It's so hard to relax when you're trying to conceive!!!!

If you are under 35 the general rule of thumb is that you try for a year before seeking help from a doctor. If you are over 35, that changes to six months.


Are you using any form of ovulation prediction? Sometimes relying on one of those products helps take some stress off of knowing which days you are more likely to conceive.

As for waking up in the middle of the night, try reading a book before you go to bed. I found that helped relax my brain and so I wasn't going to bed thinking about getting pregnant, but rather I was just tired/bored of reading and fell right to sleep. Getting pregnant wasn't the final thought in my head.


I'm sorry I don't have more advice than that :(

nancy
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My best advice would be to concentrate more on your own pleasure during sex than if you will become pregnant from it. Concentrating on your own pleasure really is a great thing even when you aren't trying to get pregnant. It can help you learn what and when your body responds to certain caresses and kisses and it can help you communicate to your partner what you like the most and what you like the least. Also, orgasms, aside from being fantastic all on their own, can help you conceive faster because the contractions thrust the cervix into the seminal pool and deliver more sperm into the uterus.

Before going to bed, some meditation with soft music not only relaxes me, personally, but it also helps me empty my mind of anything that could cause me to have to wake up. Doing an activity that relaxes both mind and body before going to bed is best for uninterrupted sleep.

Best of luck!
Peace,
jenn

I am trying again to get pregnant after a loss and have been technically trying again for about a month or so. I understand the anxiety. I am so anxios to get pregnant again because I feel cheated from the last time. One thing that helps me a little is journaling.

Although I find that when I journal I tend to sensor what I write incase... I dont know I die in some freak accident and all that is left is my journal and people who read it might think I am nuts! My solution to that problem is on Oprah.Com you can journal on this site and no one can ever read it unless they have your password.

Good luck to you!

I hear ya girls, I am starting to get little crazy myself. It seems to be affecting my whole life..........I am out of controll with this ttc stuff.....I know it, I just dont know what to do. I feel cheated also, I also feel why me? Why my baby? Do I have bad luck? I have gone crazy I am sure of it.....

Love, tammy

"the crazy ones are always the last to know they are crazy"- anonymous

You are so funny, I have found that out too!!!! :lol:


love, tammy

Hey bee71 I know how you feel ive been trying to conceive for 20 months now at first the day before my period was due i'd take a pregnancy test for about 7 months and each time it came up negative id be depressed for a week its a horrible feeling then I got to the stage where I just wanted to give up so for a few months we decided not to be all ready to go when I was ovulating we just relaxed for a few months then bang out of the blue was pregnant mind you I only found out once i'd started to miscarry:(cry but eventually I kept my head up and we just got the idea that it will happen when its meant to, then we got the news that my partner has a little problem of his own I cant think of what its called but lets just say not many little fellas come out when he cums so chances are slim. But we're young and will keep trying naturally untill I explode then we'll go to ivf. But I understand where your coming from its very frustrating but eventually you'll learn not to stress too much over it. If you wana chat pm me. Take care and good luck to all of you

have you talked to your doctor as to why you havent conceived yet? 20 months is a long time ttc, as I am sure you know.

I agree with lily! You really should go get a check up from your ob/gyn. There could be a simple explanation for why it's taking this long....And they can probably correct it for you!!!!



Nancy
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My gyno thinks I have endometriosis im on the list for a laproscopy that would be the reason plus my partners problem as well so they are the two reasons. I had my self checked out by a gyno after 16 months

:( aww I am sorry that this is so hard for you. I really hope you get pregnant soon sweetie. *****baby dust coming your way*************************************** ****************************************** ****************************************** ****************************************** ****************************************** *******************************