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Q: Premature Ejaculation

asked by: *The_Viking* on October 10th, 2005

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Hey guys, I just turned 19 not too long ago and well i've been having sex since the age of 17. With my first girlfriend I noticed that I was quite premature in ejaculating with her but she didn’t seem to mind so we just had sex a lot. I have to say that I am a pretty good looking guy and knew how to treat her right and if I didn’t have my looks I know she wouldn’t stay with me.

Well i’ve been with my second girlfriend for a little over a year and I treat her so well and we really are so happy with each other and both want to get married someday and have kids together. I love her so much and we both love to have sex but i'm so terrible because I can’t hold myself nearly long enough for her to have an organism. I’m so upset with myself because I really want our sex life to be strong and I can tell so does she but she says that there’s not really any point in having sexy because I only get what I want and she never does and she says we only do it now for me because I never last long enough for her to orgasm. I've started going down on her and I know she loves it but I know she wants intimate sex even more but I cant give it to her. I’m not a bad size and she’s even told me that but last night we had a serious conversation after we had sex and I could tell she was upset and I really needed to know it my premature ejaculation was the problem. She told me yes and I feel awful because I know she won’t leave me or cheat but I know she probably kind of feels that she’s stuck with terrible sex all her life now. I feel terrible because we both can’t share the wonderful feeling of sex together.

I absolutely hate being premature and I would appreciate it if somebody ...Anybody out there has the same problems and has found a way to beat it. Ill do anything or try anything.....Well thats not going to harm me..But you know what I mean. Maybe you can recommend a physician around the toronto, ontario, canada area that I can go and visit who can possibly help me. I’ve already tried the stud 100 desensitizing spray and it worked great for the first few times but after a while of using it I realized I felt nothing after a short while of sex and my penis would then go down and she still wouldn’t get any pleasure. It went from one bad thing to the next!. Please...I beg of you...Any of you, please help me. I don’t want to be stuck with horrible sex and a premature ejaculating penis my whole life. I love sex and so does she. Please help us…

ps. Ive looked at all the other forums and nothing in those have helped at all. Please...I need a solution...Please..Thanks soo much in advance

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Steve-O

replied on October 11th, 2005

New User

Well, I can suggest something thats a little tiring, but it works.

When you have a lot of spare time or your up late at night or whatever, watch some porn or something, whatever gets you hard.

Masturbate until you feel like you're gonna cum. Right before you do, stop, and let your penis recover. Breathe deep and close your eyes, take your hand off your penis. Just relax and breathe deep for a while. After about 30 seconds do it again.

Repeat 5 or 6 times for the first couple of days. (eventually, let yourself cum or you'll get blue balls ouch!!)

after a while you should notice your orgasms dont come on quite as fast.

Begin to repeat the process 9 or 10 times for a few days.

Continue at your own pace until you have reached the point where you feel you can have sex until you please your woman. :)

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cd998776

replied on October 11th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Steve-o is recommending the "stop and go" technique which is a good idea. You might also try kegels. While they may take some times to see the effects, in the long run, you'll be glad you spent the time on them. You also might try masturbating prior to sex. This is the easiest fix.

*The_Viking*

replied on October 12th, 2005

New User

Hey, thank you so much for responding...I didn't think anybody was ever going to. I will definately try the masturbating until I feel as if i'm gonna cum...Method lol. And I definately will get back to you after i've tried it for a week or so. I have tried masturbating before I have sex and it has worked sometimes but even still its not long enough for me or her. For once in my life I would love to have to feeling of controlling when I choose to cum...That would be a dream come true. And as funny as it sounds, for once in my life I would love to have blue balls during sex haha.

I have heard about kegels...What are they and how do you do them?. If you could give me some information on them that would be awesome. As I said before i'de try anything to control this horrible problem.

Other information about myself that I forgot to mention before is that I probably masturbate once every 2 days, and have sexy about once or twice a week. Like its not like in not active its just that the lil bugger wont stop going off so soon lol. Any more reccomendations, comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I was also thinking about maybe some pills I could take prior to sex that would give me the control that I really want. If anybody could suggest some of those that would be really cool too. Thanks in advance.

cd998776

replied on October 12th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

*the_viking* wrote:

i have heard about kegels...What are they and how do you do them?. If you could give me some information on them that would be awesome. As I said before i'de try anything to control this horrible problem.

kegels is the method in which one exercises their pc muscle. This would be the muscle you use to stop peeing, or "move" our penis without touching it. Simple contractions every day will do the trick, but you should read up on them to create a routine. You must be very sure, however, that it is only the pc muscle you are contracting. Contracting other muscles (such as the anus) will keep you from having any results. When used properly, kegels can be used to increase the pleasure of orgasm, allow you to orgasm without ejaculating, and in some cases choose when you are ready to orgasm.

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