inezrina...Hang in there! Love comes from a lot of different places than just romance. If you want to share the story you're welcome. Don't know if this will help you at all but I loved someone and was given false hope over and over again. I just never felt good enough and tried changing myself the whole time. This had been going on for about 8 years and I just couldn't forget about him. It hurt so much to see him with his girlfriend. To distance yourself from the person definitely helps - when I think about it soberly I know that he is not good for me and most of the critique and selfloathing I have now in myself, comes from him and his family (whom I still love very much). Some of the stuff I learned from them is very valueable and I now know that I gave my power away. It is for the better to not be with that person! You must seek positives and stick to it...remind yourself of it constantly. I can help you with that if you like. I also have a lot of stuff I need to share and get help with.
Good luck inezrina! You will get through this! Love