This is obviously a very difficult issue for you. The first thing to say, though, is that it is your body and no one can force you to use it for something you don't want. If you don't want to be pregnant and don't want to have a child, that is only your decision. In terms of the physical consequences, a legal first-trimester abortion is a very safe procedure -- much less damaging to your body and much less risky than actually carrying to term and giving birth. Emotionally, carrying through with an unwanted pregnancy is very difficult for many women, particularly if they feel pressured by their partner.

As for your relationship with your partner, you don't say what method of birth control you are using. At the very least, you should be using two methods of birth control, including condoms.

My view, however, is that before entering into a sexual relationship, couples should discuss very frankly what their views about abortion are. If you would abort an unwanted pregnancy, and he is opposed, or if you would not want to have an abortion and your partner was vehemently against becoming a father, then you should not have sex. The choice of what to do is yours -- it is up to him to know what that choice would be and to decide accordingly.

well we are all here for you.. Some of us here believe it is okay and some disagree and believe the same thing as your boyfriend so expect both opinions here. As far as me im here if you need to talk. Hopefully you will not have to make a decision.. Hopefully your period is just late. You need to worry about yourself right now and everything else will fall right into place

If you don 't want to be a mother, there is always the option of adoption; but the impact a pregnancy could have on your relationship could be good or bad. However, I hope like tazzyd that's you're just late!

Hi there and welcome! You say that your period can run a few days late and with the stress that you are under it can make it even later.
We are here to support whatever decision you make, we are not here to judge you!
Feel free to come here and talk anytime! If you feel someone is judging you, just ignore them! Never let a man tell you what to do, it is your choice, pregnancy can be hard onyour body and mind too.
Women have abortions every day and do not have problems and if you do have problems, there is help for you.

as I stated, I cannot talk to him about abortion because I know his opinion. Our communication otherwise is fine, and you lecturing me on sleeping with him really isnt helpful considering its a little late for that.

We do talk about, have quite a few times, in fact. When I stated that I could not talk to him, I meant about the actual abortion. I sleep with him because I love him, and its my choice. I know and am aware of the consequences. I know that if I end up pregnant, my decision will be an abortion, and our relationship will end. I have come to terms with that, but I am not going to end a serious relationship because of his personal, religious standpoint on an issue that has yet to be a problem. As I said in my edit above, I got my period and I am going to begin taking even more precautions.

congratulations on not being pregnant!

But does your bf know that you would have an abortion if you did get pregnant? If not, don't you think it would be fair to tell him? I would find it difficult to be in a relationship with someone who thought it was their right to control my body.

Im glad everything worked out for you...

All right she started her period.. This is support ladies remember. Who cares what her bf thinks we are here for her or are you forgetting

Sorry I messed up your name prior, I just realized it, oops!


Well today is your day **** hooray ****hooray!

Glad you got your period. I am usually late with my period here and there but this time I found out I am pregnant , the doctor confirmed it. At first I was thinking of an abortion so no one would know. But my boyfriend and I are engaged and we talked things out. Its not good timing right now but we have to make it work. Talking to my mom about her experiences with abortions I just couldn't do it. It's just not the "killing " experience, its the "guilt" and I couldn't do it. I have support fortuantly from pretty much everyone in the family and its great. I will be 19 in may so yes im young like you, but im excited ..Everyone is excited..There is no wrong or right answer for abortion I think its just an opinion, but the guilt is what would kill me.
-laura

hey, it sounds like for you, keeping the baby is what is right! It is different for everyone! It sounds like you have a lot of support and love all around you, so I know you and your fiancee will be wondeful parents :)

Hey, it sounds like for you, keeping the baby is what is right! It is different for everyone! It sounds like you have a lot of support and love all around you, so I know you and your fiancee will be wondeful parents :)[/quote]

thanks hun! Ya I hope everything goes great. My mom surprised me with a really nice stroller and jolly jumper and toys and books! And my fiance's (chad) dad is buying us a brand new crib ..Like..Its all falling into place !! :)

that's wonderful :)