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Q: My Hubby Just Left For Iraq Today...

asked by: BabySteph on October 1st, 2005

New User

I just sed goodbye to my hubby today at around 12pm today.. And his flight for iraq isnt sposd to leave till 9 tonite.. But I dont kno if it did.. Im having a really hard time with this rite now.. I think im about to go to the hospital cuz I cant do this.. I cant go thru this... I think im having a nervous breakdown.. Im here all alone and I dont kno anyone... I dont have anyone here to talk to or anything.. I dont kno wut the hell im sposed to do.. I cant be with out him.. Ireally cant.. I feel like id rather die then be with out him.. I kno that sounds bad.. But thats how I feel rite now.. I dont even kno wut the hell im writing in here for about all this.. But I need to talk to him now.. And he cant go.. If he goes, my life will be over.. Icant handle this at all.. Im not made out for this kinda caca.. I dont kno wut the hell to do.. Ive been trying to call the company to see if they left yet.. But they dont kno.. And I just really need to talk to him.. He cant go again.. I cant go thru this caca again.. Ive been thru it in 2003 and that was hard... But this time its even harder... Its too much for me.. I cant be away from him.. I need him rite now.. I dont kno wut to do.. Sorry for writing all this caca.. I just had to write it somewhere.. Im gonna get off here and try to get ahold of him some more.. I cant let him go.. I cant go thru this.. It hurts so doing it bad.. Its killing me.. I seriously cant do this :(
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Replies(3)

annaf2001

replied on October 3rd, 2005

New User

Re: My Hubby Just Left For Iraq Today...

I am sorry that you are having to go through this, you are not alone. I went through this last year, it wasn't the first time he has left me but it was the longest, a little over a year long. I think that was the longest year of my life. I would never wish that kind of pain on anyone, not even my worst enemy. I think I am emotionally scarred because of it. You need someone you can talk to, and confide in. My best friend and I went through this at the same time. I was having panic attacks, it was scary. But I was strong and got through it and now I am even stronger because of it. You can email me if you don't have anyone else you know that can relate. I would like to be of help to you since I have been through this too and know how hard it can be.

babysteph wrote:

i just sed goodbye to my hubby today at around 12pm today.. And his flight for iraq isnt sposd to leave till 9 tonite.. But I dont kno if it did.. Im having a really hard time with this rite now.. I think im about to go to the hospital cuz I cant do this.. I cant go thru this... I think im having a nervous breakdown.. Im here all alone and I dont kno anyone... I dont have anyone here to talk to or anything.. I dont kno wut the hell im sposed to do.. I cant be with out him.. Ireally cant.. I feel like id rather die then be with out him.. I kno that sounds bad.. But thats how I feel rite now.. I dont even kno wut the hell im writing in here for about all this.. But I need to talk to him now.. And he cant go.. If he goes, my life will be over.. Icant handle this at all.. Im not made out for this kinda health question.. I dont kno wut the hell to do.. Ive been trying to call the company to see if they left yet.. But they dont kno.. And I just really need to talk to him.. He cant go again.. I cant go thru this health question again.. Ive been thru it in 2003 and that was hard... But this time its even harder... Its too much for me.. I cant be away from him.. I need him rite now.. I dont kno wut to do.. Sorry for writing all this health question.. I just had to write it somewhere.. Im gonna get off here and try to get ahold of him some more.. I cant let him go.. I cant go thru this.. Its killing me.. I seriously cant do this :(
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vanessalouanne

replied on October 3rd, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

Girl right now more then anything he needs for you to be strong for him. I know this seems tough for you but have you thought yet of what he is going through? He needs your support and it will just make it much much harder for him to concentrate on his job over there. You need to let him know that your going to be okay and that you will be waiting for him to get home. I know its tough but it's harder for him right now and you need to realize that and make it as easy for him as possible. I think you should also seek out council. Also make sure your meds are right. If you feel at all suicidal then you need to go to the doctor asap. Be tough girl, thats what us military wives are and if you cant do it for yourself do it for him.
I'm about to go through this for the third time and you know what, he needs to be focused on his job and getting home safe, not worrying over wheater or not your going to have a mental break down.
I know that sounds tough, but I think you kind of need a slap in the face to realize that you will be okay. Life does go on.

Kansas

replied on October 3rd, 2005

Experienced User

Hey. I just went through the same thing you are right now. My husband was in iraq from december 18, 2004 to febuary of 2005. I know it really sucks. You will survive this though. I know it seems like you cant but you will. Do you have a family readiness group or support group of any kind from his unit? We had a family readiness group but it was worthless. I ended up meeting some other ladies with hubbies over there and starting a yahoo chat session every night. Sometimes we stayed up all night talking and crying. It helps to talk with others who are going through the same thing. I doubt that anyone will tell you if they have left or arrived untill some time has passed. It is for thier safety that some things are classified. I know that sucks too. I am sure as soon as your husband gets to a phone or computer he will contact you. I know that its scary. My husband went to kuwait before iraq. When he was in kuwait I didnt hardly hear from him at all because there are fewer places they can get to phones and computers there. Once he got to iraq it got better. It also depends on where in iraq he is. My husband was in bagdad. He is a commo guy. Luckily since he is commo he was at a computer all day long most everyday and we could instant message each other a lot. In the mean time I will pray for your hubby and you. Please stay strong. You can do it if I can.

Tia

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