She could try to secretly record the conversation, and then have him arrested for attempted blackmail. But that is probably too complicated!

Does your friend really believe that her parents don't have an inkling of what she has been up to -- like they would be surprised?
She should break off with the guy, and tell him that if he wants to tell her parents, go ahead. If they are then shocked or whatever, she should tell her parents about the blackmail and ask if they would rather not know now, and then find out she was trapped in an abusive relationship because she was too frightened of them finding out.

She has said that she just like started back talking to her mom and her parents dont know that she actually still goes out with him, if they were seen in public, she would have to like quit her job and cut off everything till she was 18, her parents dont like the age difference

Can anyone offer any advice?

I would let him tell her parents whatever he wants. How will they find out if he is telling the truth. She can say she dumped him, it hurted his pride more than anything else cause person who is doing things like that probably loves only himslef in this world and now he's making all this stuff up to get back at her. Well she may confess to some of the sins, but then say the rest was just exaggerated. Because at the end of the time will come when he'l probably tell her parents stuff. It's better to end this asap.

You could tell the parents. They do love her unconditionally, and she will thank you later as it will better her life and lift his control over her. Screw him, save her, and in time make yourself the hero. She will hate you at first but if she does not forgive you, she is not a true friend.

I really think her parents would much rather have their daughter leave this bf. I think she should break up with him and let him do whatever he wants. She should come clean to her parents about her still going out with him. Just tell her to be honest. Sounds like they are only out for her best interest. Whatever she does, she needs to get out of that relationship.

Hey,

I was in the same dilemma but at 16 I was dating a 23 year old who was really sweet and became abusive mentally and kept blackmailing me cause I cut off all my ties when I was with him. My bestfriend, you in this case gave me an ultimatum either I tell my parents or she does, you have to help your friend, I got into a even stickier position he basically raped me and I got prego but I kept putting up with the bs that is why my friend got involved.

My parents picked me up(more of dragged me out)they were pissed at first but they helped me more than you can imagine, I told them everything I had done and they forgave me but it took a few days to calm down. Me and friend still talk and I appreciate what she did it was for the better i'm 21 now and i'm married and expecting a #2 but my husband is my bestfriend now and he knows everything about my past so that none could blow up in my face..

I wish you the best just help her before it becomes too late, what he is doing is a form of abuse and her parents will love her no matter what is said. If you need to ask anything send me a message

jess