I have been with my buyfriend for 3 years now. For the past year we have been having more and more arguments, among other things that have made our ralationship hard to bare. In the past week we have been discussing breaking up I know he doesnt want to but I am only 21 and have alot of life to live. I feel really tied down. I fel like everything is my fault and that he is slowly starting to control me. I live with him and have just stated a new job near there.
I love him soo much but the stress of living with him is becomming hard to handle. I get bad chest pains, anxiety attacks (i sufer from panic attacks and anxiety), I cannot contentrate on my work for college and am worried that it will impact my behaivour and loose the job I just gained.
I fall asleep feeling a mess of feelings and wake just the same.
I do not know what to believe any more. Friends tell me to stick it out untill the end of the eyar but I do not know if I will last that long.
I am almost 23 myself and I got married about 2 1/2 years ago. Well I thought that I would be with him for the rest of my life. He all of a sudden decided that he wanted to be single and wanted to separate for a while. Then about 1 month later he calls me over to his apt. To give me the divorce papers. What the hell! Which to me seems immature, and a irrational desion. He loved me and then one day just changes his mind.
Well we didn't live together first and now I wish we would have maybe then none of this would have happened. If you have second doubts about being with him, just take some time apart to find yourself, so that you can stop wasting yours and his time. If you love each other it will all work out in the end. I have now came to the realization that this happened for a reason and there is a better guy out there for me.
Hi my name is crystal I met my husband when I was 18. We fought off and on constantly for 13 years. Life is too short, if you are not happy and you feel it in your gut.....Listen! Listen to your body, I had to. I started having serious anxiety attacks where I would end up in the emergency room where I work. How embarassing!! You know in your heart if you are meant to stay where you are. God bless and good luck crystal