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Q: New Relationship With Bipolar Man

asked by: ptell on October 18th, 2005

New User

Hello: I need some advice. I recently started a relationship with a bipolar man. I've been reading these forums and all sorts of information on bp disorder and wondered about my particular situation. He just told me last weekend (after dating for about 1 1/2 months), so all this is new to me. I don't get the impression that it will be easy to have a relationship with him -- are these classic signs? He's very ambivalent about having a relationship, seems to pull away from getting involved and then wants to be really close. My question is: I suffer from mild depression and wonder if it's even advisable for me to try to have a relationship with this man. I think the likely outcome will be that i'll care about him a great deal and he won't respond in kind, because he can't. Any advice is appreciated.

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BPjoe23

replied on October 19th, 2005

Experienced User

Hi i'm a bipolar man, so I will try to help you out.. Yes it won't be easy but can be done.. If he pulling away from you more then likely he's in mania or upset about something... When we are in mania some of us bipolars think he don't need anyone. But when we are depressed we can get lonely and clingy. I would just give it time and see where it takes you.

ptell

replied on October 19th, 2005

New User

Thanks!

Hi, bpjoe23:

thanks so much. It really helps to talk to somebody who knows what it's like. At first I thought it was me, and some of it may be how I present myself and his interactions with me. But I think I may be seeing things that have absolutely nothing to do with me, and that makes me feel better. I will try to follow your advice and stick with it.

BPjoe23

replied on October 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Re: Thanks!

ptell wrote:

hi, bpjoe23:

thanks so much. It really helps to talk to somebody who knows what it's like. At first I thought it was me, and some of it may be how I present myself and his interactions with me. But I think I may be seeing things that have absolutely nothing to do with me, and that makes me feel better. I will try to follow your advice and stick with it.

your welcome anymore questions just ask.

katie33kate

replied on September 26th, 2009

New User

If he isn't on medication...you are in for a very rough ride.

I just escaped from such a relationship... it was the worst experience of my life (lasted 10 months). He believes he is the only smart, whity, sane person in the world...everyone else is both stupid and nuts. Yet, his view of events is total fantasy. Psychosis indeed!

He was getting worse and worse... the explosions were every other day at the end... I had to escape

If doesn't promise to be on meds...and STAY on meds... RUN
If he breaks that promise.... RUN

tzak

replied on October 11th, 2009

New User

Bipolar's are extremely sensitive, at least this one is.
I agree with the posters above. The big question is !
Is he being treated ? If not unless you have a very thick skin you are in for some pain. On the other hand you could end up partnering with him in a way that could be very supportive to him.

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