Don't worry, hpv isn't anything I guarantee it. It doesn't matter if you use a condom or not, if he's infected you can get it no matter what. It's real common and easy to take care of. You might have a good enough immune system that you might not get it at all and if you do you might not have any break=outs. I have it, and have never ahd a break out, I only found out b/c of a bad pap. I was worried and felt disgusted at first until I read more about it. Now, well it's life anymore. The guys that I have told that I have slept with don't even care b/c they know that it's nto a big deal.

Thank you for you reply shoneen...
Have you had to have any leep procedures? I keep hearing about these but are these in severe cases or all cases of abnormal paps?

There's a few surgical procedures to do when it comes to hpv. Freezing, acids what not. I was also diagnosed with it on the bases of a bad pap also and then thru colposcopy. I've yet to get the results but on the visual, doc's like . . .Yep. So i'm like . . K. My case like most cases was microscopic. Its a virtually harmless virus if you take care of yourself. For women that involves getting your paps as scheduled and what not. If you're in a relationship with someone with hpv/genital warts then its a good idea to educate yourself on what you are dealing with. Here's a very informative link for you; should check it out.

Http://www.Cdc.Gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.Htm

If you really love him then I think you should look past his std. It happens to the best of us...I got herpes from a parner and when I met my now husband I cried my eyes out when I told him...He loved me so much he didnt care.
I thank god everyday for sending him to me. I was so afraid no one would ever love me. I hope you can look past this.

Well.. I love him more than anything.. I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him.. Thank you for your response, it's good to know there are other people in similar situations.. It's tough but whats meant to be is meant to be and I really feel we are supposed to be together.. Aside from this everything else is in place.. I've never felt so good about/with someone..

Thanks again for your advice..

Someone that I work with just told me today that there is a vaccine coming out for hpv. I dont know much else about it but perhaps you could find out more by searching the web???

Also on another note, if you plan on marrying him I am sure you wont want to use condoms forever and there is a good chance you will get it eventually. I just wanted to share that my friend also has hpv but had no symptoms until she was pregnant. She actually found out when she was pregnant and she had gotten it way before she was even married to her husband. She vaginally delivered a healthy baby, and her hubby and her are doing fine. You can still get pregnant and have healthy babies with hpv and herpes just fyi.
Also hpv is actually more common than you think- 1 in 3 sexually active adults have the virus although many do not even realize they have it because they may not experience any symptoms.

Good luck to you both!

After I caught herpes from a boyfriend-we later broke up. I had a very hard time accepting it and it took some time. My dad's advice to me was to look at as a "test of love" if a man couldnt accept that about me then he wasnt the right one. Now that I am happily married to my husband I think back on how my life might of been different if I hadnt caught herpes. Would I have settled down sooner to someone else?? All I know now is that I think it was a blessing in disguise.
And for you, I hope that if you truly love him that you may pass this "test of love"

Thanks lilypad! Tell your father that he is awesome! I never looked at it that way. My ex broke up with me too after I told him about my hpv and now I am seeing an awesome guy who loves me unconditionally.

Hpv is not that big of an issue about 80 percent of men and women get it. I have also had this myself which led to early early stages of cervical cancer but that was my first pap smear when I was 18. My doctor said that I am one of the worst cases with this happening with someone so young. So ever since I was 18 I have gone to get a pap smear every three months. Im now twenty. When I figured out I had hpv I cried my eyes out but with how often men and women get it its not a worry :o)))! Good luck with your boyfriend.

I have had treatment for HPV and gone through the biopsy stages twice. The best advice to someone already infected I can give is that there are some great immune system boosters on the market - like vitamins and may help clear up HPV. Due to Terms of Use I cant mention the name of them here but they are on the internet. I have had two scares but would like to say you must stay on top of your pap smears and HPV tests its very very important. Keep a log of who you saw when and where and what treatment you had done. There are many strains of HPV and you may have a less aggressive strain so I would not be too concerned. Eat well they say that beta carotene if you are a non smoker is good also in extra quantities along with folic acid.
Stay positive and face it head on! There are many clinical trials out there that we could contribute to just by having HPV - go to http://www.cancer.gov/CLINICALTRIALS to aid research to find a vaccine to fight it.

i hope the infected individuals on this site who think that hpv is not a big deal are protecting themselves and the multiple partners they are infecting- regardless if the partner is "ok" with it or not...which sounds strange to me that a perfectly healthy man would risk his health for a girlfriend...that would make me leery as to what disease he may have himself...i recently met someone who is awesome but he has hpv and i can honestly say that i will not jeopardize my health by having sex with him but i will always love and respect him for being a man and telling me EVERYONE BE SAFE and stop being the cause of why this disease is so wide spread!

am i reinfecting myself through sex with the same person who gave me the virus if neither of us is with anyone else

A couple notes... a condom is no defense against HPV. There are some studies out there suggesting you can even get this by rubbing underwear together! If you have it, you have it. Most people do... but there is more than one strain out there, and at least 4 of those strains can be potentially deadly to women. PAP smears aren't a cure, just a way to catch cervical cancer early. Cancer is still cancer, ladies, and every new 'strain' you pick up increases your odds of getting it.
On the good side, THERE IS A VACCINE. On the bad side, right now only women 26 years old and under can get that vaccine. My new boyfriend has HPV, and we are both older... so I have a very hard decision to make... leave him, risk my health, or abstain until the vaccine is available to the 30-and-over crowd.
Also... the vaccine is spendy. If the boyfriend is the carrier, than perhaps the boyfriend should be offering to pay to be sure you are protected?

Shocked,

Your comments are entirely ignorant. What do you mean "a perfectly healthy man"? There is no such thing that you can be sure of. The likelihood that any man has this virus is greater than women. There is no such thing as "a perfectly healthy man", because there is no accurate way to test for this on men. They are the ones who are doing all the spreading, because they usually don't even have symptoms.

I find it even more pathetic that you could say there is something wrong with a man who would risk his health for a girlfriend (girlfriends often are future wives, which would mean that even moral people who do not have sexual relationships outside of marriage are included in your scenario, since they would be taking that risk at the time of marriage). What you are then saying is that people who have HPV never deserve to have relationships, or be loved by anyone who does not also have the disease, even though there is NO WAY TO BE SURE. Decent people do not choose who they love based on such things, but other more important qualities instead. I find it appalling that you think if someone does love them enough to overlook this, then there is something "wrong" with that person. It seems to me that you are the one there is something wrong with. First of all, this is not a big health risk for a man. I am a woman in my 40s, who has been celibate most of my life, except for a marriage many years ago, when I was in my 20s, and I've only been intimate with my then husband, who gave me this virus, even though he himself was apparently "perfectly healthy". He was not a promiscuous man, but had been married once before and must have contracted it from his wife (who had been unfaithful). I did not do anything to deserve this, neither am I spreading it around, but to think that anyone who "appears" healthy, loves me, and would be willing to overlook it must have something wrong with them is so ludicrous that I cannot comprehend your reasoning. It is not for you to decide who is worthy of being loved, or what others should be willing to overlook. And it certainly does not mean there is something "wrong" with them. In some cases these people want to spent the rest of their lives with someone, so they would not be spreading it around. Yet you perceive it as a character flaw!! How sad.