Is he circumcised? This sounds like how many women respond to a circumcised man's thrusting--it is NOT natural, and it is not your fault. I didn't really enjoy sex with my ex (circ'd) and then I found out it was because he was circumcised, and if there were a foreskin, it would feel beautiful. He is doing restoration now.

If he is not circ'd, maybe he's just going to fast and hard.

i have sex alot and it is just a neutral feeling too

I had sex with 4 different guys in about 2 years, and none of them made me orgasm or feel good during sex until my current boyfriend who I have now been with for almost 3 years. I went out with one guy for a year and he could never make me orgasm. Then, I went out with my current boyfriend and after 3months of having sex I had an orgasm with him for the first time. Its a matter of becoming comfortable with yourself and relaxing and trying to enjoy what you're doing. you have to clear your mind and focus on the feeling. I dont think any of the guys I had sex with before my boyfriend now cared whether or not I orgasmed it was just about themselves that could also be a reason why it didnt feel good for me.

I'm 19, and I've had sex 3 times, 2 different guys, recently i've been with my boyfriend and it hurts at first, but then its just like it stops hurting and it doesn't hurt, but it doesn't feel good. I'm scared there is something wrong with me or something.

Do you use any sort of lubrication?

i have been with my boyfriend for 5 year, and not once has sex felt good. masturbation does not feel good either when i do it or when he does. i have tried so many things, slower faster harder softer, wetter up dpwn side to side its like no matter what he does its not enjoyable and never has been. i am running out of options i just want to not have to fake it at least once in my life... please i need help

these woman that are havin sex and it is not feelin good i dont think that you are doing it wrong, the women replying are able to have orgasms so they do not understand. I have been with 4 guys in total and 2 of them long term. I have had sex probably hundreds of times and it doesnt feel good no matter how we do it or what position we use. I'm startin to think that there is something maybe wrong because i have been sexually active for 3 1/2 years now and i have been fakin it the hole time. It feels good when my bf stimulates my clit but I have one orgasm. so i think. and then it hurts to touch it anymore. i dont know what to do I have tried everything!!
does anyone else have this problem???

I've been having sex now for quite some time. He is the one who took my virginity. My boyfriend isn't bad in bed, we certainly aren't doing it wrong, and unlike most men he really cares whether or not I get off. He tries everything.. fast, slow, rough, soft, I mean everything, and though it doesn't hurt anymore it STILL doesn't feel good. I can get off to oral and masturbation, why not sex? It's really destroying our sex life, and I think sex is important in a relationship. I'd really just like to have some fun for once :/

Help?

Kate,
I have the SAME problem. I've been having sex for years and I dont feel anything. My gyno said that the vagina just isn't my center for sexual pleasure (sucks). I feel helpless because I just want to enjoy intercourse instead of just oral for once! Let me know if you figure anything out!

I have the EXACT same issue. Sex is always uncomfortable for me, and I feel only the basics of a penis penetrating. There is no enjoyment. We use lube to try and help, and we do enough foreplay so I am aroused enough for intercourse, but when it comes to the penetration part, all I feel is extreme discomfort.

Im fairly worried that there is something wrong. Help!!

Me too. Me too. I've never thought sex felt good and I don't even know HOW to fake it cuz I don't know what I'm supposed to be sounding like...it makes it quite awkward.

I'm 18 and me and my bf have been having sex on a reqular basis for about six months now. When we first started i cried alot because it hurt. It has felt good from time to time, but latley. As in the last two times we've tried, it felt horrible. All i could feel was his penis going in and out and i wanted to scream. i hated it, every second. what's wrong with me? He ended up having to hold me while i cried. it was awful.

There is nothing wrong with you at all...So often young people start sexual intercourse before their mind is able to handle this act of love...I married at 21 and despite the fact that we were so hot in the car before marriage, I tend to say that my feelings were much like yours for a while after marriage...It's kind of like awakening yourself of this new place within yourself...Letting yourself go...Just maybe you are not ready for this happening...Why not go back to some heavy petting and oral sex...Wait for the right time and go from there....Only please believe me...There is nothing in the world wrong with you that age will not cure....

Much love to you....

Caroline