Iam a new member so people please help me out and give some suggestions and very depressed and have no one to talk to so thought ou people have been through it and all and can help me .. Sp please help me .. :(

I know how u feel when the person u love is moving away from u

i think if u really love her go an see her, I know it india an things r not the same but my friend if u want her u need to show the that go to her house face her parents an tell them tht u love her an she loves u but one thing u need to know for sure will she back u up when u go there do u think if it come to the crunch will she be willing to leave her family( I am not say she should or u should do thatbut u need to know this) an if she says yes then she truly lovs u, an u should go to her parents an talk to them face to face not over the phone

thats all I can tell u

I don't think going and seeing her is such a good idea because it could get her and yourself in a lot of trouble. I mean, the last thing you want to do is make the parents even angrier than they already are. I think that if you and her are meant to be together then you will be, regardless of what her parents think. If you and her are in love that deeply, then she will come to you - because she will understand that love like yours and hers isn't easy to find. I wish you all the best!

Hey @ tamanna you are right. I can go there and face her parents anytime the only problem is iam not able to talk to her :(. She has a friend who called me up and asked about me after all this happened, that means she loves me as much as I love her but she is damn sacrred of her parents and cant go against her thats hy she is trying to forget me. I havent met her but I kno her very well.Should I try meeting her first?? Then her parents? I have thought and set my mind that I will marry her only otherwise I wont marry at all will wait for her all my life.But will get her only.Dont know how dont know when.. I love her way tooooooo much.God bless us please....

Meeting her parents directly can put things into more trouble?? Or should I write a snail mail addrerssing to her parents?? Telling how much I like her and the pure relation we share..People plz plz plz help me out. Its been 18 days I havent heard her voice no contact from her..Cant live without her..Nothing is popping up in my mind..Iam like a life less person without her..

Yes I think you should hand write her parents a letter stating your feelings for their daughter and explain to them the purity and sincerity of your love. Ask for their permission to speak with their daughter and be very very respectful of them. Remember, they are just trying to protect her. Tell them that you are willing to do whatever they require for their blessing and permission to be in a relationship with her. Show them that you understand why they initally banned you two from speaking to eachother (to protect her). Just make sure you're very nice and respectful. If they still will not allow it, then you need to give it some time. Although that may be painful, you don't want to anger her parents or they may never allow it. Hope I helped!

I agree totally with danniefoley2004!

Showing up at their door unexpectedly would be disrespectful to them and would make the whole situation worse, especially since they didn't want her talking to you in the first place. Send them a handwritten letter and express how you feel about their daughter. Things may take time, but they may come around and allow you both to see each other. Good luck!

@danniefoley2004 and overlyworried: thanx for helping a broken hearted person.I will surely write a mail to her parents.But one thing is that I havent told my parents about it and iam currently with them and pretending to be normal. They dont have any clue than iam in love with a girl who lives miles apart. I was going to tell them but all this happened "break off" all of a sudden nothing happened between us. Infact day before she told her mom and her moms reaction was positive and her mom told her dad a day after and he got so angry that she was forced to take this step. :( . How could I tell my parents that I was in relationship and its over..?? Iam very confused with life after all this. I talked to her mom on phone 2-4 days after all this happned her mom said "you are small for all this thing... Its just infatutation and all its better its over" and her mom also said best of luck for your life.But my life is her. I cried a lot ,i seriously love her alot.


What should I do people?? Tell my parents first?? But I want to tell my parents if her parents n all agree.B'coz currently iam not in a position to tell my parents bcoz iam not able to talk to her dont know the situation there.There's nothing to tell to my parents at this stage. I think will tell them after her parents repond to my mail will send a greeting card of a big indian festival diwali.. What do u people say.


One of her friend called me up and promised to make her talk to me hearing my cry silently but no calls yet .One of my very close friend(only he knows about all this) is very concerned about my state of mind and health and says he will talk to her friend and try convincing her(my gal) to talk to me or meet me once in person.


Thanx a lot for ur support and suggestion I really need them. Keeping helping me plzzz.


Sorry for writing long but cant help it bcoz you all people are the only one I hve to share my feeling and help get my love again.

You're right, foundsome1. You should definitely wait until you get a response from the mail you sent them (or are planning on sending them) before you tell your parents.

Maybe you can talk the parents into letting you meet "your gal" on a friends only basis, making sure that her parents can see you and her at all times, so they can just get use to the idea. It'll be awkward - but it may be the only thing they'll let you do at this point in time.

Always remember that most dads are very protective of their little girls, just like moms are usually protective of their little boys. It may take time, but if she is the one you want, then you've got quite a bit of time.

Stay strong and good luck!

Thanx to every 1 who cared to reply to my topic. Dont know what's gonna happen?:( but iam trying to hold on... Still no contact with her and its getting harder for me. Hope this mailing thing works keep my fingures crossed and believe in god. But this is for sure she's the only 1 for me.

Every 1 please keep pouring your valuable suggestion...They can save my love :)

Her friend just called me and told me she is out of station with her family and she will call you when she gets back. I just asked how is she?? She said she(my gal) is fine. And told me to get out of it. She will call me around 23 oct iam waiting.. Lets see..

I keep posting latest details of my life as I only have u all to share with :) and help me in this.. Iam keeping my fingures crossed..

Waiting for ur replies... Bcoz I cant do anything :(

Still waiting for he call on 23rd that is tomorrow. Lets see. U people keep pouring ur suggestions

She called day before yesterday and talking to her was like totally talking to some one else. Her father has brain washed her. She has lost all hopes that we can get togther. Though I told my mom and she is supporting me very much and ready to do anything to get her. But she(my gal) said I have come out of it and you also come out of it and while saying that she a crying. I said talk to your parents again she said they created a hell for me and now I dont want it again I cannot go against my parents. I told her i'll live with your memories all my life and I mean it. I really love her alot. My mom wanted to talk to her but her mood was off so my mom said will talk to you later. Her friends is helping me a lot in getting in touch with her though she her self has left all hopes.. Hope she calls my mom today ..

What can be done in my situation now?? People..Come on plzz help..

Hey foundsome1! I'm glad to hear that she finally called you (even though it wasn't the greatest conversation).

You can't push her into going against her parents when she doesn't want to. All you can do is let her know how much you love her and try to stay in contact as best you can. Maybe, as time goes by, she will become stronger and decide that she wants to be with you and that nothing is going to stop her from doing just that.

She seems tore up about it, but you have to respect her wishes - even if you don't agree with them. She has chosen to sacrifice love in order to please her parents and make her world better (because there won't be all the drama and fighting) ... And you have to accept the choice she has chosen to make.

In the meantime, keep praying and I wish you all the best!

:thanks overlyworried for being there and replying to my topic.


Well day before yesterday lot of drama happened. I told my mom about this whole thing and she was surprized but supported me fully. Day earlier to this I was soo frustrated that I planned to go alone without teliing any one to my gals place2000km by train and ask her wats wrong and all but my friend told my plans to my mom and she came over as iam in my gradfathers flat alone. Now my friend called up her friend without letting me know and told her that he is way too upset please make her(my gal) talk to him. So in evening she called..

Me: what happened al of a sudden?


She: you know my parents are totally against it and some priest also said no..Thats why.


Me: didnt u try and convince your parents??


She: I tried my best but they just dont understand and my father is too
against it.

Me: nothing is impossible lemme try once..


She: no use now.. I have realised that it was very immature of me all the time. That without meeting some 1 how can you talk about marriege? And
was cring ;( .And said iam coming out of it and you also come out of it.


Me:how could you.?. I love you way too much..Please dont do this to me..


She: well I have taken a decision and wont changed..She also said dont call me ,try forgetting me. Delete all my sms and pics

me:well I said I wont bcoz i'll be living with the memories we shared all my life and keep waiting for you bcoz I know you will come..

She has been totally brain washed by her parents. Well I cannot play with free will. But I loved her, love her and always will love her. If my love is strong she will come back to me.


My mom even cried for me that you love her so much and she's not backing you up....


You all must be thinking what a mad person iam?? That still hoping things would workout but yes they might workout all out of the blues.

Iam not that kinda a guy who will ever fall in love again. I loved one person and will keep loving her till my last breath though she's not with me physically but the lives inside me.. She's the air I breath..


I daily pary to god whatever she does ahe should be happy...Always though I might be in total darkness..


God bless everyone

I don't think you've gone mad, foundsome1. It's amazing what some people would do for the people they love. I think you've done about everything you can do at this moment in time (without causing a bunch of hell). Just continue to take it day by day and maybe she will come around. Just because y'all can't be together (right now) doesn't mean that you haven't made a place in her heart. I believe that love always triumphs :-)

i hope all your hopes and dreams come true. Good luck!

Still no contact almost 3 months have gone by and iam missing her way too much. God when is your test gonna be over and you pass my with flying colors. I cant take it no more. Life without her is so dull and black.She is my life and iam waiting for her..

Hello, I think you should go on with your life. I know it hurts but you have to deal with it. Feeling depressed will not bring her back but will only destroy you. You are still young I guess, go out and make friends, enjoy life.

Its been more than 7 months and we havent talked to eachother. I guess its not gonna happen. But still i'll be true to my self and wait for her all my life.