Hi, im 19, freshman in college. Still a virgin, never had a serious girlfriend. Im kinda shy, and a nice guy, (i know most girls dont like nice guys.) I have alot of friends, most people think im funny, I drive a decent car, and I ride a crotch rocket in the summer, I shower every day, I think im in good shape, seems like im always "just a friend." im no brad pitt, but I dont think im super ugly. Heres what I think are my problems: my school has like a 10-1 boy-girl ratio, some girls at work like me, but almost all of them are like 16/17 years old, im too nice, I live far away from everything, and im always busy (school/sports/work) and im kinda pickey when it comes to girls.
What the heck is wrong with me? Any advice will help, im tired of being single, what should I do, please give advice!
Let me start by saying that women like the "bad guy" thing at first, but if it's longevity they're looking for, then they prefer the "good guy" thing.
Alright ... Right off the bat, you are a very attractive guy. Everything happens for a reason and right now ... It's just not that time for you. If you think it may be due to your appearance, then try something different. Cut your hair, highlight it .... Or try a different wardrobe.... And try to pay attention to the types of reactions that you are getting. Or just be yourself, and time will bring you something wonderful.
Also, try not to be too picky at first. It's okay to have high standards, but if it's not getting you where you want to be, then you should bring them down just a tad. Take someone out on a date that you normally wouldn't give the time of day because she didn't meet up to your standards. Could be your soulmate!
I'm sure you're gonna find someone to relate to! I'm sorry if I wasn't very helpful :-) i'll be checking this often if you feel like writing back. Good luck!
Its not that my standerds are high, its that I like cute, nice girls. Theres not many nice girls my age, all the cute girls seem to be stuck up, and high matinance, all the nice girls my age seem to be quiet and boring, and all the nice/cute girls I know have boyfriends.
:lol: why don't you just try to be your self,and not let it get to the "oh she's just a friend" part.. It would help us if you told me what you think is cute. Don't be so closed off and shy.. Also it more then just oh I like skiny blone and cute. Sit down and start to think what will matter to you.
Is her relation the same,what morals and values does she have. Is she nice, caring,sweet,down to earth. That's the problem today most people only go for the instant attraction. They just don't see a girl and talk to her. If she nice then get to be her friend,you never know what can happen.
Beauty starts from the inside out!!! I know that a lot of people say that ... "people who say "beauty starts from the inside out" are probably ugly themselves!" ... Well, i'm here to tell you that i'm not, lol!
There are some really beautiful women out there. And you don't even realize how beautiful they are until you get to know them. Some of the ugliest women (i hate to put it that way) are the most beautiful because they have the greatest personalities - which, in turn, makes them beautiful on the outside. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I agree with bpjoe23 ... People see a beautiful woman and automatically think that she is great! (and vice versa). Basing everything on her looks and how much they are attracted to her. And sometimes, she turns out to be one of the meanest, ugliest women you could have ever met.
The nice girls you know are probably just shy. Get to know one of them, break 'em from their shell and that could be your soulmate. Who knows?