This is a very brief overview and not very well written. I am writting this fairly quickly... But anyways I am a 22 year old male and I have been with my girlfriend that just turned 19 on the 14th for about 9months now. She just started her freshmen year at college for about 2 or 2.5months now. From my house to her house it is about a 3hr drive. We never had any real serious problems until now. She lied to me a few times about having sex with some guy and then a bunch of other little things. It took me about a month and a half and I finally almost 100% got over the fact that she had sex with some other guy. I found out because I went on her aim screen name because I had suspected that something was up when she went away to school. So I talked to the guy myself pretending I was her and I found out they had sex. We were not dating at the time they had sex because I had broken up with her a day or 2 before because she lied to me about sleepin at her dorm when she really slept at someone else's. She didnt admit to me she slept at someone else's dorm it took me about 2hours to get it out of her. And then finally she admitted it to me. During the time I was talking to her on the phone trying to get her to admit it to me I said to her there is something your lying to me about tell me what it is. She said I never lied to you and all that crap but basically she didnt know that I knew she didnt sleep at her dorm that night. She told me something along the lines of if your not going to tell me then im going to end our relationship. And I told her I would make it easier on her I asked her again what did you lie to me about and she said nothing so then I told her ok we are done you can't admit to me you lied then we are done. So we hung up and then she called me back about 45min later and it took me about an hour of asking her again and again what did you lie to me about and finally she admitted it. So we at that point we were still broken up for like 2days after because I told her I need some time to think because she told me she would never lie to me ever and I told her on the very first day I met her that I cannot stand liers at all. So bascially during the 2days we broke up she had sex with some guy. And I like I explained ealier I found out and she would not admit it to me...

So whatever finally after about a month and a half I finally got over the fact that she had sex with some guy and lied to me about it and lied to me about sleepin at someone's dorm. There are other little lies I found out but I am not going to list everything cause I could go on forever. So basically we still have been talking but have not been dating since but throughout this time we still are telling eachother that we love one another and we still want to try to make things work. During the time from when I found out she had sex with some guy til now she changed her aim password but I knew her myspace and her facebook password. And I found out that the other night she lied to me again she told me she was going out with her friends for her bday. Then she went back to her dorm and went back out to meet up with some other new guy and she had sex with him and I found out through her facebook. When I asked her about it the next tday she denied it and is now using the excuse when that when I asked her to admit it to me she was drunk and doesnt even remember talking to me. Which is bull because we had a conversation and she was talking to me fine about everything.

What I am saying is deep inside I cannot let this girl go she is exactly everything I want in a girl minus that she smokes and that she has been lying to me. I dont know what to do anymore as far as me and her because she still tells me she wants to work things out and I want to be with her but not if this caca is going to keep happening. I am wrong for going through her private stuff and everything but I did it because I wanted to find out the truth about caca and I did. Am I wrong for doing that? I am in love with her and I know this because after all this caca I still can sit here and say that I love her and seriously I still want to be with her just because she is like the girl made for me like I said ealier. Everything is just really messed up and I dont know what to do anymore. I tried gettin over her about 3 weeks ago. I tried not answering her calls and responding to her but that only lasted about 3days I couldnt take it. Im not sure if I am obsessed with her or if it is love. I dont really know. I would appreciate the help thank you.