Ok I am 20 I grew up with my dad doing crank. I watched him do unbelivably horrible things to my mother over and over again. I personally have smoked pot maybe 4 times in my life and refused to ever be with a druggy. So when I was 16 and met the man of my dreams I couldn't be happier, we married and a little over two years after meeting he decideds to join a gang and start using crank he lost his job and that was it I sold the house behind his back (it was in my grandparents name) took my son and moved to nv with my parents. It has now been over 1 year he has gone to jail about 3 times and live on the streets of richmond, ca for a while he came around. He is now a better man then I ever knew and I can't get enough of him.
So my point is the old saying is true if you love them let them go if it's true they'll be back.. 'and cleaned up'

Ok I am 20 I grew up with my dad doing crank. I watched him do unbelivably horrible things to my mother over and over again. I personally have smoked pot maybe 4 times in my life and refused to ever be with a druggy. So when I was 16 and met the man of my dreams I couldn't be happier, we married and a little over two years after meeting he decideds to join a gang and start using crank he lost his job and that was it I sold the house behind his back (it was in my grandparents name) took my son and moved to nv with my parents. It has now been over 1 year he has gone to jail about 3 times and live on the streets of richmond, ca for a while he came around. He is now a better man then I ever knew and I can't get enough of him.
So my point is the old saying is true if you love them let them go if it's true they'll be back.. 'and cleaned up'

If he loves you he would aknowledge that he has a problem and at recognize that you don't like it. If you haven't told him how strongly you feel do it. Even give him an ultimatum. Not too drastic but something like "understand my feelings or I will leave you". If he loved you...He would try to understand. You dont have to go so drastic like "stop today or I will leave you" b/c if he's addicted it is a hard thing to beat. But at least make him commit to you to help himself and eventually stop.

I'm 22 and both of my parents did crank. My mom stopped before I remember but my dad still does it and it really really really messes people up. I have seen and even lived with crack addicts and it's really bad. If he gets any further it will keep getting worse.

Good luck girl.

You should not even have to ask this question. First off if he wants help then you can try and help him seek help. I work at an alcohol and drug rehab. The majority of our patients come back over 40 times. I work on the male cottage. After talking with them and having family members on drugs it's best to leave sometimes. It is so easy for a man to pull a woman down with him. The majority of theses men will tell you that not even their children can make them stop doing drugs. The majority of them are aware of their addictions but can not stop using. So, if they are not willing to change for the sake of the people that care and matter the most then let them be. You can only help someone that really wants the help. And still, you can't really help the ones that want the help because an addiction is something that they are going to have to really work at. All you can do is be supportive and try not to let them get to stressed because that makes it all the easier for them to use drugs again. To numb their pain.

Ahhhhhhh.....Leave him!!!!!

But be very careful how you go about it!! Dont let him hurt you physically or mentally!

Good luck mate with your decision!! :-)

I just read your story. I myself now in my thirtys never smoked crack or for that much knew what it looked like. I am now running for literally from my ex husband is a crack addict. I met him a few years ago and at first in wasn't apparent that he had a 25 year habit behind him I never had a clue. If I could share some of my horror stories with you about what it does and what they promise they will stop doing. Without reminding myself to much again what a hell I am trying to get out of now like I could ever forget I lost my home, my things wound up disapearing winding up at the dope mans house or the pawn shop, I worked every day doing a very physical job even with the broken bones I recieved after the drugs became appearent in our life. I was forced to work even being a disabled person so that I could be stripped of all I made to go right to the dope house for his entertainment. He would become very violent for no reason at times has taken my breath, broken ribs, nose, fingers, eardrum, black eyes, bruises and worst of all my two children arn't here with me now because it wasn't safe for them my biggest loss. I will never recover from this and nor will my kids. Please let him go now before it gets worse for you. You can't make him love you or himself all he loves is the drug and if he can trade you for it he will believe it it most defiently happens. I am now running for my life and safety he is now locked up for reasons behind crack and I am having to move accross the states to escape him at his time of release. I'm now left with a broken heart withouy my kids till its completely safe and restraining orders to "help" keep him away and literally killing me. You don't know what you are getting into they don't change unless they want to and the odds are slim even rehab is not likely to work it is a very powerful drug stronger then we are. Please be safe it makes people we love into someone we don't know and hate. Don't second guess this it will ruin your life find me one person who has actually lived it that will tell you different besides the addict themselves. :

My ex husband would get extremely violent if he couldn't get his crack he put my arm through the window trying to get the car keys out of my hand!He sold alot of our possesions in the house including his wedding band twice.He even had the nerve to take our then 2 year old on his crack binge when my grandmom had a stroke and was in the hospital. Better leave while you can or you eventually won't have anything. Got tired of paying all the neighbor's back and him getting fired from numerous jobs cause he was too hung over the next morning

He has to not only want to quit but have to be sufficiently motivated to quit and stay away from it.

I was in a 8 yr relationship with someone that was 5 yrs clean when I met him. After being together 5 yrs he started using again. Some of the things that he told me were that he truely wanted to quit. When he did not have money he did not smoke crack and was sickened that he actually did it, felt horrible about it, wanted to turn over a new leaf. I believe that he was entirely sincere in his feeling that way and that most crack users do feel that way. Then the minute that he got money in his hands his reasoning would just go and all he could think about was crack.

While he is wonderful when he is not using (when he has no money) and I am sure he is a wonderful person he still will have that compulsion to smoke it and there is nothing that you can do about that... As the other posters stated , if you stay with him long enough he may get violent and threaten you for your money. My ex broke my arm one nite and the following day threw a chair at me and broke my ribs. He did 6 months for it and I have had to get several restraining orders on him and have sent him to jail several times.

There are too may people out there that you can have a relationship with that you do not need to worry about your stuff being stolen, your money being stolen, being threatened

the only way that they can get off of it is to hit rock bottom... Bottom is different for each person. It is just a matter of how bad things get before they decide to make the changes. And even at that there is no guarantee that once he hits that bottom and you are there to pick up the pieces for him that he will stay clean.

If you want someone to talk to for support and to learn how to not enable him check for a nar anon chapter in your area.

It is like alanon but for narcotics. If you can't find anything try calling alanon or narcotics anonymous.

I wish you the best of luck with the situation