!!!

It has been many, many years...but I had a HSG and within a few weeks I became pregnant with our first child...after 2 1/2 years of trying. I was told that a microscopic obstruction could be preventing pregnancy and that the HSG might show no obstructions because the procedure sometimes pushes out the obstacle. That child is now 26 years old and pregnant with her first child. Weirdly, she and her husband tried for one year before she became pregnant. She had hormone level problems and was set to begin taking a fertility drug when she became pregnant.

Hi im sammy just to comment,
I havnt been overly trying to get pregnant so hard and i have been waiting 4 years now to actually conceive.
I dont let myself worry about it i have a great sex life and dont wish to condemn it with only having sex when im ovulating and that sort of thing i mean it isnt a chore is it its supposed to be fun and loving and as it can make it worse to worry too much, as ive read all over the net tonight. it is only today that i have started to look into this a little further as i am starting to get a little anxious about it now. As my partner is now 31 and im 22 my partner really wants a child and doesnt want to leave it too late so what should i do? Do i carry on as normal? or do i go and seek help and tests and risk messing up my sex life and relationship? i dont know what to do help!! xxsammyxx

hi i been trying for a year now and still nuffing,i lost a baby last year on the 1st of decemberi was 4 months gone,i had a d n c as well,so after that i thought i would have fallen pregnant by now,but hay nuffing,i was on the depo bout 7 8 years ago now,it took me all untill last year to fall pregnant,it realy does mess with ya body n i agree it shoud be off the shelfs,i do have a daughter of 8 and had no problem fallin pregnant then,i think when u realy want something so bad it does not happen