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I am in my middle twenties and the only orgasim i've ever had was when someone plays with my clitoris or I do it myself. I have never had an actual orgasim from sexual intercourse. Maybe that has something to do with my vaginal dryness? How do I have one? Crying or Very sad
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replied December 4th, 2003
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Well it depends. For some women its easy and some its not. You have to have a clear mind and the right emotion.
Now when your mind is elsewhere and your stressing, of course you wont get one. I notice that too. So what you need to do is really be in the mood and be focused. Dont think too much, go with the flow and be into it. You have to want it for it to come. Its the way you will expierence it best. Sometimes for women, being on top is the best, have him be still and do your own rythym until you can feel it coming. And then let him try his way. Its the way to satisfy each other. Try different positions not old ones. Sometimes lying on the floor you can feel it or on the bed and lean up a little bit, meaning lift up your bottom a bit for him to reach your soft spots. But remember let your mind go, no stress, no worries, no thoughts at all. Just be into it. Work with your husband on it.
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replied December 10th, 2003
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Re: An Orgasim? What's That?
crybaby8 wrote:
i am in my middle twenties and the only orgasim i've ever had was when someone plays with my clitoris or I do it myself. I have never had an actual orgasim from sexual intercourse. Maybe that has something to do with my vaginal dryness? How do I have one? Crying or Very sad



actually, your vaginal dryness might be why you have not had an orgasm during intercourse. Nikki_caro is right on the money. It took me months with my guy to have my first orgasm. I was really into it and afraid of getting caught b/c we were at his moms house. I was laying on a air mattress and he was on top. Just as I started to slide backward off the mattress, I tried to sit up and there it went! My first "o"! If you are comfortable with it, you can stimulate yourself while having intercourse.
You may want to try a oil like ky jelly to lubricate yourself.

Hope this helped- and wasnt too graphic!

Marissa
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replied December 19th, 2003
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Hey nikki you really know this huh naughty girl well I still havent had one with my guy yet either p.M me and give an insight on that!!!
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replied December 19th, 2003
Foreplay foreplay foreplay!!! If you have a problem with dryness, I wouldn't choose ky gelly as my first choice... It's a little too sticky. What is really good is astroglide! Good luck and have fun girls!!!!
Sara
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replied April 8th, 2009
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Girl I had the same problem in the past, but i couldn't agree more with nikki-caro. Come into your own groove, leave all your stress and worries behind and focus the enjoyment. I promise in time it will come.
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replied January 5th, 2010
A LOT OF FEMALES DONT!!!!!! AND DONT EVEN KNOW IT!
Omg!!!!! wow, there are plenty women that dont have one, and for me its not real easy to get.... i must agree with nikki. it is mos defintley a mind thing, if your mind aint right it wont happen. if he is turning you....wjy arent you getting wet? but foreplay, clear mind, relaxed and soft long strokes.. good luck
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replied February 25th, 2010
butter
ok what you want to really do is suck your butt whole then put butter on your vigina, then tickle it...good luck!
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replied May 10th, 2010
How to get an orgasim
What you do is you go into the shower turn the shower head on Jett sit
underneath it use ur twoindex fingers and Middle fingers on each side
of your vagina and let it hit you try different jets and find the one that
pleasures you. Good luckk and have fun , it''s a immediate orgasim
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replied June 2nd, 2011
Actually,I do that alot. But, I never say "ooooo" or "mmmm" Never. Its just a joy in the feeling I see.
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replied May 21st, 2010
wow me either
i havnt had one yet either i have tried alot of diff. positions but it doesnt seem to work, i usually have a clear mind n focus (lol) are there anyother types of ways to maybe help?????
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replied April 16th, 2011
there iz many ways maybe ur man not sexing u right maybe its too smakk for it to touch ur spot maybe its too big for u to handle it
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replied April 16th, 2011
there iz many ways maybe ur man not sexing u right maybe its too smakk for it to touch ur spot maybe its too big for u to handle it
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replied August 29th, 2010
wow lol dont have sex for a while you will start having strong desire then my bf and her hubby set me up with her cousin like wow the attraction was there so well found ourselves in the back seat of my s u v and it was great yes clear mind and intense moment it does it and hey we hit it off so it wasent a one night stand
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replied August 29th, 2010
wow lol dont have sex for a while you will start having strong desire then my bf and her hubby set me up with her cousin like wow the attraction was there so well found ourselves in the back seat of my s u v and it was great yes clear mind and intense moment it does it and hey we hit it off so it wasent a one night stand
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replied August 29th, 2010
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princessdeamon, Congratulations! Sounds like it was a lot of fun. I hope you are being safe!

Take care.
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replied April 30th, 2011
Orgasim
I got an orgasim i think....its when i started watching porn and i kept rubbing my clit and it felt so good my bed was starting shake...
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replied June 2nd, 2011
Yes, that is what I do, But I think an orgasim is really when you screa out loud or "MMMMM" "OHHHHH" "OOOO" "AAAAA" but, yes i do love rubbing my clit. I also just do it anywhere. Mostly to hide my leggs from moving I put a blanket over me. haha, but in my bed watching porn,I do it too. my bed shakes.
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replied May 1st, 2011
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All_girl, thanks for sharing this. You mention two very important things. You can only orgasm if you keep on stimulating yourself. If you stop and give up, you will not orgasm. The first time all sorts of strange feeling will go through your body and you should not be scared of it. Like you mention, your body can twitch and shake uncontrollable, shaking your bed. Your breathing may become very rapid and shallow and your heart will beat like when you are exercising. And just before orgasm, you can experience a feeling of agony in a very good way. The sexual tension will be so high that you will crave relief. That relief comes as the release of sexual tension during your orgasm, shaking, grabbing and gasping included.

The other thing is that since we as women do not teach each other how to orgasm, masturbation porn can be useful to teach us. And during arousal, it can help to watch or read something erotic. You can also fantasize about doing something or being with somebody.

Masturbation is a healthy way to deal with sexual urges, it is healthy and good for you, and it play a huge role in preventing relationship and sexual problems later on when you become sexually active. It also serves to educate you about your body and sexuality.
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replied June 2nd, 2011
I agree with UnknownABC so well! Yes i feel soooo great. my sexuality is not so insecure or awkward. Masterbation is very good for you health somehow actually, you burn callories doing it. Haha. Just a fact. Clear your mind and grap to things and breath heavily and deeply and twitch and scream out loud! MMMM I love Orgasims!
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replied October 26th, 2011
Let go and Let Orgasm
Yeah in my opinion there is a difference between climaxing and orgasming. Climaxing is when you stimulate the clitorous and build the passion until you explode. Orgasming involves penetration and some stimulation but a lot of it is mental...you have to let go and completely trust your partner, you have to be focused on how good it feels, just go with the flow! No expectation...it feels like heaven, intense and steady...I was on top and it lasted for an hour or more....I even cried...it was a very spiritual experience for me but it depends on the person..having a deep,intense and metaphysical connection with your partner is essential....don't give up...it's possible...just do hook up...cuz chances are, you're not going to be comfortable...you can climax during hook ups but I can imagine that it would be really hard to orgasm...I believe everyone has the power to orgasm...you just have to let go...it's not something you can make happen...just let your body go out of control and do not be afraid of what you're capable of!
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replied October 26th, 2011
Let go and Let Orgasm
Yeah in my opinion there is a difference between climaxing and orgasming. Climaxing is when you stimulate the clitorous and build the passion until you explode. Orgasming involves penetration and some stimulation but a lot of it is mental...you have to let go and completely trust your partner, you have to be focused on how good it feels, just go with the flow! No expectation...it feels like heaven, intense and steady...I was on top and it lasted for an hour or more....I even cried...it was a very spiritual experience for me but it depends on the person..having a deep,intense and metaphysical connection with your partner is essential....don't give up...it's possible...just do hook up...cuz chances are, you're not going to be comfortable...you can climax during hook ups but I can imagine that it would be really hard to orgasm...I believe everyone has the power to orgasm...you just have to let go...it's not something you can make happen...just let your body go out of control and do not be afraid of what you're capable of!
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replied April 5th, 2012
Im just a mere male so i hope its ok to give my opinion I belive it has to do with trust respect and also both mental spiritul and physical stimulation .not forgetting lots of foreplay and after making love and heaps of after play also.You would be amazed at the spiritual orgasims that one can have if you include all of the above in your lovemaking
Just my opinion Smile
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