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Q: Age? Please Help.
asked by: sweetmac on November 6th, 2005
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I have pretty much always gone for younger guys...I really don't want to come off perverted(lol, although I get called that) or as a pedophile(cuz i'm not) just wanted to get that outta the way. Anyway, as said, I have pretty much always gone for younger people, dating people 2-4 years younger than me when I was in high school. It wasn't a big deal to me. I stopped when I turned 18, but now, being 19, i've met this really awesome guy. His parents think I like him and I think they're okay with it, but really, i'm not going to persue anything romantically with him. He's just someone that i'd really like to get to know and do the whole friends thing with and who knows, maybe in 3 years, something else could happen. I guess my question is, would it be so wrong for me to try to get to know him and befriend him right now with him being so much younger?(i have other younger like him friends, but none that I think are cute like him) again, don't get me wrong, if I would have known how old he is before I started talking to him, I probably would have backed off...But he looks at least 17, which threw me off. Sorry if this is confusing, just needed a little input. I'll be glad to clarify if you need it.

Thanks,
machala
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Liz26
replied on November 6th, 2005
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Well, how old is he? If he is any younger than 16 then you should stay away because he is too young.
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sweetmac
replied on November 6th, 2005
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liz26 wrote:
well, how old is he? If he is any younger than 16 then you should stay away because he is too young.


that's what I thought. He's 15. His parents have no problem with us being friends. I'm just wondering if it would be too weird.
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poohbear101
replied on November 11th, 2005
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This is what I don't get. If you were a guy who was 19 and you were interested in a girl who was 15 most people wouldn't have a problem with it. But you reverse the situation and all of a sudden it's something that you shouldn't touch. I know some people that i'm friends with think it's because girls mature faster than boys so therefor having an older bf isn't really a big deal, but having an older gf is kinda weird cuz the guy still acts immature. But in some cases that just isn't so.

To me personally I would feel awkward dating a guy who was that much younger then me if I was 19. Actually i'm 21 and dating a guy who was 4 years younger than me would still bother me even though he'd be 17. But then i've always gone for older guys. I guess as you get older age doesn't really matter as much because it doesn't seem that big of a gap like when you're 24 he'll be 20 and people won't really think anything of it blah blah blah.

In the end if you're comfortable with it and so is he maybe thats all that matters. Although there will always be people who aren't so into it and you'll probably get a lot of sh*t because of it. It's just a personal choice.
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Tony Williams
replied on November 12th, 2005
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Go for it ... You might never get another chance.

I know someone in the same boat he is male and 19 and his girlfriend is 15 and they have had a happy life for 3 full years.
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pixma
replied on November 12th, 2005
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Nah mate way to young!!!

I friend of mine did that...She was 19 he was 15. She fell pregnant and although I do give him credit for standing by her for as long as he did.....He was just too young and didn't understand the conseqences!!

Hopefully that senerio doesn't happen to you but good luck with your decision!! :-)
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ironmantaylors
replied on November 15th, 2005
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My advice is live life. You are both too young to really know that you will be together forever. Now, because you are older, you assume a certain responsiblity. You need to be responsible. Do not forget that. 6 months of fun could cause you 60 years of regret. He is young, as are you, be very very careful not to reduce your chances of being happy later. Live life, but no regrets.
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Cambion
replied on November 15th, 2005
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A four-year age difference might seem like a big deal just because you are so young. Just think, a 15-year-old dating an 11-year-old - that sounds really weird. But, if it's a 30-year-old dating a 34-year-old, no one would think anything of it. It's weird how that works, isn't it?

This is only my opinion - as odd as it might seem to date someone who's four years younger than you, you need to ask yourself just how much you care about this guy. If it's just a little crush, then it would probably be best not to pursue him, because crushes will fade with time. But if you tihnk that you really care a lot about him, perhaps even if you are able to say that you love him, then you can at least give it a shot. If things feel really awkward, then maybe it will be time to move on, but if you both are happy together, then don't worry about what anyone else may think of you - real love knows no boundaries.

You'll never know if you don't try - remember, a life without risks is no life at all. Good luck to you guys as you decide what path you're going to take.
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justacanadiangirl
replied on November 16th, 2005
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I'm 19 and my bf is 23 and some ppl still say that's weird. My friends think it's weird that he's 4 years older than me and that I can so easily get along with his friends when we hang out, but really I don't think it's that much difference...
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