My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half. He is 29 and I am 31. The problem is in the last couple months, we have only been able to have sex a couple times, not for lack of trying. He is unable to get an erection or at least maintain an erection. Before this, our sex life was fine, other than a few lapses which usually was when we were having problems and there seemed to be some anxiety issues on his end.
Yesterday, after yet again trying with no result, I just came right out and asked him if he would talk to me. Previously I had asked if it was me and he said no. Yesterday he said he just hasn't been really interested in sex. He said it's sometimes a lack of interest in the act itself and sometimes a lack of interest in me. He reassurred me that he loves me and wishes this wasn't happening. I was understanding, etc, but deep down am very hurt. My self esteem is shot and I am now fearful he will want to break up with me even though there's nothing wrong in our relationship other than this (as far as I know). I am 100% he is not cheating on me. I asked if he has been masturbating and he said he hasn't really had the desire to do that either. Do men at age 29 have a loss of desire in sex or do you think he may have ed? I want to ask him to go to a doctor, but he definitely does not like talking about this with me and probably wouldn't go to a doctor. I feel like it's more psychological than physical. He does use marijuana which I have tried to get him to quit, but he won't. I've read that this could cause problems, but how would that explain the fact that pretty much we've had no sexual problems in the past? Please help.