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My husband thinks that he has a small penis, and I feel like it's my fault. I've never been able to orgasm during sex, neither through intercourse or oral. I think this makes him feel like he isn't big enough. I reassure him all the time that he's fine. He's not small, and it's not his fault. It's mine. With him thinking this way, it puts more pressure on me to come, which reduces the likeliness of it happening. I guess I have two frustrations. I can't get off, and my husband doesn't feel like he measures up. If anyone has any advice...
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replied October 11th, 2005
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Don't feel as though it's just you in that situation. I have that same problem as well. I do not seem to come during sex either. I can come sometimes during oral. I even come during oral while doing him. He (my boyfriend) also makes comments sometimes about his size. So, don't feel bad I can relate. :d try masturbating. I do it all the time with or without him. Get to know ur self and what u like first then the rest will fall into place.
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replied October 11th, 2005
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Simply put, sexuality is all in your head. Your mind determines how your body responds. Let's face it, if in your mind you are not into the guy, the situation, or the experience.. Regardless of his size, physical appearance, or what he does... You will not orgasm, or even get sexually aroused.

Besides this, you also need to teach your body how to orgasm.. The release is something you bring yourself to, and release. It doesn't matter how good he is in bed, if you haven't learned how your body acts and reacts, you will not orgasm. This is typically learned through self-masturbation and experimenting.

And lastly, he has a responsibility to learn your body too... You determine which feelings, touches, and atmosphere your enjoy the most and he has to comply with this. A girl's body is a lot more complex than pornography leads men to believe... He needs to do some learning too.

Justin
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replied October 11th, 2005
Thanks for the advice. I do masturbate, and I can get off then, but it seems as thought when he's down there, and hits the right spot, I can't take it. I have purchased and read a few books on orgasms, and I feel like I am learning some things, and I am hoping when he returns home from iraq that he will also learn. I would like to know how to make him feel more confident about his size. I have never, never thought that there was anything wrong with his penis. It's perfect. He told me that when he comes home, he wants to start taking these pills to make it bigger, because it will make him feel better. I told him that I don't want it to be any bigger, but it is his penis. But, we're married, and shouldn't I have a say in it?
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replied October 17th, 2005
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Practice makes perfect
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replied October 18th, 2005
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I like to talk dirty and try all kinds of exoctic things with my man. Often times I find that when I perform oral on him that his size increases when he is really turned on. But, I do all kinds of things to take his mind away from his size. But, have you ever noticed that when you get used to their size you adjust. I like the size of my man because it just feels right. He can beat it the way that I like. So I am satisfied.
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replied November 3rd, 2005
Been there, done that. Listen you are making too much out of this. Many, many women do not orgasm threw intercourse alone. In fact very few can, your love making can be wonderful regardless of the size.
That is a very touchy subject for a man. May I offer some advice in the "how to make your man feel big without being big" when you are fooling around, focus on how hard it is. Tell him that it is soooo hard, men love that. Try saying "oh my god you are so hard" it will make him feel like a king. Tell him you love the way it feels, taste, you get the idea. If you enjoy oral, the spot just below his testies is a big turn on for a man. The truth is, this does not have to be an issue, unless you want it to be. I have had big and small and I would take small any day of the week. Men with smaller packages are the best lovers.
I am 42 and can only cum threw oral. Never threw intercourse. My husband thought like yours and I had to do some research to prove to him that not all women can. I told him I like it, the way he feels inside, but I am not going to cum. Since he knows this, he works extra hard on making me enjoy myself the other way.
If this is the only thing thats a problem and the rest of your marriage is happy, make it a non issue. Invent your own fun. Once you get him feeling more at ease with himself, the rest will be easy. Good luck
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replied November 4th, 2005
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Hello my boy friend also thinks he's too small, but to make life a little bit easyer I fake it some time's to build up his conferdance I found that this works. Which is better for both of us as I love him and I set ut to make him happy
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replied November 4th, 2005
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hello my boy friend also thinks he's too small, but to make life a little bit easyer I fake it some time's to build up his conferdance I found that this works. Which is better for both of us as I love him and I set ut to make him happy

i think faking it is a bad idea. You are cheating yourself
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replied November 6th, 2005
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Many women cant orgasm during intercourse from penetration alone. I think if your man realizes that he wont take it so personal.
Also maybe you should tell him that it is better for both of you if you get off first (thru oral or manual stimulation-clitoral orgasm) because you will be much more aroused when you have intercourse and you will feel tighter to him and for you he will feel so much bigger.
I have only orgasmed during sex once and that was because I was touching myself at the same time. There is nothing wrong with you or your man.
Good luck to you and I hope I could be of some help
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replied August 20th, 2012
I am a guy and have no worries if I am big enough. I have been married to the same woman for 12 years. Wife does not have vaginal orgasms. Never has. We figured out how to satisfy other ways and it is obvious that my wife loves my body for what it is. If we talk about size, sure it is easy with the media to equate the lack of internal type orgasm to the size of my manhood but we all know that is rediculous. If you spend your time on porn sites you are bound to see a few adds that say, "satisfy her with this" or "size matters" that. It is all marketing and gets into a mans head by design. What I have learned is that by far, women love their man for who he is and that gets her off a million times more that the size of his penis hitting all the right spots due to its size.

My advise, stop talking about it and make love to him. If he feels how much love you have for him and how much you enjoy being there with him, the questions and insecurities will melt away over time and who knows, feeling that new comfort just might make you come too!
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