Ok..I am almost 100% positive that I am
pregnant...Can someone give me some advice
on how to tell my mom??? Im scared and I
dont know where to even start!!! Please
please!!
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lesliepei
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 187 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-18-05 19:55pm
Take a test and find out for sure if you
are. If then, just tell her you need to
talk and it will fall into place. Good
luck
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sexy_lil_one06
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 3 Location: E-Villllle
Posted: 10-19-05 08:13am
I am 17...
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Rachel Cook
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 10-19-05 10:53am
Your mom will understand just sit her down
and tell her that you are pregant. It
will be really hard but your mom loves you
and she will understand. Believe me.
I was in the same boat less then 5 months
ago. I am 17 and 5 months pregnant. I
was totally freaked out at how to tell my
mom, but let me tell you I am sooooo happy
I did it. I was at the point of being
sick all day (i told her the night I found
out) I thought she would hate me and kick
me out. She was upset and really
dissapointed, but she got over it. I am
sure she will forever be a little bit
dissapointed, but I don't think anyone
loves this baby more then she does. We
just went to my second ultrasound
yesterday it was so cool, she is very
excited. But I couldn't imagine not
telling my mom now, and we've learned to
get along better because of this, and i've
learned to respect my mom a lot more then
I used to. How I told my mom was I wrote
her a letter, which she said was cowardly,
lol which is true, I think she would have
liked it better if I told her to her face,
but I was really scared. I thought she
was going to freak out. Writing the
letter gave her a few mins to get over the
shock and get her barings and deal with it
too.
Good luck!
P.S. Nothing is better then getting to
see your baby!
Kimmie
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El
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2005 Posts: 476 Location: Melbourne, Australia
Depends.... Posted: 10-19-05 18:19pm
I was older than you when I fell pregnant
with my daughter (23), but it was still
heavy going telling my parents.
I didn't live at home- I had just moved in
with my partner (baby's dad) 2 weeks
before I found out- luckily, mum and dad
had actually met him, and thought he was
nice.
I ended up telling my mum over the phone-
which probably seems like not the best
way, but it worked for me for a few
reasons-
i had already decided I was going to have
the baby, and I was determined to be
positive about it, even though it was
completely unexpected and unplanned, I
thought if I told my mum in a way where
she had the space to react to the news in
whatever way she was going to, she could
be free to do so without worrying about
how it would make me feel. She cvould
then tell my dad, and they could work
through their reaction together, and get
their heads around the information calmly
and in their own time.
It's a big piece of news, you have to
allow it to be absorbed before you can
even begin to think clearly about it.
After a few days, mum called back to say
she'd absorbed it, she had come to terms
with the fact that this was the news of
her first grandchild being on it's way,
and although it was a bit sooner than
expected, it was still the same news, and
she wasn't going to waste a moment of it
wishing it wasn't happening. She never
wanted to look at her grandchild and know
that she ever thought for a second that
she didn't want her(or him) to be here.
She said dad was still absorbing the news,
and she was giving him space to do so.
My dad called a day later to say
congratulations.
My daughter is now more than 2 and a half.
I am 37 weeks pregnant with her little
sister, and married to their father. We
have moved around the corner from my
parents, who couldn't be happier with my
husband and family, and don't know how
they'd ever cope with things being any
other way. They are obsesed with their
little grandaughter. This time 'round, I
broke the news in person to my mum, and
she cried with joy.
If you are going to keep the baby, I
recommend providing your mum with the
information- bare facts, and what you are
planning to do. Then give her space to
deal with it.
Even if you have to write her a note, and
slip away for a couple of days. You don't
want to have a big emoptional argument
about it, and if your mum has some time to
go through her reactions and emotions,
without you reacting to her reaction,
hopefully, it will be a calmer scene.
Best iof luck with everything.
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 192 Location: Iowa
Telling Mommy Posted: 10-19-05 22:15pm
If you are close with your mom, make it
like a heart to heart. I mean wherever
you two usually talk about stuff like
this.. I mean not this big but like, "oh
I think so-and-so is cute..." kind of
stuff. My sister told my mom while (mom)
was showering for work and my sister came
in to use the bathroom. How romantic is
that? But then again, now we have other
problems. (not with the telling, but with
my sister being psycho and such.)
most people I know who had to break the
big news to their parents, just did it and
their parents were sad, some even cried or
freaked out. But when the babies came,
they were the sweetest, happiest
grandparents ever!
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Have a Game Plan Posted: 10-20-05 07:52am
You know your momma better than anyone but
I think if I had news like that at a
younger age I might try to sorta plan out
what you are gonna say ahead of time.
Try to have some answers for her possible
concerns.
She may be concerned with things like,
planning to finish highscool-yes-
hopefully and how. If you plan to marry
or be a single mom, etc.
And also if you think its too hard to tell
her, I think writing a letter is a good
idea, because you can get out everything
you want to say without being interupted,
and it may give her a chance to let it
sink in.
Hopefully she will be understanding. You
said you want the baby, dont let her talk
you out of it if thats what you want.
Good luck, I hope to hear how it turns
out!
