He Smokes Crack: Stay Or Leave?

If you love him, and you think you two have a bright future together(granted he stays drug free) then I would suggest talking to him about his addiction and that it is serious. Tell him that you care about him, and if he cared about you he would consider getting treatment for his addiction. It sounds like he is way past quitting on his own; this means he’s going to need to spend some time in rehab. The best thing you can do for him is make him realize he has a very serious problem and that he is jeopardizing you relationship, and his life, every single time he smokes crack or snorts some coke.

I know how serious this type of addiction can be, and I know once it reaches the point that it has with your boyfriend, it is time to either walk away from him and let him ruin his life, and not yours, or try to help him. He won’t be able to get help until he wants to. You need to make him realize that he needs help. See a doctor about his bi-polar, and at the same time get some referrals for some drug rehab clinics.

Get him treatment, asap; if you love him, you will fight for his health, if he loves you more than the drugs, then he will fight for his relationship.
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Please please please leave him. I just went through four years of hell because I thought he'd love me more than drugs when I met my boyfriend he had done a prison sentence, came out was reformed wanted a life, wanted a family, wanted so many things. We had a great relationship. He called me his angel and that I saved him adn I was the only person who cared about him and I fell in love wiht his daughter as well as him. I stayed for 2 years after he started smoking crack, the first for him, the second for his daughter. It will not get better. He will take everything from you. After a while they will have no remorse for what they are doing to u, it will not matter to them. I lost my job, my house, my family, everything because I stayed to get him better. You will not be able to change him. You can't change him he'd need to do it fr himself. The life you are living will only get worse. Get out now. Give him a wake up call, pack your caca and leave. If he doesnt wake up he's not worth it. He needs some sort of wake up call to know this will not be tolerated. Do not waste your life. You are young you can find someoen. I know finding someone else isn't what you want but u will and u will be happier. I know u feel bad but trust me u could stand to lose everything. Care more about yourself than him.

+1 to the post above!

Crack will lead to meth and then you are really in for a real treat. You need to get out and go far away from this guy. You are not going to have a good life, for god's sake, he stole your family big screen to go get dope.

You don't consider it stealing..... Well it just affected your ablity to watch a decent television. If you buy a new on, the crack man will have it again.

My uncle frank was murdered by a 15 year old crack dealer and now that little punk is serving 30 years to life with parole at the 30 year mark.

You are not going to like living if this guy is bad enough to take household stuff. Don't listen to anyone that tells you to stay and help him. They are probably scamming their partner into staying too.

Get out, get out, get, out!!!!!

You are young and you still have a chance. The choices and decisions you make now will affect the way you live the rest of your life. You have options and if you decide to stay with this guy, you are choosing the hard and impossible path for yourself.

Leave him, leave him, leave him.

You may love him but if you love yourself you will get out now. I promise that you won't change him, doing 19 months in prison didn't change him and I guarantee you won't either. You could be the greatest person in the world but an addict will chose drugs over life itself. I've always believed that you are who you hang around -and if you aren't, you will eventually be. If you choose to hang around people with your similar morals, and values and it will get you alot farther in life and probably leave you with alot less headaches. I'm not saying he's bad for being an addict but i'm saying you don't need to be a victim of his drug abuse.


He told you that what he does with his money is his descision, well didn't it affect you when the big screen went so that he could get his fix. I can tell by that statement that he is a very manipulative person. He can deny being an addict and you may not think he is but honestly, does a person trading their big screen tv for crack sound like behavior of a non drug addict? Crack is highly addictive and I can promise you that his use will not get less frequent, it will only continue to grow out of hand.

What is troubling is that he already did time for trafficing cocaine but he would still risk doing it or getting caught. Trust me, if you stay with him, he will take you right down with him.

If I were your sister I would tell you and do everything in my power to make you get out now. You could be making a crucial life decision here and I would hate to see you get thrown into that lifestyle. Plus, if he needs something better than lithium, maybe he needs to leave that up to the professionals to prescribe for him (and be honest and tell the doc about his crack and opiate use). Alot of addicts that are diagnosed bipolar are actually misdiagnosed and have drug induced symptoms of bipolar disorder.

This is all just advice and of course i'm no dr and really have no business saying some of the things I did but you need to leave him. The only way I think it would be ok for you to be with him would be months from now if he got help and proved to you for a long period of time that he was changing his life. I seriously doubt that will happen though.

You are young and have so much potential, don't choose a hard life. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

If you can take a look at msn's ask a recovering addict and they also have a site for loved ones famililes that are dealing with the issue. Unless he want to quit, you don't have a chance sorry I don't want to sound callous my husband is addicted too and it has been a nightmare.. :cry:

I would love to tell you that love can conquer all, but you need to look oyt for yourself first. My mother is a homeless crack addict and if I had stuck around any longer than I did I would probably be a bad situation too.
I think it would be wise to tell him you love him and you'll be there if he ever wants to clean up but that until then you can not permit this kind of behaviour. Sticking around gives him a crutch and tells him you're ok with it.

I havent read any of the replies, but one of my close friends is addicted to crack, and I seriously think she is going to die. It is so sad what she is doing to herself. She doesnt want her friends, she doesnt want her two beautiful daughters, she just wants to sit in her room and smoke crack. Its horrible, horrible. If I were you I would take time apart until he quits it. Maybe that will be some motivation, but then again-doubt it. Crack addicts dont care about anything or anyone. Sorry if I am judging, but I am really worried about my friend and I wouldnt want it to happen to anyone

If this is the type of life you want than stay but I do not reccommend it, do you want to end up with a crack baby? Leaave and do not look back is what I would suggest. It is your choice and you must do what makes you happy!
Good luck!

Hell never stop hes done for life, he will start usin other drugs