It's so hard to relax when you're trying to conceive!!!!
If you are under 35 the general rule of thumb is that you try for a year before seeking help from a doctor. If you are over 35, that changes to six months.
Are you using any form of ovulation prediction? Sometimes relying on one of those products helps take some stress off of knowing which days you are more likely to conceive.
As for waking up in the middle of the night, try reading a book before you go to bed. I found that helped relax my brain and so I wasn't going to bed thinking about getting pregnant, but rather I was just tired/bored of reading and fell right to sleep. Getting pregnant wasn't the final thought in my head.
I'm sorry I don't have more advice than that :(
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