Please Help Me With This........anyone????

Hi,

i have a questions.....Or maybe a lot of questions about the realtionship that I am in. I have knowen this guy for the last 8 years, we hooked up one night in the bar when I was going to college. We lost track of each other after that and then a couple of years later he appeared back in my life. We have always been friends had hang out with the same people. Over the last couple of years we have hooked up multiple times..But it has really only been sex!!! I would really like to date as a serious couple but he says that he only wants to be friends, b/c he has never had a girlfriend and does not know how it would fit in with his life?????? In the past year he was dignosed with testicular cancer and has gone through chemo and appears to be on his way to recovery. I been there for him all through it.

I guess my questions are:

1. How do I approach the subject of dating without freaking him out?
2. Should I hold out on the sex until he decides if he wants to be more than friends?
3. Should I ask him what is scaring him about dating?

I think he is the kind of guy who once he starts dating he will realize that I am not going to make him my "!**@!" and order him around!!! He will wonder why we did not do this sooner. Not much will change, we will talk on the phone (he lives an hour away from me) and we will hang out together when our jobs and lives let us.

I would appreciate any help on this subject.

Thanks