Hello all!
New to the site- so far finding it really useful!- just finished reading post "how do I know i'm having an orgasm", and its responses...


(please bear with me, I know this post is long)

one of you responded and shared that in the 9 years that you've been active, you havent yet experienced an intercourse-induced-org.

Being still young and having had intercourse in the past with men who weren't necessarily boyfriends (many just one-night stands, never with anyone I was really in love with/cared for), it doesnt freak me out that in the 3 years that i've been doing it, I havent yet had an orgasm during sex. The feelings are definitely heightened when with someone you love...


Growing up and watching talk-shows, reading women's magazines, I heard a lot about women and the difficulty in reaching an orgasm in bed-i neeeeever thought it'd be the way it is until I started having sex! "masturbation was always so easy, why should sex be so hard, I thought(no pun intended!)." I can be as excited as a kid with sugar, foreplay, my mind clear...And yet I can never orgasm.
For the past couple of weeks i've been seeing this great guy, who i've now become intimate with. For the couple of months, for many reasons(stress, worries, money problems) I havent had many sexual thoughts or desire for sex....Lately i've been desiring it more, and we've been doing it often...I've told him about my problem(?) and since then, he has tried to help me org. Last time I got to a most excited state, yet it was taking so long that I got tired(and I was the one on the bottom)and we stopped.

Of course our bodies each have their own rhythm, each its own preferred position....But I end up getting aggravated (when I should be feeling ultimate relaxation) and hesitate to get into bed because I know we will try and try and nothing will come of it(literally).

Any comments, opinion, advice, help??


Thanks much, in a rush for class, more later.