I'm 23 and almost 10wks pregnant. The father (age 25) and I were just getting to know eachother and the first night we really hung out we made a big mistake. Now i'm pregnant and he wants an abortion which he believes "will benefit all three of us". I think our relationship had a chance but now with this...Who knows. I'm very depressed now...Especially when I see he calls. I talk to him but it's hard cause I get so stressed out! I try to pretend i'm ok...But i'm not! He's not being a jerk or anything and he apologizes whenever he says anything slightly rude, but I can't take the guilt. I feel such guilt for this being my choice and it deciding the rest of his life. True we both made this happen...But if it was his choice he would have long aborted it. I'm too soft when it comes to upsetting people. I've been strong in standing my ground and he knows I won't back down. He says if I have it he will be a part of the life...Actually he says he "has" to cause he couldn't imagine having a child out there and him not be involved. My family is awesome about it, and I find it so reassuring that it will all be okay when they tell me it will work out. He has no one telling him that he can do it, and that it will work out. He hasn't told his family which he is close to. I know he's the kind to plan out his life and this has thrown him into a tailspin. I'm so frustrated with wondering if and when he'll accept this. I hate this feeling of guilt. I can't get excited about the baby. My life like his is changing and he doesn't realize it's hard on me too. I find myself not openning up to him and i'm scared when he calls and he does call alot. I want him to like me (at least as a friend) so we can have a healthy relationship for our baby, but I fear it might not come. I truly feel he likes talking to me about it, even though he's against what i'm doing, cause I know deep down he would never want an abortion but his fear is overpowering him. I feel that since he doesn't talk with anyone about it I should listen to his side as well as express mine, but when do I draw the line for keeping my sanity and helping him except?